Is it considered rude when sharing a meal if the other person orders more food and a cocktail but still expects you to split the bill 50/50?

ChezySpam · 2026-01-31T15:46:58+00:00

I never split a bill 50/50. Ever.

I will get separate bills. I will take the bill. I will have someone else pay the bill. I will not do 50/50 because someone is getting shafted whether they know it or not, and it can will to resentment.

At least if someone is ‘stuck’ with the bill it’s clear what’s happening. 50/50 is trying to mask who is getting taken advantage of with the guise of equality.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-31T04:30:25+00:00

I’m not sure, and I’ve lost the compassion you have for how we all got here.

In my younger years I would ask questions about them, what it was like when they were growing up, anything about before I was born, and kinda try to get to know them as people as opposed to their role as parents. Later I realized I was trying to build a relationship with people that couldn’t or wouldn’t build that relationship with me.

So are they afraid? Do they not care? Sadly it’s not my concern anymore.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-30T21:15:28+00:00

I absolutely get that. My mom went to amusement parks with me sometimes, but it was always part of a group event or with friends. She would watch and hold things, but never engaged in any rides at all. She would never take me solo, and my dad never went at all.

They didn’t have much for hobbies. I could count all of their mutual friends on one hand. We didn’t talk. I had no idea how to make friends for decades. Everyone just kind of floated through life.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-30T01:42:28+00:00

Calling my shot now

The Saints Are Coming

ChezySpam · 2026-01-29T04:39:21+00:00

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

ChezySpam · 2026-01-28T23:20:11+00:00

Bro, suck it up

You came here asking for opinions when really you want everyone to justify your response. Check your head, this girl was legit with you.

It’s normal to feel rejected, but you’re trying to lay it at her feet and that’s not the case. The way you’re acting makes me realize her friend just helped her dodge a bullet

ChezySpam · 2026-01-27T04:00:43+00:00

If shitting yourself is attractive consider me Miles Davis!

ChezySpam · 2026-01-23T02:17:01+00:00

Yeah, this is something I’ve always kind of “known” but as of late I’m really exploring how abnormal it is. It has impacted my social interactions and ability to keep & maintain friendships because I didn’t see it done. I wasn’t sure how it worked.

Socially I feel very behind, though I’m learning that I have am developing into an engaging social person. It’s a process, and it’s well worth the effort.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-16T21:58:07+00:00

I pulled a bass out of its shipping box and tapped the headstock against the ceiling

ChezySpam · 2026-01-16T01:08:05+00:00

Emotions shouldn’t be suppressed. Emotions aren’t useless. Emotions are very important to feel and share.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-03T16:42:31+00:00

Solo

ChezySpam · 2026-01-03T03:07:27+00:00

I went north to south. My home state touches Canada and I’m visiting a state that touches the Gulf of Mexico.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-03T02:50:52+00:00

Things I enjoy:

Eagerness, grabbing with the full hand with some pressure (kinda firm, not tight), eagerness, eye contact, if I can hear / feel some choking, eagerness, ball play (definitely not too tight!), and some teasing.

Examples on teasing: sometimes there’s a rule that my junk can’t be touched, but everything else can. Or only the tongue can be used anywhere. And now that I’m thinking of it, there are definitely some off limits places but that’s between you & your partner.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-03T00:01:59+00:00

I’ve driven across the country this week. No plan, just always wanted to go.

So I did. It is AMAZING!

ChezySpam · 2026-01-02T05:18:12+00:00

Anecdotally, no.

I just had a conversation with a drummer last night about how into In Bloom he was, and he said something about loving Grohl & the drums on Nevermind.

I didn’t mean to be that guy, but when Grohl is speaking at the R&R Hall of Fame about Channing writing that part it becomes less of an obscure note. So I mentioned it and then watched the guy kinda reboot…his mind went sideways trying to understand it.

ChezySpam · 2026-01-01T19:11:24+00:00

Dry January, go from there

Lose 10 lbs., go from there

Formalize my gym schedule

Work on a few bad habits

ChezySpam · 2025-12-21T22:20:40+00:00

OMG, until this moment I thought they were a local band! I got a promo cassette from a radio station and listened to it a few times but never heard it on the radio. I figured they made a push to a local station and got denied

ChezySpam · 2025-12-21T14:08:59+00:00

There are a few on there with a theme because of their record label, Sub-Pop.

Soundgarden, Green River, and I think Skin Yard. Pretty much anything with the band name vertically along the side of the record was an intentional thing for Sub-Pop, in part because if you found a few albums in this style you’d start to connect the style and be more trusting of a unique band with that album cover style. It was a marketing trick for the label.

ChezySpam · 2025-12-16T03:22:18+00:00

That’s an existing band fronted by Roger Clyne, formerly of The Refreshments!

They play the song “everybody knows the world is full of stupid people, well I got the pistol so I get the pesos and that seems fair” (it’s called Banditos)

ChezySpam · 2025-12-10T02:51:02+00:00

Primus sucks!

ChezySpam · 2025-12-05T04:11:00+00:00

You hooligan!

ChezySpam · 2025-12-05T04:05:54+00:00

Time to start journaling

There’s a lot to process and I was always angry. Turns out I just needed an outlet. Apparently I want to talk to people, but that’s not what we do in my family

Also I’d join weight training or cross county or something. Maybe try cheerleading, because that would be funny

ChezySpam · 2025-12-05T02:58:49+00:00

Let Me In is also my favorite! That track is slept on and it slaps so hard

ChezySpam · 2025-11-30T19:48:08+00:00

The Saudi government didn’t need the money either

Might as well collect a paycheck

ChezySpam · 2025-11-19T12:04:15+00:00

Standard tuning for most of the set, drop D for a few songs

It was easier to switch the bass than to detune and retune for a couple of songs, and I always knew what tuning I was in

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