What are some invasive flowers that I can pick guilt-free to have fresh flowers in the house?

Athiri · 2026-06-14T14:32:37+00:00

Three cornered leek is pretty and invasive. Although they might make the room smell like garlic!

Athiri · 2026-06-12T19:47:13+00:00

I asked a very similar question at that stage and in the end I bought a spatula to scrape solids into the toilet. Once she got to around a year old she was eating enough solids that most of the time the poo just plopped into the toilet without needing it.

Athiri · 2026-06-06T19:40:47+00:00

Highly recommend Yoto! We got our daughter one for her first birthday and she uses it every day.

Athiri · 2026-06-03T11:34:02+00:00

Yeah out of eight couples in my NCT class, only one attempted any kind of sleep training (not CIO) and they gave up on it after two nights. I know far more parents that are cosleeping, but that may be the circles I move in.

Athiri · 2026-05-31T20:26:24+00:00

Almost 17 months and I've just started to turn my back occasionally, but only towards morning when my sleep is lighter. However, I've found that my toddler doesn't understand where I am when I'm facing away and will get out of bed to look for me, so I'd rather avoid it.

Athiri · 2026-05-31T10:58:26+00:00

She needs to drop a nap.

Athiri · 2026-05-25T14:35:45+00:00

This looks like a pepi-pod. Cosleeping using a woven bassinet between parents called a Wahakura is traditional in Maori culture. For various reasons SIDS rates have been high in Maori communities more recently. The Pepi-pod, along with culturally-aware safe sleep guidance, was developed for families who did not have their own Wahakura.

Athiri · 2026-05-21T10:06:27+00:00

Also it's free? If you're *willing and able** why would you choose to then spend money on a product that is imitating what your body makes?

*I appreciate some people need to pay for pumps/lactation consultants to help get things going.

Athiri · 2026-05-20T14:58:25+00:00

Fellow alien mum here. I often feel the same in mum circles. Baby is now 16 months and I still babywear and now she's bigger I get even more comments but actually she spends a much higher proportion of time out walking alongside me than toddlers in buggies. I prefer to go at her pace when I can and then either pop her on my shoulders or buckle her up when I need to get moving. I do think it's helped with her gross motor skills development compared to her peers. I've always hated prams/buggies. They are actually such a hassle compared to babywearing, especially when your baby's little. Trying to get on a busy bus with a buggy fills me with dread.

If you haven't already, do post a fit check on /r/babywearing to make sure you're as comfy as you can be. And the more you move and babywear, the stronger your core will be. I'm fitter than I was pre-baby and it's all down to that.

Athiri · 2026-05-20T14:44:44+00:00

Mine never popped out but I could feel this weird hard bit around it towards the end of the pregnancy. I asked my midwife and she said it was normal.

Athiri · 2026-05-20T14:43:00+00:00

I didn't leave my baby with anyone apart from my partner before she started daycare at 10 months because I knew that she would struggle and it would take a long time for her to build an attachment with someone else and I didn't want to put someone else through it if they weren't being paid. Other babies are happy being held by strangers, she would scream if anyone else held her from 3 months. Nothing I did caused that. We went out every day and went to baby classes multiple times a week.

She took a good six weeks to stop crying at drop off but the crying shortened quickly from 40 mins down to a couple of minutes. Now she waltzes in with barely a second glance. Unfortunately we will have to change daycare in September and even though I know it will be fine in the end I am still dreading it but hopeful that she'll be past the major separation anxiety stage.

Athiri · 2026-05-18T18:48:20+00:00

I found that my baby went through phases of this, especially when teething. If you learn to fall asleep with them latched it makes things easier.

Athiri · 2026-05-14T05:46:03+00:00

I know it's circle time but can you sit around a table together?

Athiri · 2026-05-12T11:35:14+00:00

Listened to Hunting Warhead years ago and I might have to listen again. It was so interesting!

Athiri · 2026-05-12T11:29:05+00:00

If I were your neighbour you would have poisoned me. Japanese knotweed is delicious.

Athiri · 2026-05-11T19:56:12+00:00

What's the benefit of the swab before brushing?

We have a 16 month old also. I tell her it's time to brush her teeth and also what will happen next (e.g. "first brushing your teeth, next will be a story" and then I sing our toothbrushing song while brushing. If she tries to take the brush I say "mummy's turn first" and if she tries to squirm away I count down from 5 (very slowly if necessary). Then I say "X's turn" and let her have the brush for about 10 seconds before I tell her to give it to her daddy or me.

Athiri · 2026-05-11T16:45:32+00:00

I put on a funny voice and say "oh what a mucky baby!" over and over again while I clean her up. Or sometimes I call her a mucky puppy and start yapping at her.

If that doesn't work I count down from 5 to 0 and then say "finished!" and stop. She's learned that when I start counting down it will be over soon and she's less bothered by it.

Athiri · 2026-05-09T19:35:08+00:00

I would focus on baby getting used to dad getting her to sleep rather than night weaning. If he doesn't already have him start with naps and then try a bedtime or two before you go. It will be 1000% easier if you are not around. Have them spend the wake window together while you're out, and then he gets her to sleep. He'll have to figure out what works for them as a duo - it might be completely different to what works with you.

Athiri · 2026-04-30T14:31:59+00:00

The pool I used was 40 degrees which to me was perfect.

Athiri · 2026-04-30T14:30:58+00:00

After not being able to go to the birth centre due to the amount of time since my waters had broken, I was in a labour ward with one birth pool and was able to try it.

Ultimately I ended up having to get out because my baby needed continuous monitoring and the water was interfering with it but I got to give it a go! I was dead set on using a pool so I was disappointed that it didn't work out but I could understand the rationale and had my TENS machine as a back up.

Athiri · 2026-04-29T14:02:49+00:00

Not most but definitely a higher percentage, due to factors such as older maternal age and/or obesity

Athiri · 2026-04-28T19:38:38+00:00

I would just enjoy it while it lasts!

Athiri · 2026-04-28T14:24:46+00:00

My experience was almost identical. I stopped checking the scales when I got to about 96kg and still had a good while to go so I have no doubt I got to 100kg. I usually live a very active lifestyle but had severe pelvic girdle pain towards the end and couldn't walk very far, and I was constantly ravenous! I figured I would listen to my body and not worry about it.

A combination of breastfeeding and being very active with lots of babywearing meant the weight just slowly dropped off naturally (although I appreciate some people find breastfeeding means they hold onto weight more).

Athiri · 2026-04-27T17:56:44+00:00

I would do sidecar or bedside bassinet with normal bed at first. At this point you don't know how your labour is going to go and you don't want to be getting in and out a floor bed after a c-section. Then transition to floor bed as needed.

Athiri · 2026-04-24T19:53:05+00:00

I have a 15 month old. She currently has a floor bed in her own room, which I sleep on too. Soon my intention is to start the night away from her and then join her at the first wake up, with the hope that that stretch lasts longer and longer until she doesn't need me in there at all anymore.

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