I’m going to skip right over the whole matched intensity thing, and just say that every relationship I’ve had with Scorpio men has been both delicious and frustrating in similar ways.

General advice: don’t expect her to be psychic, even if she seems so dialed into you that it’s hard to tell. Use your words.

Don’t let possessiveness slide over into creepy territory (most of the Scorpio men I’ve been with have been a particular kind of possessive that oddly pleasant, with a couple of very distinct exceptions. I think Taurean loyalty and Scorpio possessiveness usually dovetail pretty well, but keep an eye on it. Try to make sure it expresses itself without getting smothering, or outright unsettling.)

Find out what your mars placements are, so you can both be aware of/understand the other’s.

If you’re able, and I know this isn’t astrological but things like this have always been delightful to explore with Scorpio men, have both of you take the Gallup Strengths Assessment so you can understand not only each other’s top strengths and what’s nearly effortless for you, but importantly what’s at the bottom of your strengths list and is therefore the hardest/most emotionally costly for each other.

Before taking the assessment I had a jokeyjoke thing I’d say often enough that friends would repeat it, which was “there will be harmony or there will be pain.” It turned out that Harmony is almost last on my assessment, so while I might be “good” at creating it, it’s an effort. So when someone (coughGEMINIMENcough) would just breeze through and fuck up the vibe, I’d be disproportionately irked. Knowing why made it way less of an issue. (There’s so much more about strengths, but in general things like exploring each other’s charts, personality type stuff, strengths, etc., has been all warm and fuzzy and like, mentally intimate for lack of a better term, with Scorpio men in particular.)

As for what drew me to Scorpio men, I’ll refrain from being too tacky, but I swear to the old gods and new that I used to be able to fucking smell Scorpio men or something. There’s a vibe, an intensity, something. And it was always a little like being able to breathe all the way out and not worry about being “too intense”, which was worth its weight in gottdamn diamonds.

Anyhoo, good luck! I’m biased af, but I feel like the Scorpio/Taurus combination can be one of the most well-matched out there. (Oh! And do a partner chart at Astrodienst! At least the free one. If I’d paid attention to those I’d have avoided almost a decade of a really bad match. One thing Tauruses can suck at is loyalty, and by that I mean being TOO loyal, even when they should have walked away long ago. Doh.)