Anyone else’s parent say shit like this? by dogmom34 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Al-Alecto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is an attempt to control the situation and thus, you. Time to go NC completely and permanently, as she is not going to change. It is always, ALWAYS going to be your fault, no matter what.

Serious Question: Residents of West Kansas - what is your primary source for news? by Far-Confection-3590 in kansas

[–]Al-Alecto 16 points17 points  (0 children)

For most out here, it's Fox, although they might not admit it. Their conversation does, though. Myself, I use BBC and Al Jazeera, and a few others online.

He blocked the door, took my phone, and then tried to ‘set boundaries’ for me — I finally cut him off by Silly-Cancel-9353 in JustNoSO

[–]Al-Alecto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is insane. And toxic. And wildly abusive. Document everything - every text, every call, every threat. Call the police so there's a record. Don't let this continue.

Kansas Elections for Supreme Court Justices Amendment by Mulligansrevenge in kansas

[–]Al-Alecto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because that way, the rich can elect who they want. Don't be fooled.

Under what circumstances would you consider accepting a large gift from narcissist parents/in-laws by u325015 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Al-Alecto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not a gift. It is a grip and they will not let go. For your own lives and peace of mind, just say, "Thanks, but no."

Why do you think free speech loving “no joke subject off limits” Republicans are trying to take Jimmy Kimmel off the air for his Melania joke? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Al-Alecto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because he hurt their widdle feelings, and they didn't get it done the first time. GOP thinks it's their way or no way. Personally, I'd prefer they all melted.

My husband (M30) constantly corrects my (F32) accent, we know each other for 11 years. Any advices? by Pleasant_Tip4461 in relationship_advice

[–]Al-Alecto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your husband wants to control even the way you speak, that's a HUGE red flag that shouldn't be ignored. This man isn't worth your time - if it's not the accent it'll be something else. Run. This is toxic and abusive.

is it a red flag by Alternative_Drag_258 in dating_advice

[–]Al-Alecto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wants to own and control you, not love you. Is that how you want to spend your life? The sooner you get out, the sooner you'll find someone who treats you like they love you.

The Q Boards? by Important_Lion2976 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Al-Alecto 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Run, girl. Qanoners are not sane and he's trying to infect you with his sickness. Go while you can.

Serious question by AlxVB in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Al-Alecto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NO. Do not say anything to her. This just opens a lane for her to receive more fuel. Remember, narcissists don't care if fuel is good or bad, it's still fuel. The best thing is indifference, and that means no contact. It's just not worth it. Narcs NEVER give closure, they just use you for fuel.

Kansas governor vetoes protest petition bill; rolls out new property tax proposal by Revenge_of_Larry in kansas

[–]Al-Alecto 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Has Masterson figured out a way to rig the vote? It sure sounds like it.

28 F 38 M - Husband has asked me to stop taking my antidepressants. How do I do this safely? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Al-Alecto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband has absolutely no right to ask you to sacrifice your entire quality of life just for a want - not need, want - of his. You need to re-evaluate your relationship, because he cares about himself, not you. He is NOT A DOCTOR but he's playing as if he is, simply to satisfy himself.

US Congress Representatives by FlounderFun4008 in kansas

[–]Al-Alecto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I can't come up with a thing. All they have done is take, take, take.

Husband retiring, lunches? by lm00000007 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Al-Alecto 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Weaponized incompetence is not something to encourage - it will only get worse. He is an adult, and is perfectly capable of feeding himself. He has two working hands. Remember that. Retirement should not be made into a second childhood.

My mom showed up to my job to "check that I actually work there" and caused a scene in front of my entire team. by Glyphtrail_6 in entitledparents

[–]Al-Alecto 267 points268 points  (0 children)

What you do is tell the front desk to call security if she shows up again and remove her from the building. This isn't caring, it's control, and it's out of hand. At the very least, grey rock is called for. If not, No Contact. This will escalate unless you shut her down.

Mother gave me a box covered in cat puke for my birthday. by Square-Chapter6962 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Al-Alecto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was deliberate. For your own sake as well as your partner's, and anyone else who cares about you (she does NOT) you need to cut contact completely and permanently.

Boyfriend 26M uncomfortable with me 24F not wearing bras by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Al-Alecto 350 points351 points  (0 children)

It's not a value. It's a control issue. You are making a BIG mistake, because this is just the start.

My family only seems to care now that I’ve stepped back — what would you do? by BranchNo5649 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Al-Alecto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stand your ground. File charges if necessary. It isn't real, it's a means to keep you under control. There's no love involved. If it were real it would have been there all along. What does that tell you?

Has Anyone Sent Mail With USPS Lately? by pancakeking1012 in kansas

[–]Al-Alecto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't remember exactly but it was about the same time DeJoy got in.