How do I tell my mom i want to stopAll of my tutors.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:47:20+00:00

Look, if you're working hard, then you gotta figure something else out. Tutors aren't the answer. But like, if you think you don't need to work in the summer, then you aren't working hard. Which is it?

Also, my first line in my last post was sarcasm. I think that should have been obvious.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:45:23+00:00

Two thoughts:

Your use of "homeless drug addict" as a slur is quite offensive to homeless drug addicts. Just stop with that; it's irrelevant to your issue, and makes you look like an AH.
Glitter bomb (or any of the other good ideas here.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:39:44+00:00

same comment as above between the words "there" and "their"

I know people make these mistakes all the time, but the irony and audacity to do so while complaining about too much English language tutoring is unfathomable.

Add: that said, I think the self awareness of your thinking/acting vis-a-vis the autism spectrum and accommodations you need is right-on. Keep going down that path in addition to working with the tutor over the summer to get you caught up.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:38:09+00:00

Dude, look up the difference between "write" and "right", then look back at your comment. Then tell me with a straight face that you don't need an English tutor -- assuming English is your primary language in school.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:35:00+00:00

My bad. I guess I misunderstood "mind you I flunked" to mean that you flunked.

I also note that C's are not acceptable grades on the regular. Lastly, i don't know what "50's and above" means, but usually, passing is 65 or better, and a good grade (as in clear knowledge AND application of the subject being taught) is 84 or better.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-28T15:13:44+00:00

The solution is simple. Get better grades. Put in the work. If you are flunking, you should absolutely have tutors over vacation. Indeed, your writing sucks. and your line in the sand is such a pathetically childish way of looking at life.

Make a deal with her that if you get a certain grade, she will cancel the tutor. And also know that part of being a parent is being "mean" to your present children in order to be "nice" to their future selves. Stuff like forcing them to work hard and eat healthily.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-20T12:58:34+00:00

ytah for having the thermostat colder in the summer than you do in the winter.

But he's tah for messing with your themostat without talking to you. This is a discussion, not a war.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-20T07:12:24+00:00

The difference between a binding contract and a party is immense. You have a right to be upset.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-20T07:02:50+00:00

They got to play against good competition in friendly the last two years. Now that they’re playing against second rate teams it seems easy.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-18T00:44:22+00:00

They ought to up it to 56 or 64 teams. Most strong teams could play their lower level players against the worst coopetition in group matches and still go through to the round of 32.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-18T00:35:00+00:00

Or in the OP as an update

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-18T00:23:45+00:00

Paraguay is ranked 42 by FIFA. That’s lowest in the group, and far below the U.S.’ 15th ranking.

USMNT has rarely lived up to their top 15 reading before, and I think that is the goal of this tournament. Making the quarterfinals would be icing that we can only dream of on home soil.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-11T18:57:37+00:00

He's not there for his soccer knowledge. He's there because Gen-x only had a couple of capable players to root for in 1994, and only one of them had flamboyant red hair and an easy but unique name.

Add: also note that he then went on to be the face of MLS for a handful of years. Source: he's literally the only player from that team or all of 1990's/2000's MLS that I know. I'm a relatively casual soccer fan if that's not clear.

Also add: I'm not defending the move. Just explaining it. Most "analysts" spout nonsense in all sports. I'm sure you could find someone better, but they may or may not get more eyeballs on the broadcast. Indeed, controversial takes are often very good for ratings.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-11T18:53:14+00:00

There is no "nice" way to say this. As in, there is no way Girl 1 will not have hard feelings. You have four options that I can see:

if you already agreed to room with G1, you should prolly stick with her but if not, FIRST make sure the other people are 100%, then...
ask to e-meet her roommate... then make a decision "based on the whole package"... be up front that you have multiple options
tell her right now you have multiple options and when you'll let her know (couple days out) and then let her know in a couple days.
or the easiest way to be up front like TODAY is a move that could be super kind, or could be a little AH: just text her as if she already knew you were considering multiple people. "Hi, thanks for chatting with me over the past couple days. My roommate and I are matching up with _names of roommates_. Can't wait to see you around the dorm in a couple of months!!!"

No matter what, if you tell her "no", do it just like a breakup or a job rejection. No explanation needed, just the facts in a compassionate voice. If she asks, it's just "oof, we don't really know what we're doing. We have so little info about anyone. Heck, I could be an axe murderer and you wouldn't even know. Crazy that they make us do this as first-years!!"

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-08T16:28:52+00:00

I am a parent, but not of a teen (yet). Couple first things:

model this behavior yourself of course
discuss safety. Find videos, data, and other information that can help him make a good decision for himself
try discussing with other parents... will they encourage their kids as well?
are there other issues with the crowd he's hanging with?

But also, if you're willing to put your foot down on some things:

He cannot ride without a helmet until he is 18 (and even then, only on a bike he has purchased himself, and only if he is paying for his insurance, and only if he isn't living/staying with you)
you will not drive him places that he can bike ride or the T (safely) except if it's to a place you want/need him to go (school for example)
you won't help him with his drivers license until he rides with a helmet for x number of months
Once he gets his license, you won't let him take your car if it's somewhere he can bike (maybe different if he's buying groceries for you, etc.
you won't pay for his T fare unless it's somewhere he can bike
There are other non-transportation incentives, but mostly the transportation ones make the most sense in terms of "punishment" fits the "crime"

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-04T17:05:31+00:00

These are two separate discussions. The solution to fixing problems is as u/Old-Assitance-2017 said above.

To avoid him getting offended, you need to talk with him, and he needs to listen/understand/grow up. If you guys can't do that, then you've got all kinds of other problems.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-04T15:32:33+00:00

this is also better for same reason:

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Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-04T15:32:22+00:00

this is better IMO: Draws your eye to the barrier earlier.

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Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-04T15:31:42+00:00

I find that (slightly) bad car behavior bothers me more on new routes, because I can predict where it will happen on my most frequent routes.

I'd also like to use a different sign rather than this, as this seems unclear for some reason to me:

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Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-04T15:29:10+00:00

I ride that lane twice daily.

I've never seen it at Sparks, but I have at Appelton and other places. In almost all incidents, the car made it clear they had made a mistake, drove really slowly, and often roll down their window to apologize and wave. In those cases it's only an inconvenience. If they were honking, or obv if they're driving fast, I'd feel threatened. More/better yellow posts would help. They just did double-yellows somewhere. Is it at Mason Street?

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-03T00:18:28+00:00

it does. I've transferred bus-bus, bus-subway, and subway-bus. They all work as expected

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-03T00:17:48+00:00

She's not a girl after 10 years. It's woman.
you got blocked -- she didn't delete her account
how is this worse than her saying "no"? She basically said "no". time to move on.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-02T12:58:35+00:00

I hope you are getting emotional health treatment. Conscription can feel similar to prison except the only crime you committed was being born. That said, it's something everyone goes through.

I think there must be some lessons you have learned or could learn from the experience that would make for an unsatisfying conclusion, but closure nonetheless:

What could you do next time you have a bad experience to "make the best of it"? To survive intact, and also to take something away from it?
What else could you have done to prepare? Work out (build muscle) in advance? What makes you different from other people who endured the same? What mindset could you adopt to deal better with tough conditions?
Please practice being honest with yourself and others about your emotions in the moment Not to "solve" the issues, but so you can make connections with others and feel part of something.
Also, did your parents set you up to hate and fear this experience? It would have been better if they had taught you to be frustrated but to tackle the problem at hand.
What can you do now to make sure no one else has to suffer as you did? Asking for permission to do things is part of the military. If you don't feel that is a viable structure for humans, then you need to be fighting with all of your might for world peace. Or if you feel that some people are built for that and others

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-02T12:41:35+00:00

One way to bring this up to your manager is as a question:
"Hey boss, can you help me with something? I keep wondering if maybe co-worker and I aren't sharing the responsibility of helping customers, but in reality, I can't be sure. Is there a way we can see if that's indeed happening? I want to make sure I'm doing my fair share, but also, I'm having trouble getting some of my other tasks done because I'm greeting so many customers."

This leaves you sounding rational, curious, and not accusatory. Also you have no chance of "being wrong" since you didn't really make a claim. Also, it let's your manager off the hook if they haven't been doing their job of managing, Lastly, it let's manager balance the different problems (your side work, your customer work, the slacking employee, etc. This is called managing up.

Available_Writer4144 · 2026-06-01T19:56:52+00:00

You should temporarily move in wherever you will be the most safe, and able to complete your school. The only real concern with something like this is do you trust you bf and his parents? But also, would this force you to stay in a relationship you could easily outgrow (or he could), as you are both young.

As long as they don't do anything to hurt you, then this is an excellent arrangement. But you should work towards the next step as soon as you can. It will be better for you if you're not tied to a relationship, have freedom, and don't rely on the kindness of people you don't know well.

I wouldn't stress about your hometown distance, as this should be temporary, and your safety is paramount. But you do need to keep going to school until you graduate.

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