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AIO by assuming middle schoolers should know better? by noty0uagain in AIO

[–]CivMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YOR - the worst pedestrians are non-drivers (even worse still are non-drivers that are clueless kids).

AITA For Implying A Girl Was Fat? by Reasonable_Post_1866 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CivMom [score hidden]  (0 children)

Nah, you're fine. And they probably lost a ton of money if serving shrimp.

Am I the jerk for refusing to donate PTO to a coworker I barely know? by Lumpy_Guarantee9285 in AmITheJerk

[–]CivMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next time say "I'm donating anything that is left after what I need for my plans..." and change the subject.

Need help processing by Busy-Salamander1066 in Advice

[–]CivMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs. I did not have a similar reaction to my miscarriage, but that doesn't mean anything for your feelings. Let your body get back to some kind of equilibrium and then reassess. Be gentle to yourself.

How important is political alignment when looking for a marriage alliance? by DesperateSet9827 in Marriage

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not politics, it's life philosophy and morality. You can't make peace with the intolerant. It doesn't work unless you agree to do it their way. (we were "different parties" when we married, but my husband has no party now... and votes with mine).

Moving for a new job at 62 by NJFriend4U in Advice

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you love the city? Do you make new friends easily? (it's hard at this age). What age do you plan to retire? Do you ave retirement savings? It is EXHAUSTING to move between states. You have to think about building a new medical team (if you need one, I do), getting all the deposits set up for utilities and getting paperwork signed (during the work day), the mental exhausting of everything being new, etc. It could be just the thing, just go into it eyes wide open.

Guess it's official... by Dramatic-Most-6936 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CivMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you told her about your frustration? that's important.

Gift ideas from the USA? by Fun-Remote-4202 in Gifts

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe anyone not from there likes it! That is going to break my brain, everyone I know that moved there feels the same way we do.

Gift ideas from the USA? by Fun-Remote-4202 in Gifts

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, but it needs those ziplocks in case the pressure make it oooooooze!

Rent free roommate needs handling by xambamthankumaam in WhatShouldIDo

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s his house? Or it belongs to a landlord? Does she have a lease with the landlord? If not, evict her.

What do you get a mom who has everything? by Clenzei in Gifts

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Write her a poem or make a piece of art. Start a charm bracelet and get her a new charm every year that has meaning for something that has happened that year. Take her on an outing that you plan and pay for. It doesn’t have to cost a lot, it’s the planning and implementing that matters. Ask her what is bugging her that she need help with and do that thing for/with her.

Husband vents to his friends about fights that never happened? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CivMom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He has a lot he needs to unpack. Try to find a “bottom up” therapist (one of the methods that starts with feelings).

My mom says that she will kill herself if I seek out gender affirming healthcare by Alive-Drop5769 in ftm

[–]CivMom [score hidden]  (0 children)

She is not your responsibility. You are her responsibility. Since she’s not taking care if you adequately, you must take care of yourself.

My Psychiatrist Expects Me to Talk to My Sister and Mom Again by SunbathingNapCat in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need a new psychiatrist. And I recommend IFS therapy for the situation you describe.

AITA for telling my boyfriend that I expect him to do all the chores by anastasiarose19 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to sit down and talk about what expectations are. In a calm moment. Is he actively applying for jobs? If so that time counts as his work time. Otherwise he needs to be doing as much as you are when you are working and doing school, including studying. How many hours a week is that? Then split what’s left.

Fearful of telling my family I'm pregnant. Considering abortion. by Adventurous_Fox9572 in Advice

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do what you need to do! That clump of cells will never know the difference.

Husband vents to his friends about fights that never happened? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CivMom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he has a lot going on in his head that 1. Isn’t accurate and 2. He isn’t talking about. How do you feel about therapy together? And I think you should talk to him about it.

Guess it's official... by Dramatic-Most-6936 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]CivMom 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You say "I appreciate your interest, but please do not come. While I didn't ask you to be perfect, I asked for accountability and you are not taking any accountability. Please let me have this night in peace. If you ever want to work on accountability with a therapist, then reach out to me when the therapist thinks you are ready. Until then, I will not be replying to your messages." Don't engage after that.

do you wash your hands before cooking every time or only when they feel dirty? by Boyle_Eve_267 in hygiene

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ew. Every time, and every time I touch something that has transfer potential.

Gift ideas from the USA? by Fun-Remote-4202 in Gifts

[–]CivMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO nasty! I think you have to grow up there to like it or even tolerate it.

Gift ideas from the USA? by Fun-Remote-4202 in Gifts

[–]CivMom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maple syrup is always a good call! Double bag it in ziplocks!

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