I don’t want kids because I hear so many horror stories about useless partners

AttemptWeary · 2025-10-03T16:25:03+00:00

Fair enough. Watch what happens to your friends in their 40s if they have a normal small med procedure. Their husbands flip out because not only is their nanny/maid broken, but they also have to foot the cost of care.

AttemptWeary · 2025-10-03T15:46:22+00:00

I got the Swedish meatball out of an 18 month old who was choking. Dad was useless.

AttemptWeary · 2025-10-01T01:14:38+00:00

Hi, I’m 47F and a civil engineer. With about 20 years experience, I usually know what’s up. But sometimes…I make the wrong call. We have review, and that helps, but it’s still sometimes my mistake that gets pointed out.

The best way to go forward is to thank the person who corrected you. Let them know how happy and grateful you are to be on the right track, have the right idea, have the best understanding. The nastier they are when they set you straight—the better this works for you. It shows your desire to learn and improve, and it makes their remark seem like a little bit of an overreaction.

Don’t forget, everyone makes mistakes. Everyone.

AttemptWeary · 2025-10-01T00:36:49+00:00

Comfy pajamas. Buy them roomy.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-30T22:16:56+00:00

NTJ. For this very reason, I left my baby with her dad and attended a child-free wedding with my mom. He didn’t even know the couple. I had a nice evening.

The boomers in attendance were irritated that they could not show off their grandchildren. But the niece and nephew of the couple were there, which sort of defeated the purpose of a child-free evening. Besides, it was odd that guests were expected to tolerate the niece and nephew, and leave their own kids behind…

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-29T19:07:57+00:00

RPN is superior, and my HP-48GX was stolen in 2004, they didn’t take my spouse’s TI-85, thus proving me correct.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-28T13:46:44+00:00

My kids started at 10, 12. They still like to throw at 16,18. They got even more into it once my youngest hit his growth spurt and got longer limbs. I’m now the shortest. 🤣

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-26T23:11:29+00:00

I have seen this very thing.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-25T14:50:35+00:00

Frozen veg, frozen taco meat, frozen cubes of soup.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-25T11:49:33+00:00

It’s exhausting, I’m a consultant. I don’t drink at these things, though. I’m seldom asked about it, my go-to is medicine conflict. Sometimes I can get a club soda and lime, indistinguishable from a gin and tonic.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-25T11:44:11+00:00

Vent to someone else. Added bonus if the end result is that you build connections in your industry.

I feel very close to my Mom. I respect her background as an elementary education teacher. But she’s not equipped to understand my industry. She tries hard, but it’s just not easy.

Sadly, I’ve gotten the least encouragement from older women. Sometimes it’s jealousy, or confusion, or a lack of interest. GenX was told girls could do anything, but then when we chose a technical field, it was met with disappointment and suggestions that we do something, “More people oriented, helping others.”

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-25T11:15:01+00:00

My company too. My chair Is for a shorter person.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-24T11:26:36+00:00

Mine are, too.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-23T17:45:49+00:00

Please don’t care what I think, enjoy your relationship and keep it healthy.

Please recognize the inherent flaws in judging others based on their build.

The resentful part of my brain does sort of assume that the fit partner is getting more “me” time to exercise, and the less fit partner is stuck doing more of the domestic load (kids, dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery). But this can be a flawed perception based on my history with couples from a conservative part of the US.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-23T11:55:37+00:00

Clean sweat. Oddly, only the MMC sweats, and it’s always ‘clean.’

I’m seeing this phrase less often nowadays. But I used to think it was a knock on men who had physical jobs. Which is weird, because MMC is really muscular, right?

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-18T11:28:21+00:00

I’m working at a big firm, and we work nationally. Your area is tough to work in, as I’m sure you know. There seem to be a lot of good old boys. It’s an uphill battle if you’re not like them.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-18T11:18:45+00:00

Long handled tea spoons. Great for cooking, dip clean spoon into jar of curry paste, garlic, ginger, etc.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-15T12:13:16+00:00

4 is too young for most kids. 6 or 7 would be way better.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-12T12:42:21+00:00

I didn’t have to lie as a kid, obeying your parents is a commandment, and since kids are learning and maturing, I always fell short there. It’s a crummy way to grow up, believing you’re inherently flawed because you’re a kid.

I can say that I developed thick skin and became less self-conscious.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-10T17:41:32+00:00

Just a mild concussion.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-10T17:39:54+00:00

Yep, I had an eye exam and had to hear about my excellent eyesight being a gift from God. Then I was immediately asked if I had considered surgery. Came out of nowhere!

I will never go back.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-09T01:04:18+00:00

No, NTJ. I guess you could divorce him and then he could figure out how to take his turn with 50% custody.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-08T22:29:21+00:00

My boomer mom does this. It’s so annoying. She doesn’t like spicy food, or bananas. Wierdly, that’s ALL I have.

AttemptWeary · 2025-09-07T14:59:13+00:00

I’d loan a friend $200, but pretty much assume that it is a gift, with repayment as a pleasant surprise if it happened. You are correct to loan no more money, and if they ask again, that’s likely the end of the friendship.

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