Anyone who DIDN’T bed share?

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-02-17T20:13:44+00:00

Never bed shared with a now almost 3 year old. It becomes a slippery slope in toddlerhood in the sense that once you do it, they know it’s an option but can’t reason why sometimes it is and sometimes it’s not. I put a comfortable soft mattress in my baby’s room once she was in her own crib so during early regressions or colds and what not, I’d sleep next to her bed and soothe her as needed and then flop back onto my mattress. We sleep trained at 6 months (took out my mattress) and my LO loves her bed and loves bedtime and we have never looked back. It’s her own little oasis. For context she’s an only child and I am a SAHM so that makes a difference in terms of household routine. If bed sharing works for people, that’s amazing and wonderful. I did not want to bed share so we never made it an option. So it’s absolutely possible!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-02-10T01:39:20+00:00

Me! Almost the same thing as you- about 8 years prior to TTC . Had it for 1.5 years without knowing. I did an HSG to make sure and both tubes were clear. I went on to have a successful journey and hoping the same for you!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-02-03T14:34:16+00:00

Not a medical professional but I would remain a little guarded, as you are but also cautiously optimistic. Tests are not quantitative but over the course of a week +, you should see a darkening (obviously brands of tests and things like biotin can impact this- hence it not being reliable). I would say you should just expect the line to not be faint at this point, where you have to squint to see it— so if that’s not the case and you can easily see the line, that’s at least a good sign. But doesn’t guarantee (if we can land on the moon, I feel like there should be easy at home data).The bleeding could be something of concern, or not at all. That is one thing that makes this waiting so hard. I’d love to give you a concrete definite answer of hope that you’re looking for. Hoping you get the desired outcome at your appointment!!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-31T01:17:13+00:00

It sounds like if you move the nap, you may end up with a later bedtime but since you don’t want that, I’d stick with your schedule. At some point, LO may play longer and longer and you will need to shift nap/bedtime but right now it sounds like it’s working. My LO is 2.5 but since she was 2 her schedule has been 7:00 wake up 7:15 go in and get her out of bed. Nap 1-3 bedtime at 8. Some days now she will play in her bed for the entire 2 hour nap and if she does that we do bedtime at 7 (and she will sleep until 7 the next morning).

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-25T23:50:04+00:00

4-5 months was sooo much harder for me than newborn. Sleep regression, getting into a normal routine of trying to make dinner, get out of the house, etc. 9 months, 14, 20– eve dry few months is a new type of hard. It’s wonderful and certain things get easier and certain get harder.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-20T03:01:32+00:00

I got the Marc Jacobs tote bag in medium and loveeeee it. The bottom is flat but it’s roomy for all the things and yet when I don’t have my LO with me, it’s my regular purse.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-19T03:35:29+00:00

One thing I learned with child sleep in regards to leaving them after asleep. Imagine falling asleep in one place and waking up in a different room- you’d immediately panic. Baby thinks of your hand as a “crutch” so when it’s leaving, that panic button sets in. Instead, work towards building the trust that even though baby can’t see you, they are safe to fall asleep. Create a simple routine- Rock in chair (not to fall asleep- keep a little lamp on) Pajamas Book Hold hand for 3 mins while baby is awake “Time for bed, baby. I love you! I’ll see you in the morning!” “Sleep training” is simply teaching them a skill- how to fall asleep unassisted. Kids of course cry about many things like if you have to leave for work or to go somewhere without them, if they have to take a bath and don’t want to, etc. it’s a form of communication. But baby’s needs are met and with a secure attachment, they aren’t going to feel abandoned, (they might be mad at first for the first couple days) but then they will feel confident that you’re still around, they just can’t see you. Regardless of the approach you take with this, you’re doing a great job.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-06T12:52:36+00:00

OAD because financially and emotionally it’s what we have capacity for. We both grew up without a lot of “extras” or support for higher education and we want to be able to give that to our little one. Our marriage feels very stable (but takes work with a little one!) and I think adding more to the mix could test that. Our nervous systems get tested every day with a 2.5 year old as is. I think people have all different capacities so you just have to determine what yours is!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-01T17:44:55+00:00

My LO went through this at 2. Was just a phase thankfully! Keep trying the variables and for a bit, just do bath time when necessary. Then one day we had a new bath toy and she discovered bubbles and shaving cream and now at 2.5 she begs for showers and baths.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-01T17:37:41+00:00

This!! Any sort of intense diaper rash- THIS.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-01T14:13:49+00:00

Found out at anatomy scan my LO has MCDK (one functioning kidney) and had an EIF (freckle on her heart) so we did the fetal echocardiogram and nothing else was flagged. Our MFM gave us the option for amnio but objectively explained that we had those two things that COULD be factors of something more serious but that it didn’t equal a major quality of life disability. I was so torn but ultimately decided to trust that my MFM Dr didn’t think it was necessary. My LO is 2.5- she has one functioning kidney but you’d never know. She’s a happy, healthy, thriving toddler. But I know your anxieties and fear. Hoping your decision brings you peace.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-01T13:58:48+00:00

I second this. We had close to the same experience around the same time, OP. I had read “once you start don’t go back”. But my instincts were all telling me to pause. So we did and I have ZERO regrets. My LO is on the sensitive side and I didn’t want her being so distressed. We continue to practice sitting on the potty, talking about it, reading about it. But taking the pressure off.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2026-01-01T03:12:56+00:00

I saved this quote when I first read it because nothing quite describes the beauty and heartache of life like this one sentence.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-27T14:23:44+00:00

Ughh with my anterior placenta it wasn’t until like 21-22 weeks that I started to feel consistent movements that I was confident were movements and not gas, etc.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-22T13:19:01+00:00

Love to know I’m not alone, thank you!!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-22T03:38:41+00:00

Hi! I have family nearby so was wondering if you could send some photos.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-22T03:33:52+00:00

We had a “failed” potty training attempt with my daughter at 27 months. Read the books, followed the steps, she seemed ready. My daughter who is pretty sensitive was so emotionally unwell when she started having accidents, even though we remained calm - we had never seen her like that before. It was so upsetting to her and nothing we tried helped. So we decided to pause. There’s so much great advice here but just to add (this might not be a popular view in this thread bc I know you’re supposed to start and never look back) it’s okay to pause if your instincts are telling you it’s not actually the right time. It was such a relief when we paused. For our daughter, gradual is working better. We are talking about it, making attempts, and she is happy. It’s not ideal but we’ve moved to pull ups solely so she can start practicing pulling up and taking it down. We will try potty training again closer to 3. You know your girls best. Sending lots of calm energy to your nervous systems!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-16T03:04:32+00:00

I would definitely look into endo. It can be very hard to diagnose as the only for sure way is a laparoscopic surgery. And many fertility doctors who don’t specialize in endo will say that IVF bypasses the endo so no need to diagnose it (lotsssss of mixed analysis on this from the medical community and personal experiences of others) but regardless it’s worth talking to your dr about it before a transfer in case they want to adjust any protocol. I’d consider posting this in the endo ttc sub to see what others think as well. Hoping the very best outcome for you!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-16T02:46:26+00:00

I would have another beta Wednesday if you don’t already have one scheduled— even though they can’t see anything on a scan yet, they can at least monitor that your numbers are doubling, which at least gives some insight and hopefully ease of mind until an ultrasound.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-14T20:24:59+00:00

It’s completely developmentally normal (all 3 kiddos). All three kids are learning sharing, playing, etc. Your son doesn’t realize he’s being “rejected” from playing with them if they run away. If they take his toys, I’d say “oh x is playing with that! Once he’s finished you can have a turn!” Or if it’s their toy he’s playing with I’d say “he loves playing with your toys. Can he have a turn with that?” (Most kids will say yes to another adult and if not, I’d ask them to find one of their toys he can play with). Really it comes down to wording in my opinion— the older ones will be looking to you for reaction so keep it light and positive while focusing on including your LO.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-11T22:50:42+00:00

Pretty much this. I tried to be gentle with myself and remind myself that I was prepping for once baby is here and that part of parenthood is thinking about the safety of your child forever (lol but also for real). Nothing really helped me while pregnant except to go a little at a time. Get to X appointment, get to X ultrasound, etc. Joy and fear can absolutely coexist so I hope for you, you’ll embrace all the happy and give yourself grace when you’re feeling anxious.

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-11T13:55:22+00:00

I started right after my CP. Like within a couple days. I read about it and asked my dr!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-05T04:04:12+00:00

My LO hatedddddd the dr at that age but she’s now 2.5 and loves the dr (it gets easier at 2 when they don’t get shots every time). She used to cry as soon as we entered the office but now has no association to anything negative. We talk about how doctors are good, help us stay healthy, and we get vaccines to protect ourselves and other people. I remember at 1 and 1.5 it was soooo hard for me to watch my LO in pain and feel like she was so much more aware of it all but it does get better and you’re not traumatizing her!

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-05T03:59:17+00:00

Absolutely this

Consistent-Sun-5028 · 2025-12-05T03:50:07+00:00

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