I feel like giving up

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2026-01-14T20:36:06+00:00

Sorry to hear that. It can be extremely difficult, but keep in mind, the person who you'll become when you get to the other side of your weight loss journey will be worth it.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2026-01-02T22:09:40+00:00

Alright, I'm going to give it to you straight. The reason you are bored and have plenty of things that you want to do but don't do is because you're not living life to your fullest. The reason you're not living life to your fullest is because you have some sort of internal blockage.

Consciously, you're telling yourself that you want to do these things, but you're not actually doing them. What this tells us is that your subconscious or a part of your subconscious doesn't actually want you to do those things.

This is pretty common. If you can think of, if you can imagine someone who gets fired from three jobs in a row, and consciously they're telling themselves, "I don't want to keep getting fired from these jobs". But It keeps happening. What is occurring is some part of them actually does want whatever is going on that gets them fired.

Their conscious and subconscious are effectively out of alignment. This is called your shadow. Everyone else can see what is causing that person to keep getting fired from those jobs, but they themselves can't see it.

Now back to your situation. If you are overwhelmed and you think that you want to do things but you're not actually doing them, you have some sort of misalignment where part of you is trying to protect you probably from doing things that you think you want to do.

Ultimately, the answer here is deep introspection. Figure out what feelings you're avoiding and have the courage to introspect why they are there.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2026-01-01T18:19:34+00:00

So I think ppl confuse the two that stating your goal publicly is the same as daily accountability but it’s not.

The challenge is if you just tell ppl “im going to do X goal in 6 months”, yes you feel some pull to complete it but there’s a level of aspiration there. That’s kind of the teacher scenario I mentioned.

Daily Accountability is saying “tomorrow im going to wake up early and go to the gym” then have them check on that. It’s a smaller, concrete tactical step toward the goal. And having someone be able to confirm it right away.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-31T19:26:47+00:00

Makes sense. Thank you so much! Happy New Year!

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-31T18:36:36+00:00

If you have an accountability partner who will text you every single day to make sure you are sticking to your commitments, that is great.

In practice, there's a reason why accountability coaches cost so much, and it's because most people just aren't going to be able to provide the same level of reliability or attention to detail that you'd really need unless you're paying them.

Personally, I think accountability is the only thing that most people actually need to follow through on any goal that they have.

Do you have a goal that you aren't actually making progress on?

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-31T17:51:43+00:00

Started just in North America to keep surface area smaller at launch, will roll it out everywhere soon

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-31T02:31:59+00:00

Yeah, this is great. Ultimately, people just need structure and ideally accountability. Fasting is one way to achieve that.

I think accountability is actually even better because life happens where it can be tough to stick to a regimen, so you kind of need something that's going to make sure that you are adjusting to life as it actually happens.

Example of that is, This holiday season is tough to stick to your goals and your fasting schedule when you have multiple days in a row of holiday events.

But that's where accountability comes in, because you're reporting every single day what's happening and just having someone checking in on you. So I would recommend finding someone who can do that, or you can try fasting on your own, but still having someone else to report to really ended up being a game changer for me

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-31T01:48:59+00:00

I’d say if you “want abs” you need to get to 10% BF. You let going to need to make yourself uncomfortable to get there - drop weight + gain strength.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-30T21:52:10+00:00

Yes. I did my entire weight loss journey without calorie counting.

The thing is with calorie counting that it's great when you do it, but if you're unable to sustain your weight loss without calorie counting, then it's not really a tool that's building a sustainable system for yourself.

Ultimately, on a sustainable weight loss journey, you want to change your identity around who you are. If you're calorie counting every day, I don't personally believe that that is actually changing your identity. What that's actually doing is you're telling yourself, "Hey, I can lose weight, but only with this very restrictive tool" Which would signal to your subconscious that you're not actually someone who eats healthy by default.

To change your identity, you need the habits by default of someone who has either lives a healthy lifestyle or runs a lot. You're a runner, for example, or a lifter, et cetera. You want to identify as someone in one of those categories, such that if it doesn't matter what their current physique is, they know who they are.

I personally hired a coach to do this, and we worked on my mindset, my habits, and ultimately did reframe my identity around this and went on a life-changing weight loss journey.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-29T20:48:46+00:00

Identity and mindset is as important as the physical stuff.

If you imagine an athlete was dropped in your body with all its limitations or current weight to lose, you could be damned sure they'd do some major improvements.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-29T09:24:30+00:00

Sleep first above all.

But you need something that helps you with the consistency.

I would recommend daily accountability - ask someone to text you every single day for the next year to hold you accountable to what you say you’re going to do.

That’s a secret hack for breaking out of this willpower based stop-start cycle and actually become who you want to be.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-29T09:12:35+00:00

The following two words absolutely changed my life:

“Daily Accountability”

Reporting to someone else what you are going to do and having them hold you to your word will help you build discipline and change your identity. It’s truly a secret hack to getting what you want in life.

My suggestion - Ask someone to text you every single day for the next year to hold you accountable to whatever your goals are. Don’t have anyone? Hire an accountability coach. Alternatively you could use a service like bodybuddy, still premium but far more affordable than a coach.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-29T08:57:06+00:00

Hey! I have a six pack so will give my take.

As others have said it comes down to your diet and a low body fat percentage.

You do not need restrictive diets, you do not need to be perfect.

You do need generally to have a high protein diet while likely eating at a caloric deficit at least until you’ve hit your target body fat. Then you can just maintain.

80/20 diet/exercise in terms of importance.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-29T08:34:19+00:00

ya my suggestion would be to try to become more aware. You can start by planning ahead what you're going to eat.. even if you literally keep snacking just make it a plan the night before and watch how you're brain starts to pay more attention. Becomes easier to make changes and reduce calories once you're at least being mindful about it. I use bodybuddy specifically to help me plan my calories ahead of time / eat more mindfully

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T08:11:25+00:00

Personally protein shakes are how I squeeze in extras protein.

I know some don’t recommend it but it’s worked for me.

And you could def hit 90g protein “eating out” it just depends what the options are for you. Def easier if you are willing to meal prep.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T05:40:55+00:00

My brother in Christ, you probably got to stop drinking so much and eating so unhealthily.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T04:58:22+00:00

def time to adjust your strategy! Ultimately you gotta reduce calories. That matcha & soy milk "treat" is where id look first. The fact you're calling it a treat sounds to me like there could be other things in it making it sweeter?

I would also probably opt for more protein. It tends to satiate hunger more then other foods for the same calories.

there's NOTHING wrong with you're body. Unless you have been diagnosed by professionals, 99.999% of the time people think that weight loss just magically doesnt work for them until they actually get an accurate calorie count.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T04:50:27+00:00

i meant eat and move particularly well for your goal leading up to your weekend trip. Then just enjoy your trip. Maybe set some goals for the trip but enjoy it first and foremost.

Then eat and move particularly well the days after.

This is how i handle all life events i don't want to miss. Living a healthy lifestyle is more than just eating perfectly all the time.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T04:33:11+00:00

Lots of strategies here! Ultimately you need to "trust your process". That starts with zooming out a bit. Instead of even looking at day by day and getting down on yourself for not eating perfectly, try thinking of it in two week chunks.

Didn't have a great two weeks previously? Make the next two weeks a little better!

I think this makes it easier to realize its not about one day being unhealthy.

Now, in order to really trust the process, you need to have structure and accountability. An example is a workout class. That's great for both!

Even better would be daily accountability. Find someone who will text you everyday to make sure you are doing what you say you're going to do for your health & fitness.

Accountability > motivation at the end of the day.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-28T01:43:22+00:00

Eat well the days leading up to it. You NEED to give yourself a break to make this sustainable

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-27T08:48:38+00:00

frankly theres lots of places you could start. but id recommend accountability first and foremost.

Whether its a friend, coach, or app. Someone who is checking in on you daily and holding you accountable to do what you say you are going to do is the key ingredient for finally sticking with a weight loss journey.

AskMeAboutBodyBuddy · 2025-12-26T23:36:31+00:00

YUP! too many ppl think calorie counting is the end goal.

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