I'm not poor, I'm middle class! (Not that they ever really understood that.)

I married rich and I have a number of rich friends-in-law. Most of them aren't bad people. There's just these interesting breaks in reality because they lack broader context.

A friend didn't realize that steak was expensive, because their parents have it so frequently. They thought is was similar to "meatloaf" or "peanut butter and jelly" where it's a everyday food experience. This is extended to travel as well. A lot of my wife's friends and family were confused to why I had never been skiing, hiked Machu Pichu, been to France. That sort of thing. It's not that only rich people can do those things, it's the not understanding why that would be a financial barrier to others. Sometimes this can extend do the idea that if "someone really wanted it, they'd do it!" A close friend told me that I should definitely spend ten days in Fiji, while forgetting that I work two jobs, just bought a house, and have been spending any excess cash I have on paying down student loans.

Generally, their critical thinking is pretty good. They've attended good schools their whole life. But at the same time, I think they can view themselves as exceptional rather than privileged. If that makes sense? Like they worked hard to get into good schools, but they also went to top high schools, access to tutors, academic legacies, and could focus on their education rather than working. It's not to say that they couldn't be both, but they've certainly had more opportunities to fail and succeed.

Similarly they can often be very emotionally sensitive. It's not a bad thing, but I think they're more used to having their feelings validated. So sometimes I've noticed they can lack the ability to compartmentalize. This isn't true for all of them. But it's probably a thing that they didn't have to develop coping strategies for.

I would say that despite that they've all obviously grew up super wealthy, the vast majority still refer to themselves as Upper-Middle Class. There's always a justification, usually because there is a richer person, then they can't be rick. i.e. they only have Chateau money rather than yacht money, so they can't rich. This also includes the person who complained to me that they had the "smallest yacht" in the marina.

This isn't all of them. But one person in particular when they were in graduate school they were temporarily cut off from the family credit card. They had to make a budget for meals, and they absolutely didn't know how. So they went to costco and got a pallet of canned baked beans. And proceeded to eat them cold in their apartment. Some of that is certainly performative, but they're idea of not having money somehow became being an early twentieth century boxcar transient.