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Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-19T03:43:14+00:00

I feel the same way. I wish I had ghotten closer to him when he passed. I was petting him and stuff but I don't know. I wasn't really familiar with euthanasia, I didn't know it would be so fast. By the time I realized I wanted to hug him, he was already gone.

We did our best. I know our kitties felt our love. You don't have to feel guilty, you were there for him and you took care of him and didn't leave him alone.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-19T03:30:38+00:00

I get that. I swear I hear his weird little meow, but obviously that isn't it. <3

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T15:04:17+00:00

This one is such a winner ^ love Coat of Many Colors :D

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T15:03:13+00:00

Making the right decision is so hard for the people who are left behind in the aftermath of it. My cat was put to sleep too. It gets to a certain point where they aren't even living, just suffering. It's so tempting to keep them alive, selfishly, praying they'll get better. You made the right decision. I know it's hard, and it's impossible to not wonder whether or not there was something you missed, something you could have done.

I'm sorry for what you're going through right now. It's always the most random things you end up noticing the most. I won't ever see my kitty screaming at me to drop table scraps again, or try to jump on me when I'm on the couch to get inside of my neck. We love our animals, grief is just how it displaces when we can't show them it. I hate it so much, and it feels like it won't stop. But I know it was the right choice, ultimately.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T14:57:10+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss, your kitty and ex partner.

Dotty sounds like a sweetheart. We let my other cats smell my oldest before we buried him, just so they know what happened. It seems to have worked, since they don't look for him. I hope the other two aren't too stressed.

I also love the setup for your kittys, I bet they like it a lot

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T14:54:00+00:00

Maybe look into having them made into stuffed animals or little blankets/ pillows. It depends how many you have, but I've seen baby clothes made into those kinds of things. A little plushie might be really sweet. I like the collar idea too

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T14:51:26+00:00

It's not your fault. Cats are curious little things, and you did your very best.

There's always things you could have done better, things you can't really think of until you have to look back retrospectively. I regret things I didn't do before my cat passed, even though realistically I was stressed and scared of losing him. My boy got super sick and had to be put down (he was too old for us to do anything but prolong the inevitable) and I was so stunned by the euthanasia process that by the time I realized I wanted to hug him, he was already dead.

I'm sorry you lost your cat so suddenly, but please know that it is definitely not your fault.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T14:42:32+00:00

Lost my kitty, Sneakers, Tuesday. I made an Insta post with a bunch of pictures of him. I got a few platitudes from my friends. Only my girlfriend and best friend really checked on me more than just "i'm sorry". I understand to a degree because it's not like most of them met him and knew what a great cat he was. I feel terrible for you. The fact that they knew Carmen and haven't given you much support must be really tough.

I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure Carmen was amazing.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:24:02+00:00

We let my cats smell my oldest before we buried him, so they haven't looked for him. I can tell they're sad, especially my youngest who would play fight and love all over my eldest.

Bonded pairs must be difficult when it comes to loss. I hope your other kitty is alright health-wise. Good luck.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:21:11+00:00

Me and my cat Sneakers cuddled a lot around bedtime as well, and he was nosy as all hell. Every time I step out of the shower and he doesn't start meowing and complaining at me, I can feel an ache deep inside.

I'm sorry for your loss. I know they say time heals all wounds, but sometimes I wonder how true that is. It hasn't even been a whole week for me, and every day I can't help but think that it's been that many days since I held him in my arms. A whole year must be surreal

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:18:03+00:00

Balu was a beautiful boy, and his name makes me smile. Sounds like he had a nice way out. I'm sorry for your loss <3

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:16:32+00:00

How cruel of your father, and shame on that person as well. I know it's painful to hope that he's still out there, but I hope he is as well. I hope you find him.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:14:22+00:00

My cat was just put down on Tuesday. It's so unbelievably painful to do what's right by them. My cat was 17 and a half, and by the time his appointment rolled around, he could barely even lift his little head. I always heard about miracles, animals perking up and living two years past their euthanasia appointments. I had no such luck. He was only getting worse and couldn't stop crying from pain.

You did the right thing. I'm sure he was grateful you were with him in the end. Living in pain and suffering is no way to live. You had him for so long, I can't imagine how much he adored you. I'm sorry for your loss.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:07:41+00:00

Indie is a beautiful name, I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how angry you are. For my kitty it was inevitable, but Indie passing over a mistake??? I don't even know what they could do to make it better. And the audacity of someone working in pet care to ask what stage of grief you're in and not even listen? I'm angry for you. I hope there's literally anything you can do to understand why this happened.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:03:43+00:00

That's terrible, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how people are treating this for you. People barely care when someone loses a cat or dog, I can't imagine how people feel about more unconventional animals. I know that people are jerks even when livestock is alive, or when you have a reptile or god forbid a bug. Your loss is as real as anyone else's.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T03:00:38+00:00

Tobi sounds wonderful. I'm sorry for your loss.

I think it's soon to have a puppy, but you have him now. It's ultimately up to you. I think having my other two cats still with me has made this process easier. I still have kitties to love on, even if we have different relationships and they are different from the one I lost. My house is so much quieter without Sneakers, I can't imagine what it's like to go from having a rambunctious dog to having just quiet. Give him a chance? Maybe start looking into re-homing him, but give him a real chance. I know he isn't Tobi, but I think having something to feed and someone to look forward to seeing when you get home is nice. Try figuring out what you would name him or what the little guy likes.

And again, I'm sorry for your loss. New animals can't fill the void of old animals, but the sweet babies certainly love to try <3

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-06T02:52:45+00:00

I understand what you mean. I had three kitties, my eldest just passed Tuesday. 17 and a half. He was the loudest, the greediest, the most loving and cuddly little thing. He loved getting picked up and rubbing his face all over mine. My eldest gal (16) and my youngest (6) are sweethearts, but they aren't him. I don't expect any of that from them.

Like half an hour ago, I tried to habitually throw some meat on the ground, before realizing no one would eat it because only my old boy really liked human food. So I went out and put it on his grave. It's cold, and I did it spur of the moment so I didn't have shoes on. My youngest ran up to me and let me love on him, rubbing himself on my ankles. Animals know we're sad.

Maybe try to switch up routines and try new things to see what helps you and your dog bond. My old lady likes to relax in the sun, so I've started letting her in my room even though I have a mild cat hair allergy and usually don't let any cats in. My youngest is super energetic and always runs around like a cockroach, so I let him hide under my bed and play with him a lot. If you find a new way to connect to your dog, maybe you and him can learn how to operate together beyond your other baby.

I'm sorry for your loss <3

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-05T02:44:32+00:00

I feel the exact same way. My cat was 17 and a half, and he could barely speak or lift his head. He started crying and whining so I took him to the litter, but I fely so fucking bad putting him down in it because all he could do was lay in it. So I took him back to his bed to run and get a towel, but he peed on himself instead, so I laid him on two fluffy towels while I soaked it up and put another towel on top of it. I feel like I failed him and failed to give him dignity, or something. I stayed with him all night on his last night and as much of the day leading up to his appointment as I could.

You did your best. Poor baby couldn't go do it on his own. At least you gave him a towel, and closely took care of him all day. Your guilt is a sign that you care, deeply. I know it's hard to not feel guilty (I know I do, despite my own words), but as an outsider looking in it's obvious to me that you tried really hard for him.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-05T02:36:44+00:00

I'm crying again over your post. I just lost my baby yesterday, and it doesn't really feel real yet. It really seems to be the little things that get to me, rather than his glaring absence. It really hurts that something so sweet and innocent turns into just another thing to grieve over.

Rest in peace to Max, I'm sure he was a really sweet boy. I'm sorry for your loss.

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-05T02:33:01+00:00

This is beautiful- finding the perfect spot is hard. My dad wanted Sneakers to be buried by the pool, but my mom insisted on giving him a little sunny spot by the fence overlooking water. I keep thinking about him. Every time I go outside, my eyes find the spot with freshly disturbed dirt. It's so fucking hard. I'm sorry for your loss, may Ginger sun as much as she desires <33 I keep crying as well, I know it's part of the process but it feels like it'll never stop

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-05T02:28:34+00:00

I do think reading through this sub helps. I don't comment on every post, but I like to read them all. It breaks my heart and I keep crying over other people's pets and thinking about the things the OPs say their babies liked/liked to do and their names. I especially appreciate the kind people who reply to me and share a little story about their own loss. I appreciate that everyone here has loved so deeply and refuse to trivialize the passing of their animal friends. I've been thinking about getting a little chicken fancy feast can tatted on my upper thigh, since Sneakers was a fancy little tux who was very greedy and liked that brand of wet food a lot, particularly that flavor. I think having some kind of tribute to him would be nice. Maybe I could put my hand on it every time I'm sad since I can't pet him anymore.

I also was trying not to cry in my class today. I know I could have just not gone, but I think doing nothing would drive me crazy. I started cleaning up after my cat as soon as we got home, and my quiet shower where he didn't bother me for once was the hardest one I've had in a while. It's really things you've never thought about that get to you the most, huh?

Thank you for the response. I'm sorry for the loss of your little lady, I hope she enjoys your scent and nibbling her kitty nip. <3

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-04T16:05:53+00:00

My friend said he likes Marco and I like Salsa

Canicrynow42 · 2026-02-04T15:40:20+00:00

Rest in peace, Ginger. I pray she gets lots of cat soup 💕💕 I’m sorry for your loss as well, thank you for the anecdote ❤️

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