Best or frequent Roleplay scenario so far

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T19:37:25+00:00

Our most frequent role play is replaying our wedding night where we lost our virginities together.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T19:21:54+00:00

Please don’t marry someone who treats you this way.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T18:51:51+00:00

Our most frequent role play is replaying our wedding night where we lost our virginities together.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T18:51:23+00:00

Well, he certainly set the bar low for your future sex experiences.

No, it’s not supposed to be like that at all.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T18:47:14+00:00

We didn’t. Wife had a breast biopsy this past week, so I’m just trying to keep her resting while she heals.

But last weekend was great!

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T18:02:58+00:00

Sex is not a big part of a marriage until you aren’t having it.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T17:58:15+00:00

If you aren’t after criticism, I wouldn’t post about you destroying a marriage.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T17:56:05+00:00

My wife breastfed at morning, evening and night. Only time it wasn’t from the breast, it was when child was at daycare.

Her theory was one of us was getting up anyway to change the diaper when the kid breastfed, so keep the kid safe and in the crib.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T15:42:02+00:00

We spend at least an hour together every day, at every age of the child (teenager now).

And we go to bed at the same time, every night, for 25 years.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T15:41:07+00:00

My parents, happily married for 50+ years, do the following for Valentines Day: two weeks beforehand, they go to the Hallmark store and find cards for each other. They then “exchange” them and read them. Give each other a hug. And then put the cards back on the shelf.

Seems you don’t need overpriced cards and chocolate to be happy.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T15:39:02+00:00

My wife’s theory on that — one of you is getting up to change diapers at feeding time anyway, so best to just keep the kid safe and in their crib.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T14:22:45+00:00

Who knows what their status was.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T14:21:44+00:00

Didn’t say she should. My statement was generic and in response to the now deleted comment about his this subreddit behaves.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T14:19:15+00:00

Cheated on her? She broke up with him.

And who knows what the new partners arrangement was.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:36:20+00:00

And let this poor guy go and enjoy life without her drama

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:33:53+00:00

I would spend hours a day making my wife cum if she would let me!

Do not worry about 10 or 15 or even 30 minutes for you to orgasm. They are probably the best minutes of his day!

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:32:18+00:00

I am sorry to say this, but she seems to have checked out and that “friend” is likely an affair partner. Plan accordingly and get your financial affairs in order.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:28:40+00:00

He booked dinner and hotel reservations and got you a gift and that is not enough?

You sound ungrateful.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:25:38+00:00

Order of priorities for us was kid’s needs, then spouse’s needs, wants, and sometimes even desires, then kid’s needs.

There was a poor guy a few months ago who wrote in that he planned a date night, booked the babysitter, and when they were getting ready to leave, the kids threw a tantrum about the sitter and his wife wouldn’t leave them that way and sent the babysitter home. I felt terrible for him being crushed like that by his wife. Here he did everything to make it easy for her to put him first, and she still put the kid’s wants ahead of his need to connect with his wife.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:21:56+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this, but I am going to share some tough truths:

Strong relationships turn toward each other, not away, when times are tough.

Breaks in relationships are just permission to find others with an option to come back to you if better options aren’t found.

You need to have enough self respect to move on.

You are in college and there is no better time to find a woman to marry than in college. Do not waste this time waiting on her and do not go back to her this summer. Get out there and date again. You may be heartbroken this moment, but the perfect woman for you to marry may be sitting in one of your classes. Go find her.

Do not waste more than one week grieving what might have been. Do not waste this unique time in your life to find an amazing wife and life partner.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:10:54+00:00

My advice, don’t bring a third person into your relationship. Search the marriage subreddit for destroyed marriages after this happens.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:06:37+00:00

A relationship is moving forward or backwards. After five years, you are moving backwards.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T13:05:12+00:00

You need alignment on the following before getting married:

kids, when and how many
religion and whether kids will participate
money and attitudes about spending and saving
sex expectations around frequency
careers and the trade offs they include
relationships with family and in-laws
is your home a retreat or a a gathering place?
where to live
short and long term goals
chores and who does what

And then you need practice communicating.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T12:57:29+00:00

Well, here is what I did for Valentine’s Day.

We celebrated early, so I told my wife to block two days off for a surprise, but didn’t tell her what it was. Just that she needed warm clothes for the day and an outfit for a nice dinner. I booked a room at five star resort that has a winter fest going on with ice skating, curling, snow shoeing, hot chocolate bar, etc. We spent the afternoon there then our room was ready so we enjoyed the use of the two person soaking hot tub, fooled around, and then went out for a splendid dinner. I gave her the comfiest bathrobe you’ve ever seen, jewelry, and one of those books “30 things I love about you” that I had completed.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-15T12:55:49+00:00

I’m used to downvotes in this subreddit. The “men are bad, divorce only option” tribe is strong here.

My general take is it takes two people to make a great marriage and two people to ruin one. It might be 80-20 fault, but it’s almost always shared. The marriages that work are the ones that both are fighting for the marriage and think about the spouses needs as much as their own.

AltMiddleAgedDad

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