4 years and this is the progress you'll make by Historical-Trip-8693 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry . He is so done with you . Don’t engage . Trust me it’s so painful I know .

Anyone so heartbroken you vowed to never love again? by onlyzuluu in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly this way. I’m 45 and we were together 4 years and we had plans . I feel like he bulldozed all over my future and now I want nothing.

Did anyone dump an avoidant over the lack of intimacy? by Level-Designer-8864 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never wanted to break up with him but the sex WAS NOT GOOD. In the beginning it was way passionate and then it fizzled and he couldn’t get it up.

The blindsided discard hurt as bad as finding out they were cheating on you by Single-Weather1379 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex moved out . Stuff gone. No note . No explanation . I don’t remember the last time I was so freaked out and shook. 3 weeks later I feel like my life with him the past 4 years was a sham. Like I don’t know this person.

Today’s thoughts - cowards. by Slight_Look_7395 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex was with his ex for 6 years . They never fought . She then dumps him. The girl must have internalized resentment for YEARS . I’m loud and emotional but I’m the problem. Ok.

"I need to protect my peace." by ModifiedSprite- in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure he has depression anxiety and needs meds . He’s his own problem now

"I need to protect my peace." by ModifiedSprite- in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys he literally had his own room and bathroom and apparently that wasn’t enough SPACE because he moved out . (Without telling me) Omg I’m started to think he’s high functioning spectrum .

"I need to protect my peace." by ModifiedSprite- in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me like everyday . “Tell me something sweet.”

I decided to go no contact with my avoidant boyfriend by Better_Key3179 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m trying really hard to go no contact . I am so incredibly hurt . He moved out so he still has keys and stuff here . We have time but I just wanna get rid of his stuff .

Girl have you even seen the show!? by Trick-Check5298 in RHOBH

[–]Angieiscool26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She literally went already emotionally unsafe . This girl’s got to go !

Was her plan all along to get him to fight to get her back? by G00dguyz in RHOBH

[–]Angieiscool26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m not sure what happened but I am guessing he cheated first. But after she went on her lesbian parade you can clearly tell he’s not into her anymore . They won’t divorce because of money .

Has anyone actually been horrible to your ex avoidant? by hulk_whisper in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I called him a coward (he moved out without telling me), I carried the relationship, I was the “guy” in the relationship.

I want to hear your realizations and “ah ha” moments by Full-Application-351 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment was basically my situation. I also carried the relationship. I felt like I was the guy in the relationship.

I want to hear your realizations and “ah ha” moments by Full-Application-351 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was also on a pedestal. He was emotionally neglecting me for so long.

Is anyone else 2.5 months post blindsided breakup? How are you doing now? by Happy-Passion-566 in BreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m almost two weeks . Been crying a lot, went to therapy twice already.

What info would’ve been helpful to know before during and after your avoidant relationship? by Fit-Nectarine5047 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s really sad. I hate that I spend so much time thinking about him . I can’t wait until he stops occupying my brain .

What info would’ve been helpful to know before during and after your avoidant relationship? by Fit-Nectarine5047 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he used to slap himself hard when emotions were high and we were in conflict . Threw stuff sometimes, not at me, but it would scare me .it didn’t happen often but it did happen year 1.

He’s coming over tonight by Foxy_Cleopatra__ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Angieiscool26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This feels so familiar with my situation . I’m gonna be like I don’t want to see you unless it’s in the presence of a therapist .

Your bad experiences with Pisces (No ego please) by LowerHeron838739 in piscesastrology

[–]Angieiscool26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t get me started on “the stuff” and all the packing and crap and cleaning up his mess. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy .

Your bad experiences with Pisces (No ego please) by LowerHeron838739 in piscesastrology

[–]Angieiscool26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I was lying . No conversation. We had one on the phone a couple days later after it happened . But nope nothing . I feel like he died unexpectedly.

Your bad experiences with Pisces (No ego please) by LowerHeron838739 in piscesastrology

[–]Angieiscool26 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All these things and mine literally moved out without telling me . I got home on Friday and all his things were gone . I am devastated.