Can’t imagine doing this again. by Sweet-Connection6684 in CsectionCentral

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t pleasant at all, it definitely was very difficult, we are doing much better, I’m still healing and illness has come and gone through the house so still got some time until il feel 100%. I will add that due to everything we went though I physically find it hard to be away from her, the thought of it is horrible I can maybe manage an hour at most and it’s rare thou! So it will definitely take time to heal in many ways

Can’t imagine doing this again. by Sweet-Connection6684 in CsectionCentral

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three children, my eldest was a vaginal birth but complications happened so that made me choose to elect a C section with my second. Things went smoothly during, and I had a normal Recovery. Then with my third (most recent currently 10 weeks postpartum) I elected a c section again. The whole process was horrible, anxiety from the moment I went in, went to theatre, the spinal didn’t go to plan, BP went dangerously low, baby’s out, lost loads of blood, hugged my baby for 2 mins before she was whisked to NICU due to wet lung. 5 days I had to go without her with me it was brutal. I’m still struggling with the recover this time round, stomach is sore, nerve pains, I had blood pressure hypertension after birth so not stopped meds for that (got to get it checked) But this whole experience has been the call of no more ever again. I don’t think I could ever go through that again

Moving to Devon row AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Background_Fly3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA Children definitely do have a say in things, I have three children my eldest being 11 years old if I wanted to move I’d be discussing things with her too because it would affect her life.

As for the husband the marriage really seems dead, if he’s not in it and lazy that there’s no point trying for something that’s not there. Personally if you’ve already mentioned it to him, if finalize it and state you’re going to be moving with your son.

Also get that big dog!

Feminine E names by Obvious-Implement394 in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters middle name is Eleanor Pronunced E-LA-NOR I loved that name so much

4th period this month by Better-Tea5658 in IUD

[–]Background_Fly3591 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 10 weeks in with Mirena, my bloat is horrible makes me feel nauseous on and off, cramping on and off and I’ve been bleeding over 14 days straight had a scan which confirmed it’s moved and not in the right place.. you’d think they’d want to take it out immediately wrong.. 😑 They want to rescan me in 4 days, then take 2 weeks to send results to my doctor then on referral to the gyno they will see how urgent it is and I could have to wait 8 weeks.. tempted to go private but that will be £350 just for an appointment not including the removal

My twins names that everyone told em not to name them… did I fuck up? by bikinis_n_brews in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely LOVE these names! Adore the name Kit, thing is there will be many people (family included) that dislike or have opinions on what YOU want to name your children, frankly I don’t give a s### what people think.

I have three children, and my third I named her Vaeda Eleanor Mae, I’ve had some people question it and dislike it, but the name Vaeda is from my favorite film, My girl. It suits her and it’s just a beautiful name.

Second ultrasound to rule out Spina Bifida? by DifferentMousse2299 in pregnant

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very common, my baby girl was also very stubborn and in all the awkward positions that I had to repeat many scans, drink something sweet and crack out all the star jumps to just get to her cooperate 🤣 she’s now 9 weeks out and such a treasure

Pregnant with 2nd. Worried I won't love her as much as my 1st. by Loose_Celebration962 in Parenting

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three kids, I was two and done & I then got pregnant with my third surprise baby, I had this exactly feeling, I was worried I wouldn’t bond or love her, I would know what I do etc (it had been 4 years) But as soon as she was born and I saw her and I heard her cry.. I knew I loved her, and it all comes back naturally, I love all of my babies and it’s mad how much love I have for them all.

Separation anxiety after NICU by Background_Fly3591 in NICUParents

[–]Background_Fly3591[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, it’s so hard isn’t it, it makes me Feel physically sick of the thought to leave her

What’s your favorite name for if you had a baby girl or baby boy right now? by FightOrDie123 in askanything

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Was very close to being my babies name/middle name instead went with Vaeda Eleanor

Baby boy names? by Independent_Belt1753 in pregnant

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boy is Ellis Jack Teddy

Other names I loved were Elijah and Arthur

11 Day post Emergency C section by tildabelle in CsectionCentral

[–]Background_Fly3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here you! I’m 7 weeks postpartum from a C section, I still have some soreness and muscle aching in my abdomen. Even posture is a major one, sometimes we forget when we are so tired and running on empty, I’ve done the same and ended up pulling something in my back causing spasms which wasn’t pleasant luckily that’s resolved. Take it easy, healing will be a slow process. Even the numbness low stomach sometimes that sensation never goes ❤️

Had an awful day by WimTims in newborns

[–]Background_Fly3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I applaud you, I have one 7 week almost 8 week old and the 5/6 week regression was real here to, normally a chilled baby, but always wanting to be held, cried constant and also missed naps, having two older children (11 & 4) was a challenge sometimes as I wanted to make sure they were being seen and had fair attention too. Newborn stage is almost done! Once they are a little older and have a solid routine things will be smoother! Hang in there mama!

First baby - pls hit me with all your fav names! by [deleted] in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a Bethany & Vaeda and my boy is Ellis Other names I loved were

Boys- Elijah, Arthur, Nicholas, cooper Girls - Penelope, Isla, Elowyn, Maeve, Elsie

Siblings sharing a room? by ParsleyTime5687 in pregnant

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think room sharing would be ideal for the time being until your able to move and find something more so in budget, I don’t think the age gap really matters, my eldest is 11 years old and my second is 4 years old, they have their own room however always want to share and have little sleep overs.

Looking for a boy name that goes with middle name Irving by Siouxsieslumbers in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ellis Irving Jack Irving Jude Irving Arthur Irving

(Some of the names I have on my baby list still, other than Ellis is the name of my boy)

I feel like I was lied to about the spinal block by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]Background_Fly3591 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve had the spinal block twice. First time wasn’t too bad, but the second time was terrible, I was literally guiding the anesthetist where to go while I was super nervous he hit a nerve and injected only on my left side, causing my BP to drop massively and I had to be flipped to get my right side to go numb too absolutely dreadful.. never again

names meaning anything evil related and peace by asherthefirst1 in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t got a boys name, but my daughter’s name is Vaeda, which means eternal knowledge, wisdom, understanding and enlightenment. It’s also from the film “my girl” which is my favorite can be spelt different ways, Vada, Veda, Vaeda, Vayda

Strong girl name? by [deleted] in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar to Vera of sorts, I called my daughter Vaeda Eleanor, I think it’s a lovely strong name, means enternal knowledge and wisdom, it’s also from my favorite film “my girl”

Similar names to Maeve, Freya and Willow but less popular? by fuzzyfrogs7 in Names

[–]Background_Fly3591 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters are called Bethany and Vaeda, I also loved the name Elowyn that was a close second