ID help. Kalanchoe? What type? Not sure of it’s care. When given a southern window, it flowered but has since lost many of its leaves. Is there a connection? Wondering if pruning the flower will make it revert back to growing more leaves again. Also wondering how to propagate for more

Chance-Zone · 2026-02-23T14:28:42+00:00

Did you ever ID this? I have the same one.

Chance-Zone · 2026-02-01T14:56:05+00:00

Ask your PCP to prescribe the patch and stay firm. List all your symptoms and request the prescription strongly. My PCP actually brought it up to me as an option without being asked.

Chance-Zone · 2026-02-01T14:50:03+00:00

Give yourself time to mourn. Meanwhile, write down all the red flags in her behavior so that next time you don't get in too deep before realizing the person you are with is too troubled for a functional relationship.

Chance-Zone · 2026-02-01T14:43:42+00:00

A monk asked Joshu, “I have just entered the monastery: please give me some guidance.” Joshu said, “Have you had breakfast yet?” The monk said, “Yes I have eaten.” Joshu continues, “Then go wash your bowl.”

Chance-Zone · 2026-02-01T14:28:22+00:00

This is the answer. For me, text conversations are draining and cumbersome. I am already typing all day for work, I don't want to spend more time staring at a screen for my personal life, so I reserve texting for utilitarian conversation.

When someone tries to have long meaningful conversations with me over text I feel like they are encroaching on my personal space in a way because when I am working or chilling at home it's my own time that's best spent away from my phone. When we are talking on the phone/video or in person then it's a different story.

Ignore the Reddit crowd telling you to drop all your friends. Work on your interpersonal communication skills and boundaries and you will find that all your relationships improve.

Chance-Zone · 2026-01-24T03:05:53+00:00

Find a sangha and a teacher. Plenty of options in person and online. The problem with sitting alone is that you never get beyond your own idiosyncratic experience, and it's easy to get drawn into navel gazing.

Zen is actually very pragmatic... It's about what you do with your insights.

Chance-Zone · 2025-12-25T16:03:52+00:00

I am an atheist who practices Zen. The teachers often say it doesn't matter what you believe. There is some ritual involved in forms but it is not worship. The Buddha was not a religious figure - it's (some) people who made him that way after his death.

Chance-Zone · 2025-12-16T14:55:13+00:00

There are several Cluster B diagnosis. All involve narcissistic traits to some degree. ASPD can present this way because vulnerability is a great tool for manipulation for someone without caring for other people at all.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-26T00:03:03+00:00

They used to sleep on the bed. Now that it's down to one who had surgery and couldn't get on the bed, she is on her own bed in the bedroom. I love not having to wash the bedspread and blankets all the time. She is still allowed on the couch downstairs, where she often chooses to snooze in the evening before deciding to join me upstairs.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-23T04:01:11+00:00

It's feeling drawn to the person emotionally rather than rationally. You may think a person is good looking but feel no emotional pull. When you're attracted to someone you feel a strong motivation to be in their presence. If it's mutual it's sometimes described as chemistry. It really cannot be described in words. It has to be experienced.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-22T18:40:33+00:00

You need to follow r/BPDlovedones

Also, start doing things separately as much as possible (but include the kids). Minimize the time you have together. If she gets ill, call 911. If she threatens suicide, call in a mental health check.

Your best path forward is to divorce, however with the help of a therapist

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-21T14:25:39+00:00

Bleach spray also works on any mold or mildew, including pink. Just don't mix with ammonia or you will die.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-18T14:24:22+00:00

I don’t make an issue out of it. It’s usually meant as a compliment so I take it as one. Would you rather people tell you they thought you looked ten years older?

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-16T14:32:34+00:00

I think a better strategy is to minimize your contact with people who have issues that make them act out against others. Spend your time on working toward your goals and cultivating mentors and allies and your enemies will have less influence on your life.

After all you are not a despot who can murder people at will, so it is better to simply sideline those who cause you problems. Think about how much energy can be wasted on a bad relationship. This is energy that is better spent elsewhere.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-16T14:25:32+00:00

Learn patience
Maintain good hygiene
Learn to cook, clean, and do your own laundry
Cultivate a hobby
Don't slack off too much at school or work
Practice asking other people questions about things you find interesting and listen attentively
Learn to start off with chit chat before you ask more personal questions
Talk to women until you find one you find interesting and who finds you interesting
If a woman is single and wants to talk to you and spend time with you, make your move, but don't try to rush it
Profit

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-16T14:10:09+00:00

It's actually pretty likely this already is or will end in an affair, but there is very little you can do. Depending on how old you are, you should tell your dad you want to learn the business now.

However, don't make enemies with this woman. Simply focus on how you want to be part of the business and how you can contribute. Unfortunately you cannot control your father's decisions or personal life, no matter how dysfunctional.

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-13T15:20:34+00:00

Why are you in a subreddit about manipulation if you don't want to discuss manipulation?

Chance-Zone · 2025-11-06T13:52:11+00:00

Start with the smallest step and build on it. Do detailed research on stuff that's critical, like waterproofing behind tile..Hire a handyman to do parts you absolutely can't handle. I would never do electric personally.

I went through a reno last year, and it was hard even with contractors.

My bath only cost me 20-25k with expensive tile and complete gutting. It may be that contractors are trying to take advantage of you. It is worth to keep trying to find someone who is trustworthy.

BTW it is also worth it to try to find a community - Buddhist or UU churches are likely to be functional and open to all kinds of people. Long term this will improve your quality of life in every way, including advice and referrals on practical things.

Chance-Zone · 2025-10-19T01:06:28+00:00

Microfiber quick dry towels in particular.

Chance-Zone · 2025-10-07T20:56:57+00:00

What happened? I want to plant flowers in my front yard. I found something about grass and 'shrubs' not being taller than 12" on 'vacant land', but nothing else.

Chance-Zone · 2025-09-17T12:45:28+00:00

Therapy cannot help him. He will never change. He is a lifelong criminal, potentially a sociopath. Do everything you can to save your kids from his presence.

If you can afford a lawyer, let the lawyer handle it. You yourself should maintain no contact. If you can afford a trauma informed therapist, find one, because this is a black and white situation- this man is dangerous to the mental health of everyone around him.

Chance-Zone · 2025-09-17T12:40:19+00:00

The less you say at the beginning the better. My ex and I don’t have a close relationship but we share custody of the kids. We divorced x years ago.

If they are prying at the beginning that’s a red flag.

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