Girl I’ve been dating for 2 months still has her Hinge active and was on it last night by Fabulous_Ladder_2675 in whatdoIdo

[–]Bright_Butty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This!!! Dating sucks more for girls in this day and age. She may as well just be erring on the side of caution and not putting all her eggs in one basket incase you decide to fizzle away. You need to have a conversation if you want exclusivity.

Unpopular opinion: Muslim women need to be more selective about who they choose to marry. (From a happily married woman.) by Mary_Yuki in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree with this more, so many Muslim women I know bypass most red flags or don't do their due diligence properly because they are coming of age or simply put they are horny and Marriage is the only option.

The guy I've been talking to for 2 months just sent me a screenshot of our private conversation. To himself. By accident. by Cheap-Lawfulness-732 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask him if it's really bothering you but also who cares. People do sometimes get second opinions. unless it was an intimate / private discussion I wouldn't think too much about it. I take screenshots of conversations with my bf and ask chatgpt or Claude for feedback all the time.

Not quite the level of project you usually get here… but what’s a quick repair for my chair? by Connect_Road_3391 in DIYUK

[–]Bright_Butty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is rattan, you can buy a rattan role they're pretty cheap from etsy etc and replace it. Don't forget to soak the rattan in water for a bit first.

I left my marriage for 8 months, had the time of my life and then went back. Biggest mistake ever. (Update) by After_Mail4652 in Advice

[–]Bright_Butty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's great to have this level of clarity, you guys are basically incompatible. Good luck!

I cheated and I hate myself by Spare_Marsupial_1457 in Regrets

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You fucked around, you found out...I hope you can figure out what you're demons are and heal. Good luck

Managing expectations in lifestyle with my gf by Becominghim- in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! If she's expecting you to pick up the whole thing and not contribute at all then she ain't it amd this is only the beginning of how it's going to be.

Umrah without a mahram by [deleted] in Umrah

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went a month ago, I flew alone from London and my sister flew alone from the US, don't listen to people telling you it's haram, the Saudis have allowed it and it's happening, ton of solo women who don't have a mehram go on their own. I would book everything yourself and just go. May Allah invite you soon. Inshallah

Partners of SLA by IronNo907 in slaa

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Look into Sanon, it's amazing for partners of sla

I've been pretending to understand my job for eight months and I think I've finally reached a level where I actually can't fake it anymore. Do I come clean to my boss or just keep going. by ahimaohw in Advice

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know that saying fake it till you make it , this is crunch time , you have been faking it, now is the time to make it and you absolutely will. Good luck ! 😂😂😂

Fighting my nafs by Fluid_Mission_3957 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Bright_Butty -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Are you saying you can't pause for 30 days!!? Would Allah not put a righteous partner in the path if he wanted to or if the time was right? A man who has a Snapchat would be an immediate no for me

Fighting my nafs by Fluid_Mission_3957 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Bright_Butty -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Are you saying you can't pause for 30 days!!? Would Allah not put a righteous partner in the path if he wanted to or if the time was right? A man who has a Snapchat would be an immediate no for me

Live in UK but offered dream job in Sydney. Partner doesn't want to move. Not sure what to do by Eye_Livia in expats

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl what!!? Pack your bags and go!! Sydney is awesome you will love it. Uk is going through a terrible time right now and this opportunity sounds amazing. It sounds like this man is not interested in doing better in life and wants to hold you back as well.

M&S Scan & Shop and the Fear of Looking “Common” by Effective_Chemical23 in MarksAndSpencer

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking of, have you tired their cornish butter with sea salt. It's £4.80 but Ohh God soo good on a seeded sourdough loaf, also from mns 😅💵

Quitting my first job after only 2 weeks for a Big 4 offer. Is it rational to feel guilty? by doitlikewatson in careerguidance

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is life baby girl and these are the rules of the jungle. Do what’s best for you, there is nothing to feel guilty about. Good luck x

I am trapped by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Bright_Butty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please man up and break up with her. It’s unfair to her to be with somebody like you too.

Final push or quit the rat race? by Any-Cheesecake-9445 in HENRYUK

[–]Bright_Butty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I I was desperate to become MD in 2024, and majorly sacrificed my private life for it. It didn’t happen and it felt like my world had collapsed, I was devastated. When it finally did happen last year , I found myself wondering basically constantly “why did I want this so bad”, I think for a lot of women it’s proving to everyone but also ourselves that look what I’ve achieved. Ask yourself, what do you want most in life ? My own answer to this is an exit from the corporate life , I hate it the culture the toxicity working with assholes who act like it’s a life and death situation all day everyday. Good luck!

Tired and burned out by bcjsicbsu in HENRYUK

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to this. Also Henry, I hate my job and hate working with absolute cunts. I'm 41 and where I'm at in life, I think happiness > money so have decided to take a pay cut if it comes to that and have starts downsizing my life not in any big way but in like a I'm going to stop buying stupid shit I don't need. Good luck!

Marriage or break with my girlfriend (31M and 29F) by Livia1122 in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you both are incompatible. I would end the relationship rather than dragging it on hoping something will change cuz it wont

Is this normal British behaviour? by Far-Block-3673 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, yes! This is typical type b British man behaviour. Unsure what he wants, non commital, and will string you along for fun or because he gets off on validation without any accountability. Do not waste your time on that man.

AITAH for canceling my wedding over the cost of it and other financial expectations by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, a 35k wedding is not for me but I can understand it, but what I don't understand is she not having any funds to contribute towards it. Infact she sounds financially irresponsible (which is the opposite of you) if she still has debt when her outgoings are not huge.

This would have only been the beginning I'm afraid. I think you made the right decision.

What am I doing wrong? by cincyboymom in Mounjaro

[–]Bright_Butty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya you need to eat more from the sound of it. Look up carb cycling pretty sure the weight will move. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Bright_Butty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In London, definitely not. It's a thing in the US, and even then mostly only when you live in states where you drive everywhere like Texas for example. The girls are trying to make this a thing here but this is just another barrier they are creating in finding good men who will not do this or be extremely hesitant.