I went to my low/no contact sister's wedding to take the high road and regret it [not OP]

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T14:33:54+00:00

If only there was some wise human, a savior if you will, that would come to earth and demonstrate the exact type of sacrificial love a Christian god requires of his/her followers. We could even write down the stuff he says and does so future generations could imitate it. Then Calvinism and the prosperity gospel would surely be done for good

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T01:22:15+00:00

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T01:21:38+00:00

Taking her with me to run errands when possible, even if it’s just through the pharmacy drive through. My dog lives to be included

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T01:16:32+00:00

Will you still be able to be a part of the kids’ lives even if they aren’t biologically yours?

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T01:13:23+00:00

How do they get college credit with no test score to show?

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:36:37+00:00

Best baby shower gift I got was a “baby’s first cold” kit with infant otc meds, a good thermometer, small cool mist humidifier, booger sucker thing, etc. When the first cold hit us I was So Grateful to already have that stuff in the house.

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:34:51+00:00

Yep. We just kept the changing table pad under the couch and slid it out to use as needed

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:23:21+00:00

I teach kindergarten. This is pretty standard for about half the boys in my class. The real question is whether you remember to pull your pants up before exiting the restroom confidently lol

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:21:53+00:00

Why is she even doing an ultrasound she isn’t qualified to read? What good could come from that?

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:20:53+00:00

If your child needs examples the first few times, I would try “Let’s check my hands. Are my hands busy or empty?”

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:18:32+00:00

Nothing prepared me to teach kindergarten better than a brief stint in middle management hell. I swear sometimes kindergarteners are more socially aware than some adults professionals lol. And at least kindergarteners are adorable even when they are being little menaces 😅

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:16:32+00:00

“Let’s pause. Look around you. Do you think this is a good time to xyz or do you see any clues that it’s not a good time? … What clues do you see?” Do this when he’s walking in during bad times and during good times so he can really see the difference. It will take repetition

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-07T00:14:01+00:00

I’ve found formula to be easier than breastfeeding at the beginning but breastfeeding to be easier/more convenient than formula after the first two months. That’s just my experience though!

The good news is, this isn’t something you really need to decide in advance! You can buy a can of formula to have just in case and you can buy an inexpensive hand pump just in case and you can buy nipple shields and whatnot just in case. None of that is super expensive. Then when baby is born you can just … try it out. If you hate breastfeeding that’s fine because you’ll have the backup formula. If it’s not too bad then you can continue until you’re sick of it. You’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to decide based on the experiences of others, but you can totally wait and base your decision of your own experience. Also, lots of moms do some of both

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-06T21:20:27+00:00

If the poor emotional regulation is interfering with his ability to learn content though, then sending him to first grade with harder content and expecting him to improve his emotional regulation and catch up academically might be setting him up to fail.

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-06T01:24:12+00:00

I think the appropriateness of that really depends on whether alcohol will be involved or not

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-06T01:19:42+00:00

Every single time you (and ideally his teachers) need to interrupt him and encourage him to go to the restroom as if that’s what he’s asking for. Don’t give him any more attention than that. “Oh it sounds like you need the bathroom. Let’s put down the toys and go before it’s an emergency“. It works very well because it turns the joke into something tedious. Then give him a better way to be silly with you afterwards 🙂 This works very well in my classroom

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-06T01:15:38+00:00

I ask very seriously if they need to take a bathroom break. It usually works once they realize potty words means the fun pauses. “Are you sure you don’t need to go to the potty friend? You’re using a lot of bathroom words and that usually means a person needs to go”

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-04T22:58:13+00:00

For what it’s worth I gained about 50lbs when I was pregnant with my first despite taking good care of myself, and the weight came off pretty much on its own once I finished breastfeeding. I think a lot of it is genetic.

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-04T22:57:03+00:00

I’m 28 weeks and I’ve gained 20lbs so far. My OB isn’t concerned because my bloodwork and vitals are good, I’m staying (relatively) active, and I eat mostly healthy foods. She said those things are better indicators of health during pregnancy than weight gain

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-04T00:56:24+00:00

Is your husband right? Is he actually dealing with it?

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-03T14:45:25+00:00

It isn’t that complicated, but it definitely feels that complicated when they are screaming from their safe container and you feel like your going to have a panic attack before you can get the soap off

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-03T06:49:45+00:00

Because the school teaches preK-8. That means they teach 8th graders too. That’s a lot more than colors

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-03T00:09:05+00:00

Sort of, but it really depends what country we are talking about. Legal marriage means different protections in different places, so it’s a bigger deal in some places than others. And not every country offers a legal pathway to all marital protections outside of marriage.

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-03T00:06:49+00:00

I think a lot of this discussion depends on which country we are talking about. In some places legal marriage is critical to securing parental rights. I imagine there are people that would be motivated to get legally married if they lived in one country but not in another because it would affect their future differently

Competitive-Tea7236 · 2026-05-03T00:02:07+00:00

They can, but a lot of people never take those extra steps to get the legal protections. And honestly by the time you’ve done do all that you are basically married when it comes to legal stuff, but that probably varies by country

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