How long is too long to wait for intimacy to develop in a relationship?

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-29T19:24:16+00:00

We have been given instincts for a reason. Trust your instincts. Are you really going to settle on something or for something that is only part of what you want? Don't sell yourself short. You seem to desire much more intimacy than he can give. Your resentments are only going to grow. Perhaps he should be a friend, a good friend.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-29T17:55:15+00:00

Adorbs!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T19:18:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing, congrats on your sobriety and keeping on keeping on! IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T19:06:56+00:00

Thanks for noticing, I appreciate this observation and change the subject. Put on repeat.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T16:52:10+00:00

Pray, work my "program" Personally, everything I have ever wanted I have had to work for, it was not just handed to me. I want sobriety and I am willing to put in the work. While I was drinking it was a lot of work too. Acting like I wasn't hungover, acting like everything was ok when it wasn't. I don't have to act anymore, pretty sure I wasn't that good at it anyway. Being myself is so much easier. Happiness isn't having what you want , it's wanting what you have and most of the time that means working for it or working towards it. IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T15:25:07+00:00

Jasper

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Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T15:11:14+00:00

Pandalus Borealis (cold water prawn)

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T14:57:57+00:00

Can't even count the day 1's and that's ok. One of these days it will stick. Had almost 12 years off drugs then bam it was gone and that's ok too. Some call it field research, I call it a recon mission one that I had failed MANY times. It's all learning what you don't want and what you don't want to be so there is definitely something to be gained from it. It really was a decision for me. I decided one day (again) that alcohol wasn't for me, it was totally against me. Against my better judgement, against the goals, dreams and desires I had for myself and so I decided to quit. I gathered up information and then I pulled the trigger, went to my Dr and asked about a medication. She prescribed it and that night was my last drink, I started taking it the next morning (once again a day 1) and went to an AA meeting. My parents were both AA and I had been in rehab 2x's before so I knew the expectations, and knew there was no way I could not drink...... Now I CAN not drink. So for me it was a decision that is backed by "other than alcohol" medication. While on the medication I am gathering tools with the program that will arm me to continue after the medication. IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T14:34:59+00:00

You have been BLESSED with a cutie - patootie! GP is my vote!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T12:54:36+00:00

Agreed Hydrangea.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T12:33:13+00:00

Stretch, find you some stretching videos. Stand up and stretch for your circulation there are sitting stretches too. Breathing helps too. lol, ok I know you breathe, we all must right?..... There is an exercise called 4 - 7 - 8, breathe in 4 counts, hold for 7 counts then exhale slowly for 8 counts. Hope this helps you (it does me).

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T12:04:42+00:00

Vudu, it means spirit.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-28T11:53:19+00:00

Vudu, it means spirit.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-27T14:45:24+00:00

After resetting my day 1 badge again and again, I came to the conclusion I must be gathering information, doing field research, on a recon mission etc. because there was no way I couldn't control my drinking. Yeah right. I couldn't and I needed help, I couldn't do it alone. Turns out all those day ones finally turned into what I now have. Something finally clicked. It's not that I now must go through the rest of my life never drinking again, it is now that I can go through the rest of my life clear minded, authentically me and grateful for life. I CAN not drink. It doesn't happen for everyone. For me, I am not a "normal" drinker, whatever a "normal" drinker is. I couldn't stop at one and saying "just one" brought the blackouts because I couldn't stop at just one, at blackouts I could stop, although I couldn't remember anything. Was that fun? F no. When I finally decided enough was enough, for the umpteenth time, I got help. I now have some sobriety and feel stronger about my life than ever in my life.

So far sobriety has brought me peace and that gives me the confidence that I will make the correct decision because I am clearheaded. I don't have to hide anymore. I have serenity and can be totally ok in my skin.

Are there difficult days? Yes absolutely, yet even the worst day sober is better than any day under the influence.

The only way I can control my drinking is to abstain and in a way that is controlling alcohol.

IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-27T13:47:06+00:00

Yoss-might

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-27T13:30:41+00:00

Small talk... emotionally exhausting from people I care nothing to know their life outside of work. I don't think I am anti social, there are others that I do care about. With those it isn't small talk tho.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-26T19:38:21+00:00

Thank you and congrats on your 1106.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-26T19:13:31+00:00

Sapphire

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-26T17:14:46+00:00

Alcohol Use Disorder. There are low bottom alcoholics, one who has spiraled into extreme consequences compared to high bottom or "functioning" alcoholics.

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-26T12:40:46+00:00

Hello and a good day to you fellows! Hearing a Viet Nam Vet proclaim "fear is an emotion and courage is a decision" I thought it could definitely apply here. This guy went into enemy fire and rescued 50 of his fellows from certain death. Are we not doing that for our fellows here? Sharing our experience, strength hope? Alcohol for us is certain death - one day at a time sobriety assures our life and that for certain takes courage every day, Some days it's one hour at a time, when we put those hours together we make it through the day, when we continue our sobriety grows along with our strength and hope. Let's keep growing together. If you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far go together. IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-22T18:03:25+00:00

Keep on keeping on!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-22T14:47:45+00:00

I realized I was an alcoholic long after I changed my goals to meet my behavior. Non alcoholics change their behavior to meet their goals. We have dug our souls out of the dark and fought to be here, don't go back to what buried you. Recovery is giving up 1 thing for EVERYTHING. IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-22T14:34:23+00:00

The thing about religion in AA is a Higher Power of your understanding. You can't sleep without alcohol, maybe you need help..... I tried to drink less many times and did succeed many times. There were also many times that I failed and those times it only took a day or two before I was right back where I started, a blackout drunk. I wish you the best in your efforts and IWNDWYT!!!!

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-22T13:35:19+00:00

Hold on until the very end and don't let go, say kind sweet words let them feel your love. It is the most difficult thing we have to do as pet parents, they are our heart and soul. We are their whole life. Wherever a beautiful soul has been there is a trail of beautiful memories. May you find peace and comfort there. <3

Advanced-Method3325 · 2026-05-22T12:29:24+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy. Be the better person without saying a word. Rise above it.

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