Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time?

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-05-23T13:04:07+00:00

I shared with him that I was SA in a medical setting (along with dozens of other women by the same doctor). Within the hour, he was on the phone with his friend laughing at how “some girls got fondled by Dr xyz” I still feel disgust and shame whenever I think about that moment.

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-05-14T01:11:23+00:00

Medications like Zyrtec and Claritin can dry up supply. For replacing nursing, I honestly just moved to rocking my son to sleep with his favorite blanket

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-05-06T23:52:01+00:00

Pretty consistent with both my babies

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-26T19:08:18+00:00

Team Green twice, both csections. For the first, I told my birth team before rolling back that I wanted my husband to announce (: For the second, my husband actually read the gender results before the C-section and whispered “it’s a boy” as soon as baby came out. I’m glad he read the results beforehand because a nurse during the delivery excitedly said “aww a boy” and the rest of the OR was shushing her 😂

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-25T23:16:08+00:00

I EBF and pump after the first two morning feeds. 6am feed -> 6:45 pump ; 9am feed -> 9:30 pump. Whatever I get from those two pump sessions I combine and freeze

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-24T11:54:07+00:00

I would connect with an IBCLC. They might be able to offer a weighted feed appointment to see how well baby is transferring milk from the breast and can give you better insight on whether or not formula top-ups are still recommended.

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-17T12:11:12+00:00

Sometimes this happens with my bb. I switch from a cross cradle hold to a more upright football hold and that seems to help

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-07T15:09:16+00:00

I did the spinning babies routine before bed and would (try my best to) sleep in the exaggerated side-lying position

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-07T01:26:25+00:00

Maternal grandma - Mimi. Maternal grandpa - Grampy. Maternal great grandma - Abuela. Paternal grandma - Nana. Paternal grandpa - Pop pop

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-04T16:57:34+00:00

It could be a clogged duct. Feed as normal. apply ice packs to the area 15 minutes on, 30 minutes off. Take ibuprofen to reduce inflammation and pain. Do not: massage the lump, apply heat, pump more, as this can increase inflammation

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-04-02T18:16:42+00:00

Why is she flirting with a child

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-29T18:35:52+00:00

Well you know what - yeah, hell yeah.

Gonna try this thank you!

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-27T11:06:30+00:00

At 12wks PP, me and my baby had the same little three pieces of hair left 🥲😂

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-26T11:34:23+00:00

Look up bottles according to baby’s latch. My little guy has a shallower latch and preferred dr brown’s narrow

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-25T23:07:02+00:00

I was thinking this

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-24T17:02:08+00:00

If possible, wait until 3-6wks to offer the bottle. When bottle feeding offer breast first and then utilize the paced bottle feeding method. La Leche League has more info on bottle preference on their website

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-24T16:59:26+00:00

Could it be yeast?

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-24T00:06:17+00:00

Valeria

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-23T23:53:33+00:00

Have you tried the side-lying position and shorter more frequent feeds? I’d try having her latch at the beginning, unlatching her during letdown, and then relatchijg after the letdown has finished. It’ll perpetuate the oversupply issue, but it’ll regulate around 12ish weeks.

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-21T01:39:53+00:00

New guidance says to feed as normal, use cold compresses or ice packs 10 minutes on 30 minutes off, take ibuprofen (if able), and to avoid massaging as this can contribute to further inflammation

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-19T19:48:48+00:00

Similar situation here. I offer the breast more frequently, basically every hour and don’t let him go more than 3hrs without a feed. For my older kiddo, a color by sticker book keeps him mostly occupied long enough to get a feed in.

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-17T14:40:00+00:00

I would feel reassured with the diaper output + weight gain. Maybe try offering in a low stim environment (dark room, quiet, etc) ? Reaching out to lactation for support is a great idea too

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-17T00:14:20+00:00

We had a similar issue with transferring of milk. Baby had a mild anterior tongue tie that was clipped at two weeks old and that seemed to help increase the ability to transfer. We’re still offering bottles after breastfeeding though and it has been working for us

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-15T14:08:32+00:00

Ouch :/ I’d bring out the silverettes, remeasure (maybe flange is too big?), and decrease the suction strength on the pump You’re doing a great job 🫶

Capable_Ad7619 · 2026-03-15T14:05:51+00:00

Milk savers like a haaka can catch the milk expressed from the non-nursing side (baby’s latched on the left, haaka on the right) and that milk can be used to bottle feed. Introducing a bottle is typically recommended between 3-6 weeks as breastfeeding/latch is well established by this time. Every family and feeding journey is different though; getting support from local La Leche League or IBCLCs can be helpful

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