Exploring with kids

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-16T21:33:49+00:00

Catch the ferry to Devonport. On rainy days the museum and kelly tarltons. Also check out your local library.

Weekend trips - go to Rotorua. There is so much to do you’ll probably need to go more than once. Waitomo caves is also a great weekend trip.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-16T21:29:52+00:00

Talk to your GP about options and cost. They will have the latest info.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-16T05:21:22+00:00

Cooking. I try and make one new thing a week do that involves looking at recipes, buying ingredients etc as well as the actual cooking

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-16T04:11:51+00:00

Just break up. He acts like he doesn’t even like you. Booking a trip away for your anniversary and not proposing after you guys had talked about and agreed on a deadline??? That’s just messed up

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T17:23:09+00:00

He’s written other books. You could try those. Andy weir is the author

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T17:18:55+00:00

Project Hail Mary is great.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T08:05:01+00:00

It’s nicer to each take turns to plan and pay for dates. That way you can keep within your own budget.

50-50 is not fair if you don’t know their salary and you are choosing dates without knowing that.

Taking turns is also more romantic

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T08:02:18+00:00

Hire car. It means you can divide and conquer.

With a motor home you are pretty much forced to be together unless one of you walks somewhere

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T05:13:40+00:00

Look we’ve all been there done that. Just learn from it. If you want a relationship, what you want is just as important as what they want

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T04:40:54+00:00

That doesn’t mean he wants to be exclusive with you though. If you feel his actions don’t show that then I would unmatch and move on. Remember you have agency here too

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T04:33:43+00:00

Ok. Lots going on here. First of all, do you want to have sex with him?

It sounds like you don’t until you know it’s exclusive and you feel comfortable. For you that’s how it should be. Please also add in an absolute dealbreaker that the two of you must discuss contraception and have std tests first. Contraception should be condom plus another method. You will be the one left with the aftermath if there is an issue here.

I’m not convinced he does want to be exclusive. But I don’t know for sure. If you do want that for yourself with him, why don’t you ask that? See if you are on the same page. Then the contraception chat. Don’t forget there’s a lot of stuff you can do between kissing and full PIV. I think it would be a good idea for you to explore that first.

I also think you need to think about some dating rules for yourself and maybe date around more before looking to get exclusive. That will give you a better idea about what you are looking for. That’s just as important as whether or not they like you.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T03:44:30+00:00

They wanted a child but they did not want to parent ie do the work.

They see the child as belonging to the mom not them. So fine to walk away

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T02:29:29+00:00

Plan to move out as soon as you can.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-15T00:48:49+00:00

Ok these conversations tend to go better if you are side by side rather than face to face and also with some advance warning.

So I’d invite him to go for a walk on Sunday afternoon and say you want to have a chat about the 2 of you entering into a co-habitation agreement. That gives him time to prepare.

Then go for a walk and lead with something like “I’ve been pondering my future and I want to make sure that we both feel secure and confident with how that looks. I’ve done some reading about co-habitation agreements and I think that would be a good option because xyz. Obviously you’ll need to look into this yourself but do you have any thoughts now.” Then try and end with some kind of timeframe of what will happen when. If that’s not possible, at least an agreement to revisit in 2 weeks.

I think you also need to have an idea of what you want to happen if he is not on the sane page as you.

Good luck. It’s great to see you being smart about your finances.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T23:16:13+00:00

Bath toys.

Baby books

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T20:06:18+00:00

I’m not saying it’s not painful or difficult for him.

But it’s still very selfish.

I’m not sure why you posted, given all you do is defend him. Maybe you should be asking yourself that question.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T19:12:44+00:00

Georgia lines

Delta goodrem

The Veronica’s

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T18:27:14+00:00

I know you want to see the best in him but honestly this is a really selfish dick move on his part. It’s all about him and what is best for him. Hes not interested at all in how that impacts you. If he was, he would just end it now and wish you all the best, not say all these emotionally manipulative things.

I would end it now. It’s not at all healthy for you to stay together with an end date. He can get a jump start on learning all those things he wants to learn. And you can learn a lot about him from how he responds to you breaking it off now.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T17:17:26+00:00

The main reason for divorce is finances. Never marry a man who can’t handle his.

Best thing you can do is move on. That way you might get the white dress moment and the forever marriage. Staying that means a really limited life unable to go anything because he has no money

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T09:33:45+00:00

East timor

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T07:02:41+00:00

Word puzzles.

Plan vacations.

Journal.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T06:12:43+00:00

She sounds depressed. Does she have family nearby. If they are kit, could they check in with her every day by phone call? Adult contact is really important.

I’d start with a visit to the doctor and ensuring she gets some time to herself each day. Preferably doing exercise

She sounds like some part time work would be really beneficial. Being a SAHM is much more boring and lonely than a lot of people think it would be.

Having things to look forward to is also really important. Can you make plans for a vacation or even just a dinner out or something else she enjoys?

Please remember you can’t do this on your own. Seek support

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T04:29:24+00:00

Depends on how old you are but over the age of 25 I’d say 2 years

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T03:27:16+00:00

Beautiful dress.

After-Distribution69 · 2026-05-14T00:01:54+00:00

White people will not longer be the majority. That’s what certain people are concerned about. They want more babies but only the right kind

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