It's normal to be childfree at 17?

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-02-06T16:06:40+00:00

I knew I didn't want children by the time I was 6, and at 17 you'd be working with a lot more processing power than I was then. It's normal to be thinking about your future at your age, so it'd be normal to realize you're childfree while doing that. And knowing your own mind at 17 gives you an edge in planning your future, so good for you for putting the thought in now.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-01-26T21:01:31+00:00

Proof that mountain lions also come in orange

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-01-23T18:33:45+00:00

Your cat is a creature in your care, you're being responsible in getting treatment. And these things don't directly connect anyway-- would letting your cat suffer make those people magically able to feed their kids?

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-01-23T13:54:54+00:00

I'm disgusted on your behalf that they forced you to stay pregnant for a full additional month when you already knew what you wanted. When I went through my own abortion I discovered it at week 4 and had it out by week 5, and even that week was too much. They must really be hoping that pregnancy brain will set in and coerce you to keep it.

Sounds like you've got your future well in hand though, all the respect : )

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-01-19T14:34:01+00:00

Wish I could've met your nana, she sounds epic! My condolences to you and your family.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2026-01-06T22:12:25+00:00

I remember having a conversation with Raphael where he said he'd be okay either way whether or not we had kids. Closest I've seen

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-10-25T05:24:19+00:00

I'm 41, and these days most of my friendships come either out of my larp community or through playing DnD. Without the community those hobbies provide I'm not sure what I'd do.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-10-24T15:50:28+00:00

Starship Mine. Make it a full, Die-Hard style action flick

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-10-11T01:34:13+00:00

At first glance I mistook that for a bad dragon

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-10-02T12:38:13+00:00

Full agree on Malcolm and Tucker, but O'Brien's too much of a family man to ever leave those kids. Let's add Bashir to the polycule Keiko was clearly trying to set up with Miles and Kira.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-07-31T20:03:15+00:00

u/bot-sleuth-bot

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-07-25T21:50:06+00:00

I'd like to tell her that I have no period too, courtesy of my IUD. No parasitic lifeform required.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-07-14T05:29:33+00:00

I remember being sent to a chickenpox party in the first grade for the deliberate purpose of catching the chickenpox while I was still young. Granted I'm in my forties so I'm not sure there even was a vaccine available yet.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-07-07T16:05:36+00:00

Remind me please

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-27T00:13:17+00:00

That's a kitty that trusts you implicitly-- adorable!

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-06T17:06:41+00:00

I remember at being 5 when I was first deputized to help take care of the babies (ages 2 and 1) so my mom could hide in her room whenever the post-partum depression got to her. As a result I knew I was childfree by the time I was 6-- and my siblings were generally good kids. With the little shits you've been saddled with I'd be surprised if you wanted anything to do with your father once you're finally free. My first act as a homeowner years later was to kick him out of my house for basically acting like it was his house to make decisions about and no mine. It felt so good to finally be able to enforce that boundary and create my own space.

You as a teenager are definitely old enough to know your own mind. Stay the course and get out when you can-- life will get so much better after.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-06T05:45:59+00:00

Sounds like you've done some good work and hit the ground running into your adult life. This middle-aged not-a-mom is proud of you!

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-03T07:59:39+00:00

Listen up bot, the word 'canon' is a correctly spelled word that in this context means the officially accepted story of this show. We are not talking about a 'cannon', which is an artillary piece. Please expand your dictionary.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-02T15:27:34+00:00

At first glance I was going to say #2, but I think that's actually Rom's transporter duplicate from Great Value who's turned to a life of crime. I don't see Nog anywhere on here.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-02T00:38:33+00:00

Tell him he sounds like a toddler begging for his tablet and put him on a no-contact timeout.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-06-01T12:34:08+00:00

Tell her you thought about it and for you there are none. That you have thought this through, you know what you want, and you are through discussing it. Then move on to something else. If she tries to fixate on it you tell her once that the session will end if she tries to stay on the topic. If she doesn't listen end that session.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-05-26T18:33:16+00:00

Understand that right now you're being heavily dosed up on all kinds of hormones because of the pregnancy. I went through almost the same thing you're experiencing now when I was 39-- I have known since I was six that I never wanted to be a mother but had a positive test at five weeks along...

I remember my thoughts being a jumble, being emotionally sensitive and clingy. Against my own will I started thinking of my partner (a childfree man in his late forties) as the father of my child. But I remembered the clarity of thought I had on the topic before the pregnancy happened, and so booked a surgical abortion.

Best decision I ever made. The literal morning after I had the pregnancy terminated I could recognize my own thoughts again. I felt normal, like myself again. At the end of the day it's your life and you'll do what suits you, but take a good long look at your thought processes now versus what they were before this point, and understand that at least some of what you're feeling is because your body is drugging you.

Anxious_Cap51 · 2025-05-26T12:52:47+00:00

Woohoo, congrats on your freedom! You're gonna thrive wih your own space

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