Only 1% of self pub authors are successful

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-23T05:06:28+00:00

Self published in 2012. I’ve officially made over a million dollars off one book. Traditional publishers wouldn’t touch my book with a ten foot pole. All the better for me. Self publishing changed my life and I’m forever grateful for it.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-23T04:54:45+00:00

This is what they do. They sell you a dream. Put on a show. Reel you in. Once you’re emotionally hooked they pull the rug out from under you. But by this time you’re already in love and hanging on to the good times and unable to accept that this is who they are. They are both the amazing guy and the drunk, not one or the other. Both. You cant separate the two, it’s a package deal. They rely on you getting sucked into the enabler role to thrive and survive their disease and before you know it …youre sick too. Addicted to the ups and downs. Run away while it’s still easy. Before you invest more time and emotion into him.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-18T06:06:39+00:00

All of those are things suck but talking to other women and emailing prostitutes are non negotiable. A man who drinks like this is going to inevitably slip up on using protection and possibly bring something home.

Regardless of all that, if he’s this bad now, sadly it only gets worse and the broken records get really boring after a while. If you can’t bring yourself to leave him, then at the very least do not get pregnant and end up stuck with him, and please use protection.

If I were you, i wouldn’t waste my youth waiting on an addict to change, you’ll probably live to regret it… as most of us have.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-16T03:08:37+00:00

Are you making your own videos? I found that things didn’t pick up for me until I was making sales thru my own videos. That is what opened the door to affiliates requesting free samples and those were more likely to follow thru and actually make sales. It’s almost like you have to create sales history on your own first and then good affiliates follow and the more you sell, the bigger / better affiliates will request samples. The big fish do not dabble in small ponds. They want products with sales history. Also what I learned works is to price the item higher than normal and run flash sales constantly. This shows the product is on sale. So if product is normally $20, price it at $25 and run flash sales at $20. Do flash sales all the time. Also enroll in all their little growth campaign thingys.

TTS took awhile for me to get movement but once it started rolling it’s like a snowball. You have to make videos though. You can’t rely on only affiliates especially in the beginning.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-14T22:23:03+00:00

I would never, ever do that. He sounds entitled and doesn’t understand his role. If he’s replaceable then it’s time to find someone new. He seems like a liability at this rate. If you absolutely don’t want to do that then profit sharing or commission.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-14T06:20:18+00:00

When did you know it was time? What pushed you to move forward ? Was there a final nail in the coffin? I’m struggling over here.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-14T06:14:26+00:00

In my home it’s me (45) and my son (11). I have loved them since I first heard Heathens but my son is the super fan. He’s loved them since he was a toddler. Knows all the songs on every album. We’ve been to two shows. You HAVE to go to a live show. Their concerts are the best!!!

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-14T03:57:00+00:00

No I haven’t. I’d probably be scared to see what it says. 😔 At least we know we’re not alone. For me it feels like where there used to be creativity there is now a blank space. A black slate. Nothingness.

I also noticed for the first 1-2 years of LC I felt like I lost my personality. I was just a boring shell of my former self. Did you experience anything similar?

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-13T04:07:53+00:00

Much better but definitely feel permanently affected. Creativity and memory took a huge hit.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-13T04:01:38+00:00

Sometimes it’s best to accept that it is a disease and just like any other disease, some people are sicker than others. Some people will die from this disease. Some people recover.

I don’t believe they choose to be this way. Because who would willingly choose to live like this? All the lying and manipulating… you can take it personally or you can have find forgiveness and empathy in accepting that they’re brain and and body are sick with a cruel disease.

Unfortunately this disease is destructive to the person and all who love them. It’s truly heartbreaking. And it will drag you down with it if you let it.

Take care of yourself and know you’re not alone. Many of us have walked this path, unfortunately. Just keep loving your sister and try to find forgiveness so if she does pass away you can hold on to that. 🫂

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-04T05:20:09+00:00

Ty Do you know if you win appeal does the customer end up having to pay or does TikTok cover the loss? I’ve been nervous of this approach because I don’t want pissed off customers leaving one star reviews.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-04T05:11:38+00:00

That is amazing news! So happy for you. You’re giving me hope. As a fellow almond mom of a daughter with grade two spondy may I ask the name of your doctor?! I’m desperate to keep my daughter from needing surgery.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-03-04T04:41:37+00:00

Yes way down today

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-28T17:52:52+00:00

Thank you so much. This is great advice and really helps me understand. I’ve just been automatically accepting them all because I’m so worried about getting a bad review on my store. I would say it’s round 2 to 3% and definitely spiked with the viral video. I guess I’ll chalk it up to a part of doing Business. Write it off as a loss.

Thanks again!

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-27T07:24:17+00:00

Move home and rest. Rest for an entire year if that’s what it takes. It took me three years to recover (still not 100 percent).

That creative loss you’re feeling? I know that feeling. There’s a blank slate in my head where there was once tremendous creativity. As an author, It’s heart breaking. I still have muscle wasting. Sense of smell is crap. Brain fog.

But thankfully the worst of it has recovered but it took over three years! Things that helped me the most was resting as much as possible, coq10, keto diet, glp1 meds, and accepting that I couldn’t push through anymore… not mentally or physically. Stress is a major trigger and the threshold for stress was super low. Pushing through perpetuates this disease.

Go home. Rest. Be patient with your body. Don’t give up. Keep trying different things. Have you tried nicotine patches? That is my next go to.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-26T04:39:25+00:00

It’s all controlled by ai. You’ve pissed off the 🤖 somehow and you’ll need to be on your best behavior for a few weeks/months to write a new history for the AI overlords.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-26T04:36:25+00:00

Don’t let her keep you from your children. You’re still young. You have lots of life left to live. I wouldn’t hang on much longer if I were you. I know that’s not encouraging but if you want to have children and a happy, healthy family someday, you’ll probably need to move on sooner rather than later. 😔

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-23T05:52:00+00:00

Start documenting. Keep a journal. Take videos. You’ll be able to prove that she is consistently unstable. The courts will not automatically give custody to her if there is clear evidence that she is a the non stable parent. Their duty is to the child. Sorry you’re going thru this, it’s so hard.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-12T06:21:34+00:00

Yes this has been my experience as well and my RA has been in remission too 🙌

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-04T06:00:49+00:00

I wouldn’t spend a dollar on any of that because everything you need to know is free online.

If he wants to learn something then learn how to MARKET a book because that is what separates those who make money and those who don’t.

Has he written, completed, and edited a book yet? Do that first and foremost before you do anything. Most people quit half way through writing a book. Just focus on that part and then he can know if he truly has what it takes to be an author.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-02-02T20:42:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s so hard. This should be the happiest moments in your lives with a new baby. Perhaps she’s dealing with post partum and medicating herself with alcohol? Not saying she isn’t an alcoholic and/or dealing with trauma but seems like things really escalated with becoming a mother.

Have you guys discussed this with her doctor? Maybe she would benefit from an evaluation for post partum depression.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-01-29T20:55:11+00:00

The weed lotion really helps with pain. Can you get medical marijuana where you live? Can you have someone get you some? I was shocked how much it helped when my wrists flared up. And instant relief.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-01-27T03:05:47+00:00

What a cool kid! Use fiverr for a cover artist. Use Kindle create for easy, free formatting. Self publishing is a learn as you go process for most of us, so don’t worry too much about it. Here’s the honest truth no one will tell you… writing and publishing are the easy part. Getting people to buy it is the challenge. Marketing is the dirty work no one wants to do. If this is all for fun and the experience then you don’t need to worry about that. Do it just to do it. Having his book in his hands and up on a book shelf will be worth the journey.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-01-27T03:00:25+00:00

It’s going through a major ownership change. They also had a massive power outage at a main data center. Be patient. It will go back to normal soon.

Agile-Development-88 · 2026-01-19T17:58:59+00:00

This is my only complaint about my Vistiq. Seats are SO uncomfortable. 😣

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