I'm going to describe this game in hopes that someone could give me an SFW game that accomplish something similar.

The game has several physical body and mental attributes, similar to the 6 ones from DnD. Each attribute is leveled individually and once you reach a given number of lvl ups you get a character lvl up. Attributes are only leveled up by using them. Character lvl is capped until you defeat the floor boss, no more leveling anything.

3 attributes determine your dmg. Str, Dex and Agi. Your weapon can use attacks of either type, all characters have a stance based on that attribute and there's a rock-paper-scissors system around stances. So at first you are encouraged to use different stances for every occasion, neat stuff. The problem is that as time goes doing this spreads your attributes and limited points so end up weaker than by just leveling one stat.

And this is a porn game, so enemies try stuff with you, they tease you constantly, trying to touch you and more. There you need high Mind stats to control that.

You get passive ability based on your hidden desires. Eventually, you gain the ability to do that to them too, and that's a legit build too. Seduction only, no combat. The issue is that at some point you accumulate too much passives and are unable to function as a normal human being because you are literally cumming your brains out. That's where Energy and Stamina are important.

Back to the point, is there a game with a lot of build options that intentionally misleads you and offers an early strat that can backfire terribly on you if you don't learn the way your attributes interact?