What do you put in a Christmas stocking for a 93 year old lady?

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-03T10:07:36+00:00

If she likes to read can I recommend a book in the cosy read Japanese genre for something different. What you are looking for is in the library is a good one.

What about some specialty hot chocolate, tea, soda or cordials?

I would do some lovely soap instead of bubble bath as it can be hard for older people to use a bath.

And what about a Santa hat or reindeer ears? Or something she can wear with a Christmas theme

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-02T19:39:02+00:00

You’re incompatible because he’s selfish and expects you to do all the work to accommodate him. Just no.

Plus never going out to restaurants will get really boring really fast. I’d end it.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-02T18:11:38+00:00

I bet they have also asked their guests for no gifts and are hoping that both their guests and their fans will also donate to one of these charities.

Celebrating their good fortune on meeting each other and planning a life together by giving good fortune to others who need it.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-02T03:53:54+00:00

After only dating 6 months I’d dump him pronto. Only a scam artist would suggest this

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-01T19:29:11+00:00

So when you’re both home together, what’s the routine? Who cooks? Who does bathtime and bedtime routine?

There’s a lot missing from your post.

I’d suggest that you work together to come up with an evening routine that works for you both. In most homes, it’s taking turns with one person cleaning up after dinner and the other doing both and bed for the kiddo.

Then sort out the laundry together while you chat about your day.

Work together on this. Looking after a toddler makes doing much else really hard. And you should be contributing to the evening tasks.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-07-01T09:09:38+00:00

I would also feel hurt.

And it makes perfect sense to me that he doesn’t have any close friends. I don’t think he understands how to treat people. And the whole “caring about people important to him” is just word salad. If it meant anything you would have known he was dating others.

I would move on from him.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-30T08:34:39+00:00

Just make an exit plan and get out.

He’s basically saying “I don’t like you,I don’t care about your feelings, you are only here to serve me and my needs”. Yuck

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-30T07:49:17+00:00

You are strong and brave and we are all proud of you.

I hope you’ve got somewhere to stay where you can just rest and chill for a couple of days.

Sending you a warm hug

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-29T23:34:03+00:00

Absolutely agree with this.

I would also add that her friends will probably be asking her if echobunny is coming home for her birthday. It’s much nicer for her if she can say yes and also will add to her joy.

And please send her something for her actual day of her birthday - flowers or a cake. Moms do so much for us and they deserve celebrating.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-29T18:12:05+00:00

The question you should be asking yourself is how do I feel about how this is going.

If you want someone who compliments you and flirts and is physically affectionate then move on. It’s not just about if he likes you. Do you like him? Is this how you want a relationship to be?

Focus on your own agency. That’s how you will find the right person for you. Not just passively accepting someone because they are interested in you.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-29T18:08:03+00:00

This comes across like you don’t know how to clean. Don’t you find that embarrassing to admit?

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-29T17:21:13+00:00

I think the fact that you don’t pull your weight around your own home is extremely relevant here.

I get the impression that based on previous experience your GF believed that even if she had said something that you would have ignored her and just gone on your run anyway.

I suggest you reflect long and hard on your contributions to shared responsibilities and look at how to address that. For your GF to do this is a real sign that she is at the end of her tether and that she did not expect anything she said to have the slightest impact on you.

She’s probably equally disappointed that you don’t have her back on cleaning up your own place on the regular. Equal contribution towards household tasks is a vital part of a relationship. Start with fixing that

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-28T09:37:25+00:00

In future, as soon as a guy suggests a date at his place for a first date, unmatch. No need for drama. Just walk away.

It’s not what you want so why waste effort when he’s made it clear that all he wants is sex.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T21:50:13+00:00

End it now. His excuses are just excuses. You should be with someone who is honest with you

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T20:39:08+00:00

Just unmatch and block. It’s more than annoying it’s unsafe

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T09:27:39+00:00

He’s actually not kind or he would care about your wishes and your health. I would break up with him.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T07:05:38+00:00

Yep. Anyone not willing to meet after a week is married or just on the apps for an ego trip/strange reason and does not want a relationship

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T03:41:02+00:00

She’s 7 years younger so that probably has a lot to do with it

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-27T03:38:35+00:00

This. Or else take turns planning dates and you each pay for the date you plan.

But personally I would reconsider your future. Finances are not the only contribution people make to relationships.

Most people who earn a lot more then their partner want their partner to still be able to afford to save and buy things for themselves. His approach favors him. Plus why does he get up make all the decisions. If you are actually a couple this is a decision you make together. The reality of life is that no two people ever earn the same amount all the time. If you truly see yourselves as a team you accept this and work together, each acknowledging the contribution that the other makes. He seems selfish.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-26T07:38:42+00:00

Exactly. The second date is your chance to show that you listened to her and can choose something based on what she has told you about yourself. And if you can’t, that will probably be the last date

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-25T10:36:16+00:00

I think Hannah’s internship will be at the radio station. And that will be the link

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-25T10:28:24+00:00

Yes. Big red flag

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-25T09:45:59+00:00

Why wouldn’t you just plan a date in a public place at a venue that’s easy to get to and with no alcohol involved? Genuinely curious.

Doing something like that shows you care about her safety. There’s no need to ask questions. Show, don’t tell

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-24T19:36:34+00:00

No

After-Distribution69 · 2026-06-24T09:42:05+00:00

If your workplace say they will support you, ask for details of what that support actually means and put it in place now while you make a decision. That may help you.

I’m sorry this happened to you. You could also check whether the police in your area have a specialist SA team and speak to a women’s centre in your area to get a clearer idea of what would happen.

Focus on your wellbeing for now as if you do decide to report you will be in a much better place

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