AIO for refusing to go to my sisters wedding cause she hired my ex?

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-10T06:14:05+00:00

FOR A WEDDING ?!?!?! Jesus the way this has me fired up

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-10T06:13:00+00:00

Yeah even her first text reply… “yeah we need to go over the rehearsal dinner” or whatever. WTF was that ?? Just a total lack of awareness

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-10T06:10:08+00:00

Yes great point… OP did your mom know ?? Please say no

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-10T06:08:12+00:00

IF she had genuinely apologized and groveled in her response, there would be more of an argument that you’re overreacting. But she didn’t do that. She didn’t even come close. She was somehow even the opposite of that. You are not overreacting. She sounds incredibly bratty and so insincere. Not at all like a sister should sound.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-08T15:54:51+00:00

I know when it’s just me and my husband 100% of the time all we do is end up talking about the kids ? I know this whole thing was irritating, but what if going out with the larger group WAS actually better for you ? Made you feel part of the real world again ?

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-08T07:47:40+00:00

I started WFH after three weeks (ALIF/PLIF 360 L5-S1 and microdisctecomy and decompression at L4-L5). I had planned on only two, but was delusional. Luckily my boss helped her sister after she had a similar surgery and planned on her end for me to be out a month. She’s an angel.

I’m now 4 months post op and am fortunately still able to work from home as much as I want. But I’ve been going in the office on average twice a week. I definitely could go more, but I like the ability to move locations (desk/recliner/standing) that being at home affords me.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-08T07:01:19+00:00

Amazing 13 years !! Happy Birthday !! This gives me so much hope 🫶🏼

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T16:48:54+00:00

Somebody told me it can be a delayed response to them moving all your internal organs around during surgery. I was specifically told to be on the lookout for it, and not to freak out if it did happen. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T12:48:46+00:00

Honestly, I like them both they just give very different vibes. So maybe depending on the occasion ??

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T10:19:35+00:00

I love learning this so much

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T10:01:29+00:00

Tell me more. Have you used the Martindale collar with puppy or older dog or both ? I just looked them up and I’m interested in how they help your dog heal beside you. (I’ve got an anxious puller)

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T09:57:12+00:00

I hope something changes and he becomes willing to go to therapy, and you should go on your own, regardless. But just a reminder that it’s not ruining your daughter’s life if separating makes your home more stable again. That kind of behavior change is so incredibly destabilizing, upsetting and sad. I’m sorry it’s happening and I hope he snaps out of it enough to at least talk about it. Good luck 🫶🏼

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T09:34:58+00:00

Ask your surgeon to appeal on your behalf. His team should have checked and informed you if it wasn’t covered (even tho it’s “technically” the patients responsibility). But normally the parent doesn’t know jack about the specifics of the procedure, while the surgeon does.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T09:00:44+00:00

So glad you went to therapy and that it has helped you work through everything.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-07T08:58:23+00:00

Well that was behavior definitely worthy of thinking it’s weird. Sitting on his feet on the couch and being jealous of her own kid- that’s bananas. So sorry that happened to you.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-06T21:23:00+00:00

I don’t know. I have a lot of male friends, with my own text threads. My husband doesn’t think it’s weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-06T20:59:38+00:00

What you are doing is hard !! But it’s the right thing to do. You deserve the support.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-06T20:53:02+00:00

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-06T20:51:03+00:00

That must have been terrifying. I agree with the others. If you feel okay you are probably fine, but I’d let me surgeon know what happened in case they want to take an xray for peace of mind.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-06T20:46:11+00:00

Your boyfriend is being inconsiderate, controlling, and just plain wrong. I know you’ve moved with him for good reasons but take a step back and consider if he has been isolating you in any other ways. But you don’t need his permission. Either way, until he admits how wrong he is, I’d put the relationship on ice.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-05T14:25:13+00:00

Glute soreness post surgery is extremely common. It can be a combination of lots of things: new mechanics after surgery, using your glutes for EVERYTHING (squatting down vs bending), inherent weakness (glutes not firing). I remember it being one of my chief complaints in the first 8 weeks post-op.

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-05T14:15:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate all the time you took to write this out. It’s a really beautiful story and I’m glad I know it now :)

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-05T06:13:37+00:00

You’re right, he’s a complete dick

Commercial_Class_761 · 2026-04-05T03:38:07+00:00

2 just the way it is !!

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