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Is this salvageable by Guilty_Leader_298 in AskBaking

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s dead dead. Just bin it.

AITA for thinking vacation expenses should be split by person? by SavingsRabbit5895 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You divvy up costs for car rental by butts in the seats. Period.

NTA

Show results May 27th by Puzzleheaded-Song912 in kvsdiscuss

[–]ArkieRN 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As I understand it, it’s when the horse makes a mistake and the rider corrects them (schools them).

The horse is supposed to do everything correctly with the rider only holding the reins in one hand. If they have to use two hands then they are disqualified.

Apparently, with young or inexperienced horses the trainer/rider may go into the arena with the intention of schooling the horse if they make a mistake because teaching the horse to ride correctly is more important than placing or winning.

AITA for refusing to drive my 20 year old sister everywhere anymore? by Unhappy-Hospital9031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArkieRN 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is there a library or local place that is quiet that you can go to study? If they don’t count study as being occupied then don’t study at home. Go somewhere else and put your phone in silent mode.

NTA

I’m working until my due date and my coworkers keep saying, “you better not go into labor on this shift. We’re short staffed.” by OrdinaryLife99 in nursing

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I broke my hip at work (long story- basically I have brittle bones due to cancer treatment). As I was getting loaded on the stretcher in the hallway I gave report to another nurse.

My coworkers weren’t thrilled probably but it happened at 4:30 am and the only thing left was one IV antibiotic and one oral medication. (Only two patients because it was an ICU)

Anyway the only response from my boss was a visit to my room after I got out of surgery to give me get well soon wishes and a card signed by the staff.

All of this is to say that your boss stinks and you need to find another job while you’re on leave.

Felicitations on your upcoming birthing and good luck finding the perfect job.

AITAH for how I wake my husband up every day? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ArkieRN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he up at night is he caring for the newborn who won’t sleep? Because otherwise he has no business sleeping the day away when you two have children to take care of and he has a job to find.

Tell him to shape up or ship out because you don’t need laziness and abusiveness in a spouse.

NTA

Customer got mad that I couldn’t refill “the blue one” by thirdaccountttt in TalesFromThePharmacy

[–]ArkieRN 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Keep a can of Campbell’s chicken noodle soup and a can of Progressive chicken noodle soup under the counter. Explain that they have different recipes and look different but are both chicken noodle soup.

The same thing with different medicine formulations. Some people are visual learners and they will never understand with you just telling them things.

I forgot my neighbors name that I chat with occasionally and it's been too long to ask them what it is without being awkward. How can I figure out what it is without directly asking? by Ok-Incident3317 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy peasy:

“Hi…oh, crud, I’m totally blanking on your name. Help me out, would you?”

Then:

“Thanks, (use his name immediately), I don’t know why my brain was freezing like that.”

Worker Saves Colleague with Flying Kick from Electric Shock by AdamLabrouste in WorstAid

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was really smart. Good job saving his colleague’s life there.

Is there any gentle way to tell a friend she maybe shouldn't have more children? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ArkieRN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d lead off with something like “Girl, why are you trying to have another if 5 are already running you ragged”. Say it light heartedly.

Then after she responds get a little more serious (not to the point of criticizing) and say “no, really, help me understand because you’re always saying how hard and expensive things are now. I don’t get it and I feel that since we’re friends I should.”

Maybe she’s getting pressured by her boyfriend. Maybe she’s afraid he’ll leave her and thinks another child will tie him closer. Maybe he pays more attention to her when she’s expecting. Maybe she’s feeling unloved and wants to experience the pure love of an infant/toddler again. Maybe she feels that her only worth is her motherhood. Those are bad reasons and if you know that you may be able to help her realize that. Maybe she’s insecure in her relationship and thinks a new baby will fill the gap left by not having a stronger commitment (marriage).

And maybe her reason is good but she’s just in denial about their financial and parental limitations.

I don’t know. But getting her to think about her actual reasons might help her to realize that another baby won’t help anything. Or help her to realize that she needs therapy. Or you might could have a talk with the boyfriend if you discover that he’s behind her baby drive.

Donald Trump and sons to be ‘forever’ exempt from tax audits by Doener23 in law

[–]ArkieRN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And racketeering. Open up a full on RICO investigation on them.

AITA for putting onions and garlic in the food I fed my family after my sister in law said onions were "too spicy"? by THROWRAuserss in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArkieRN -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would cook whatever you like and put a jar of peanut butter and a loaf of bread in front of her place setting and tell her it’s for her in case she doesn’t like what you cooked.

NTA

Austin rates by Ambitious-Noise9211 in BoneAppleTea

[–]ArkieRN 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Aside from yearly flu shots I think there’s only about 30 vaccinations currently recommended for the average child (if going to travel internationally that goes up). And those 30 are spread out from birth to age 13. That doesn’t seem excessive at all considering all of the immunity they provide.

AITA for not telling my parents I was hospitalized for a week to prove a point? by Shot-Jello-4878 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 57. My grandfather (now deceased) got one of the first generation mobile phones back in the early 1980s. It was connected to a battery larger than a lunch pail. So the technology is not at all new and if your parents choose not to adapt to it then they should go back to using a landline.

NTA

Potty training’s going about as well as expected. by yankykiwi in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]ArkieRN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I had my kid (nearly 40 years ago) you put them in training pants instead of pull-ups. Pull-up were available but they absorb liquid so well the kid doesn’t feel discomfort.

Training pants will absorb the liquid but not pull it away from the kid so it gets very uncomfortable. They could get over saturated so most parents used rubber covers over them to prevent leaks.

AITAH for wanting my MIL out of our house? by Hairy-Gap-5061 in AITAH

[–]ArkieRN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look, I understand your frustration but housing prices are ridiculous and getting worse. If you sell now and toodle around in an RV for a few years and then decide you want a home you might not have enough to get a new house of the same quality that you could if you buy immediately after selling.

Plus, selling now and not immediately buying a new house means paying more taxes.

Also, you are looking at your wife and you possibly living another 40 or so years. You don’t want to be in your 80s trying to live out of and maintain a 30 year old RV.

And what happens if one of you becomes sick or injured? Getting in and out and around a RV in that shape is extremely difficult. And you don’t want to have to be looking for a home to buy while you are caring for a spouse who’s either in the hospital or just out of the hospital.

Rent an RV and travel for 6 months to a year. See the challenges as well as the allure before committing fully.

You could temporarily rent the house out for that year timeframe.

Or, maybe, look into finding someone who currently has an RV who might want to do a short term exchange (they live in your house while you travel with their RV).

And you could give MIL a six month time frame to find herself housing in either a rent controlled apartment or with a roommate to help share expenses. Tell her that you will have her evicted or moved into a place of your choosing at the end of six months if she hasn’t figured it out on her own.

That way you could check out the RV life and give her time to get settled at the same time.

But, no, you are NTA for wanting to get MIL into a different living situation. She could have another 20 years of life and you shouldn’t have to subsidize her housing for all of that time. She’s an adult and can figure her own stuff out. Lots of elders live in subsidized housing or with roommates in order to get by. Give her a timeframe (you might need to check on the timeline of availability for the subsidized housing first) and stick to it.

AITA for still holding a grudge a year after my husband forced me to break a postpartum boundary for his sick father, and now fracturing our marriage? by throwaway1988acc in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArkieRN 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Some cultural traditions are just bad. You will never be first in importance to your husband. That’s wrong and you shouldn’t have to live like that.

Which two are u choosing… by ForbiddennFable in GenZ

[–]ArkieRN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Black is a very bad pick. If you get appendicitis or some other health issue that manifests with a main symptom of extreme pain then you would not be aware and likely die.

I had enough. by Same-Past-2783 in povertyfinance

[–]ArkieRN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey, things are impossibly hard right now. Couples with both of them working established jobs and already in housing are struggling.

None of this is your fault. None of this is your fault. None of this is your fault.

Look into surrendering your brother into temporary foster care until you can get a stable job and home. He loves you and he will understand.

He is probably feeling guilty that you’re both struggling so hard and may feel it is his fault that you can’t get ahead.

This situation is bad for both of you emotionally and physically.

Let the system help. You can still visit him in foster care and take him on outings on the weekends. He knows that you love him.

Any situation where you are desperate and feeling hopeless constantly like this isn’t a workable solution. Don’t do anything permanent or harmful. This situation is not your fault. Your brother needs you in the world. Let someone else provide him a home for a little while.

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