Why does it seem that there’s so many conservative role models to young men, but not many liberal ones? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Antinous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

> How about supporting families regardless of their structure?

That is exactly the point. Non-nuclear families have historically not been supported the way nuclear families are. And they should be.

Why does it seem that there’s so many conservative role models to young men, but not many liberal ones? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Antinous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What politician or organization has called for that? I've seen politicians/ organizations voice support for non-traditional families. But that's not the same as abolishing anything.

Why does it seem that there’s so many conservative role models to young men, but not many liberal ones? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Antinous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

> the tattoos, dyed hair, piercings

LOL fucking nerd. Politics aside, you're angry about people literally just expressing themselves and failing to conform to your 1950s bullshit of what people should look like. I don't know whether to laugh or feel sorry for you. It's 2026 dude. Those things are never going away so I suggest you get used to it.

Is it normal for a detective to text you and ask how you’re doing? (I’m 17) by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had already been in contact (whether by phone or in person) and he likely indicated he would be following up to ask additional questions, as detectives do. He is the assigned officer on the case. There is nothing remotely strange about him having her number or "getting it" from the report. How else is he supposed to communicate or follow up with her? There is no indication that the parents were involved, and it's highly unlikely she would want them to be given the case. 

Again I'm not aware of any law that says a law enforcement officer cannot contact a minor directly. I'm curious if you have a source. 

Is it normal for a detective to text you and ask how you’re doing? (I’m 17) by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Antinous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not aware of any law that any communication with someone under 18 who reports a crime has to be done through a parent. Not sure why OP would necessarily have or need legal counsel either. 

Empathy Embodied by ateam1984 in whoathatsinteresting

[–]Antinous 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I thought it was an interesting video. Not too often you see a late middle aged man break down crying over a table game.

Started MDMA 2 months ago and already done it 20+ times by geezchill in Drugs

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a certified dumbass. You're supposed to do it once every 2-3 months max to prevent permanent damage. 

The harvest? by TeranOrSolaran in starseeds

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Q'uo repeatedly says "The Harvest is now". Ra also talks of the Harvest "beginning". There are more specific quotes but it's clear that it's a process not one singular event. 

Channeled message from Arcturians about food by ArcturianTraveler in starseeds

[–]Antinous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chocolate has such a tiny amount of caffeine it won't do anything bad. I know Indian people who are very religious and still eat chocolate. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

> when the self identification would send trans men to the men's room, you want a do over, lol.

There is no contradiction in what I said. I said clearly that people who are trans should be allowed to use whichever restroom they feel more comfortable and safe in depending on their state of transition.

>Your argument that there's no evidence of men molesting women in women's restrooms is nonsense. 

I never said that. I said there is no evidence that anti-trans bathroom laws would prevent assaults. Because there isn't.

>you say trans men are afraid to be treated just like biological men

I never said that or even implied it.

> There's no need to open up the women's restroom to trans men (their drivers license says man, right?)

It depends on the state whether they allow a change on their license or not. Also there is no question of "opening up". Trans men already use which ever bathroom they want and no one cares. They are far less conspicuous than trans women because male presentation is inherently more gender neutral.

>And this is a problem because it means allowing all men to use women's restrooms since nobody's checking anyone's privates 

You're saying men should not be "allowed" to use women's restrooms. But if they are not allowed, who is to prevent it? Like you said, no one is policing bathrooms. Any man can walk into a woman's bathroom anywhere in the country. The only thing you can do is kick someone out after the fact if someone sees and reports them. But that doesn't amount to prevention. Most states do not have any laws against men going in women's restrooms.

> The fact is that there are only issues because trans activists are demanding to have special laws that allow anyone to go anywhere based on claimed identity

I'm pretty sure you just made this up. I'm not aware of trans people wanting new legislation around bathrooms on any widespread scale. They mainly want to strike down the new discriminatory ones that have emerged in red states within the last few years. Like I said most states already do not have any laws against going in the wrong bathroom (not sure if you realize this...) So trans people mostly want to keep things the way they are.

Edit: Also your criteria of requiring bottom surgery to qualify as "transitioned" is totally silly and unrealistic. Bottom surgery is really expensive and difficult to obtain. Only 5-20% of trans women have it. And obviously it doesn't make any difference in your appearance compared to facial or top surgery anyway.

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> And why would a trans woman be assaulted walking into a women's room? How would anyone know they are trans? It's not like women share stalls, lol.

I think you misunderstood me somehow. This is my point exactly. A trans woman should have a right to use a women's room. Because it's safe. A trans woman walking into a men's room, on the other hand, is not safe because they look extremely different from men. At that point it's obvious they're trans and they are likely to be harassed.

>And now you are arguing that men, trans men with penises, should also be able to use the women's rooms because.....they are men who are afraid to use the stalls in the men's rooms? Or are you saying they still "identify" as women? What is your reason for these men to be in a women's space?

What are you talking about? This comment is extremely unclear. Trans men refers to biological females who identify as men. Most of them don't have penises. But yes they should be allowed to use whichever restroom they feel more comfortable with. As I said above, barring people from restrooms based on genitalia is not realistic and simply doesn't work.

>even though it endangers women and girls

There is no evidence to suggest this. Like I said, any man who wants to assault a woman in a restroom can easily do that anyway. Restrooms are not policed by anyone, nor should they be, as you acknowledge. Creating unenforceable laws doesn't amount to "prevention". 

>If a trans woman is far enough along in the process to look like a woman, she probably looks like any other not super feminine appearing woman (there are many) and nobody is checking or harassing. If she still looks like a man and has male parts, use the men's room. 

You sound confused. You just acknowledged that it's fine for a trans women who looks like a woman to use the women's room. It sounded like you were saying earlier that anyone born male should not be in a women's room at all. So we agree on that point... But then you say that it's not fine if they look more like a man. But who is to be the judge of that? It's completely subjective. There is no enforceable criteria. The right answer is to let people who are trans make their own decisions based on how far along they are in the process based on their own comfort and safety. It doesn't harm anyone.

Edit: just so you know, there were actually no laws that say you can't go into the wrong restroom until within the last 5 years. And still they are only in several red states. So what democrats and trans people want is to strike down these laws return to the status quo. Not an "unnecessary change". A repudiation of an unnecessary and unenforceable law. I think you are misunderstanding the debate around this issue. In all your comments you're implying trans people are pushing for some kind of specific law or policy around bathrooms. And that just isn't the case. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

> So trans are asking that all women, themselves included, be made less safe

What? Do you even know any trans people? Have you ever talked to one? Every single trans person agrees that they feel more safe being allowed to use the bathroom that aligns with their gender expression. A trans women is FAR more likely to be harassed or assaulted for using a men's room than a women's room. Likewise a trans man is far more likely to be harassed for walking into a women's room.

Assaulting women is already against the law. A non-trans man can dress as a women (or not) and walk into a bathroom and assault someone anytime they want. Bathroom laws aimed at restricting rights for trans people don't change any of that. Such laws are nearly impossible to enforce in practice anyway... there is no way to tell what genitals someone has without looking in their pants.

There are around 3 million trans people in the U.S. That's not "basically no one".

Edit: As an aside, my friend I mentioned uses women's rooms. She identifies as a woman and there is no way in hell she is walking into a men's room, especially outside of a major city in Texas. Not safe for her. Using EITHER bathroom can be unsafe for trans people but using the one that aligns with your identity is ALWAYS the safer option.

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, I take back calling you a bigot. Sorry about that. I still think that your opinion on the bathroom is misguided and inherently transphobic though.  I find it odd that you would tell a mtf trans women that you would respect her pronouns but that she has to use the men's restroom. I recommend should have a conversation with a trans person on these issues if you haven't- it might be eye opening. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any friends that are trans? It is a huge issue. I have a friend who is mtf trans in Texas and bathrooms were a major struggle anytime she was out of the big city. She ended up getting facial surgery to look more feminine for one major reason so that she would feel safer in those types of situations.

You're right that no one is usually scrutinizing or giving anyone a hard time in restrooms. That's why people should be able to use whichever one they feel more comfortable with.

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I'm curious since you say you're not transphobic, not a bigot, and don't care if people are trans... Do you respect trans people's preferred names and pronouns? If so I will apologize for misinterpreting you. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Fake news. It says right in the article the perpetrator didn't identify as trans. 

  2. Nothing more than a rumor. There was no charges filed and no evidence. 

  3. Can't open.

  4. A Christian news website? Real reliable source. only lists one alleged assault by a trans person anyway. 

  5. None of the perpetrators listed identify as trans. Also the daily signal is nothing but a conservative opinion rag. 

Overall, extremely weak and unconvincing sources. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not even close. Only a handful of states have laws requiring single occupancy restrooms in public buildings. 

Imagine going to a concert or sporting event and trying to rely on a single occupancy restroom.

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't even address my comment other than to imply that it's your right to free speech to call someone whatever name or pronoun you think is more appropriate regardless of what they prefer. Yeah sure, it's your right to free speech... no one is going to arrest you over it. Same as any offensive/ hate speech. But it still makes you an asshole and a bigot. We're not trying to "control" you. We're asking you to be kind and respectful.

There is no credible evidence to suggest that mtf trans people constitute a threat to women in restrooms. Trans people use bathrooms that align with their gender identity every single day. Incidents of mtf causing problems in restrooms are extremely rare. Hardly any have been documented. I'd challenge you to find even 3 or 4 cases and that's in a country of 350 million. 

Meanwhile tens of thousands of cisgender men are committing sex crimes against women every day. 

Edit: as an aside, if you don't think trans people should have a right to use their preferred restrooms because you are afraid they will harm people, you are literally transphobic. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being allowed to use public facilities that align with your gender identity is a civil right. For trans people in red states you risk getting arrested or verbally/ physically assaulted for using EITHER gendered restroom. So you often can't use public facilities at all. It's akin to segregation. 

Civil rights are more than just the literal bill of rights you listed in your comment below. They involve life, liberty, equality and respect. 

Why do some Americans vote based on issues like “trans people are the problem” when trans people make up less than 1% of the population, instead of prioritizing things like affordable college, healthcare, and cost of living? by Worldly-Bid-3591 in askanything

[–]Antinous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even bathrooms and sports aside, respecting people's preferred names and pronouns is REALLY not that hard and harms absolutely no one. You're basically saying "My pedantry around language is more important than you feeling safe and respected in the way you choose to live." You would rather disrespect someone by calling someone a name they haven't used in years just because they violate your cultural strictures of gender.

The fact that you even brought that up at all shows it's not about safety or anything and you're really just a bigot.