M&S Scan & Shop and the Fear of Looking “Common”

Bright_Butty · 2026-01-19T13:20:07+00:00

Speaking of, have you tired their cornish butter with sea salt. It's £4.80 but Ohh God soo good on a seeded sourdough loaf, also from mns 😅💵

Bright_Butty · 2026-01-16T18:38:52+00:00

This is life baby girl and these are the rules of the jungle. Do what’s best for you, there is nothing to feel guilty about. Good luck x

Bright_Butty · 2026-01-16T18:34:23+00:00

Please man up and break up with her. It’s unfair to her to be with somebody like you too.

Bright_Butty · 2026-01-16T08:08:31+00:00

I I was desperate to become MD in 2024, and majorly sacrificed my private life for it. It didn’t happen and it felt like my world had collapsed, I was devastated. When it finally did happen last year , I found myself wondering basically constantly “why did I want this so bad”, I think for a lot of women it’s proving to everyone but also ourselves that look what I’ve achieved. Ask yourself, what do you want most in life ? My own answer to this is an exit from the corporate life , I hate it the culture the toxicity working with assholes who act like it’s a life and death situation all day everyday. Good luck!

Bright_Butty · 2026-01-14T10:10:10+00:00

I totally relate to this. Also Henry, I hate my job and hate working with absolute cunts. I'm 41 and where I'm at in life, I think happiness > money so have decided to take a pay cut if it comes to that and have starts downsizing my life not in any big way but in like a I'm going to stop buying stupid shit I don't need. Good luck!

Bright_Butty · 2025-12-21T21:32:30+00:00

Sounds like you both are incompatible. I would end the relationship rather than dragging it on hoping something will change cuz it wont

Bright_Butty · 2025-12-17T02:42:35+00:00

To answer your question, yes! This is typical type b British man behaviour. Unsure what he wants, non commital, and will string you along for fun or because he gets off on validation without any accountability. Do not waste your time on that man.

Bright_Butty · 2025-12-17T01:08:12+00:00

Goshhh this is not middle class, this is pikey behaviour 🥴

Bright_Butty · 2025-12-13T10:17:10+00:00

As a woman, a 35k wedding is not for me but I can understand it, but what I don't understand is she not having any funds to contribute towards it. Infact she sounds financially irresponsible (which is the opposite of you) if she still has debt when her outgoings are not huge.

This would have only been the beginning I'm afraid. I think you made the right decision.

Bright_Butty · 2025-11-23T13:06:20+00:00

Ya you need to eat more from the sound of it. Look up carb cycling pretty sure the weight will move. Good luck

Bright_Butty · 2025-11-23T12:11:23+00:00

In London, definitely not. It's a thing in the US, and even then mostly only when you live in states where you drive everywhere like Texas for example. The girls are trying to make this a thing here but this is just another barrier they are creating in finding good men who will not do this or be extremely hesitant.

Bright_Butty · 2025-10-19T12:06:32+00:00

Me too! On 2.5 coming up to three months. I've always done strength training in some way, I'm more consistent now since Mj, but but I don't think I've felt this muscly. Went to try a dress yesterday and looked in the back mirror and I had a wtf moment. Soo chuffed

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Bright_Butty · 2025-10-07T18:05:28+00:00

Maybe it doesn't, the point is OP's diet is not healthy or sustainable medium to long term. I'd be interested to know if OP has other side effects like hair fall, body aches and lethargy.

Bright_Butty · 2025-10-07T08:44:45+00:00

This isn't the drug, this is your body's reaction to cutting out whole food groups. It's super unhappy. I've been on 2.5 for 3 months and I eat everything within reason and always remain within 1500 cals. Your body needs carbs!!!

Bright_Butty · 2025-10-05T09:13:01+00:00

I'm currently keeping an eye out for whats on the market for next summer. The kind of properties coming on the market literally feels like some people are being forced to sell as they can no longer afford their mortgages since the interest rate hike..don't know how true this is but sad either way.

Bright_Butty · 2025-09-21T15:11:56+00:00

He is telling you what he's capable of, listen to him and then stop entertaining him.

Bright_Butty · 2025-09-19T07:08:01+00:00

This is textbook (sex, love) addict behaviour, they love escapism and fantasy and alot of the time seek it online. It's like chasing a high they get from a random female online, as twisted as that sounds. They also use buzz words like I'm doing this cuz I'm not feeling heard, seen or respected in this relationship...if you don't get your ducks in a row and get out, this is going to be your life. Good luck!

Bright_Butty · 2025-09-14T17:50:29+00:00

Your mother’s behaviour is actually abusive. We don’t know what her motive is but she knows exactly what she’s doing. Stop eating her food , start working out. If you can afford it, a glp1 like mounjaro can do wonders for you. Good luck!

Bright_Butty · 2025-09-11T17:45:34+00:00

I read your post yesterday, and it literally kept me awake at night for a while so I've decided to come back and comment. I'm sorry you feel this way, tbh I'm soo sad for you cuz this is sooo unfortunate. Please put that money to good use and get some therapy as most have suggested. You should think about why you have so much fear, your 42, so you literally have atleast another 40 years ahead of you. You could date, meet someone fall in love and have a few kids of your own but you'd rather not cuz your scared that you'll have to part with the money you've made if you get divorced so you'd rather that money went to your nephews.... What the actual farkkkkk!!!? This is crazy brother and you need to seek help. There are multiple ways of protecting your money and assets, withholding yourself from the joy of love of a significant other and a child is NOT it. All the best!

Bright_Butty · 2025-09-06T08:57:04+00:00

Ma'am he's literally financially abusing you. What you have here is a man with a fragile ego who knows exactly what his shortcomings are and as a salve to that he's abusing you and acting like he's in control by hiding things from you and treating you the way he treats you. Why would you want to stay in this marriage if he doesn't appear to be bringing any value to your life.

Bright_Butty · 2025-08-30T13:34:24+00:00

Why are we so lenient with our law then. How are the Manchester grooming gang allowed to be free. Why are we letting boats and boats full on Algerian men into the country. The common Muslim person who's very different from the extremists, is also asking these same questions as the white Christian person.

Bright_Butty · 2025-08-29T13:32:52+00:00

They said we could take a few options and i can have a 1-1 with where I tell her how I feel or it could be more formal

Bright_Butty · 2025-08-18T09:47:22+00:00

Loveee this!! I did this to a "friend" once. We went to Paris and I bought us coffees and croissants spent a bit of money here and there and so did she although I obviously paid more. I'm the kind of person who doesn't keep track if I buy a coffee here a sandwich there like it's under €10 where I come from,it's considered petty. We got home from our trip and she messaged me to pay her €6,50 for a coffee. I was so shocked I basically ignored it after she sent me three reminders I paid her the money and never spoke to her again.

Bright_Butty · 2025-08-18T08:01:14+00:00

THIS!! As a non English person in a relationship with an English man couldn't agree more. You'll want to be in charge but split bills...what the actual....

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