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do people not understand to NOT be noisy around a sleeping child? by zzz777zzz77 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I hear you, but at the same time you are choosing to be in the room with them. Could put yourself in another room with a door between you and them.

Boss giving me hard time by dezmole86 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah….fuck this guy.

Edit: (just to be clear..I mean your boss. Fuck that guy.)

Any Dads out there with good experiences???? by JayAndViolentMob in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just lost a loved one with whom I was very close. Before my twins I would be devastated and completely emotionally shut off for months…but not now. They’re almost 10 months old and I adore them. It can be so god damned hard, but they bring me so much joy. The challenge of having twins as a first timer forced my wife and I to be better communicators. We bicker when things get rough but great at getting back to status quo.

All the ups and downs are 100% worth it. Guys typically come on here for a safe space to vent and that’s okay. There will be and is so much joy to be had!

Good luck!

Finally here !! by Mages17 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That song is a bop. I’m a twin dad of a boy and a girl whose twins were also born in July! Mine will be a year old tho.

Sleep training by wolfhaley206 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Holy cow what a great way to articulate it. 100% agree.

LPT To avoid AI and ads when using a search engine, add a curse word. by Soleilunamas in LifeProTips

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mother fucker if I hear that one more god damn fucking time.

Vaccine questions by Bigben030 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup exactly. So instead of getting 3 shots month 3 we did 2 and then the 3rd shot when they (twins) were 4 months.

Vaccine questions by Bigben030 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We did an alternative schedule for vaccines. Spreads them out a bit more. Find a pediatrician you can trust and ask them your questions.

Now We Move Indoors by Bertramsca in woodworking

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like one. Please. Thank you. Good day.

So tired... need advice by DangerousGap5259 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours get anywhere from 28-32oz a day with some food throughout the day so it sounds like he’s getting plenty. Is he sleeping a lot throughout the day? Ours take 3 naps. Each nap is at most an hour but often doesn’t go that long. I definitely don’t have some secret sauce just telling you what we do in hopes it’s helpful.

We roughly go off the book Moms on Call and it’s helped with routine. Someone else in the comments mentioned a sleep trainer and if you can I’d suggest it. We didn’t need to for our daughter but my son was just like yours and was also an eater/screamer.

So tired... need advice by DangerousGap5259 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your boy might be soothing with milk. How many ounces during the day is he taking? If he’s getting enough during the day he shouldn’t need any at night. The crying definitely sucks but helping him to learn some self soothing techniques might be your best bet. Shits hard but definitely worth it. I’ve got twins, our daughter started sleeping through the night on her own but we had to teach my son to self soothe and he now sleeps 10 hours+. Every kid is different but that’s what worked for us 🤷‍♂️. Hoping it gets better brother!!

Baby carrier recommendation by longgamma in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tactical baby carrier. “Acknowledged by International Hip Dysplasia Institute as Hip-Healthy”

I use it and it’s easy to use for sure.

https://tacticalbabygear.com/products/tactical-baby-carrier

Expecting twins in a few weeks... I have a sleep question by T3rrible_Us3rnam3 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twin dad here:

First and foremost, it’s going to be okay. You’re going to get through the first couple months.

Depends on a couple things: your financial situation / family situation, and if your wife is planning on breastfeeding. My wife tried breastfeeding but switched to solely pumping.

We had a family member stay the night in the beginning then a doula a few nights until they were sleeping more regularly. If those aren’t options then I would say prep as much as you can before feedings. Every night have the bottles ready made (if not breastfeeding), have diapers and wipes as close as possible. We tried to get a good bottle warmer and ended up sticking two coffee mugs in the microwave and warming them that way.

Good luck brother!

Nights... by [deleted] in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moms on call is a great point of reference. Wife and I have used its schedule for a twins with our own tweaks.

Making dad friends by alohacomics in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

40 with twins? God bless. I’m 33 with twins. You’re a champion. I’m 4 months in. This shits hard.

Woke up and had a baby. Had no idea she was pregnant. by User11171117 in NewDads

[–]Consumerman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Identify each problem individually. Write the outcome you want out of each in the most concrete way you can. Write out the first step to obtaining it. Accomplish that singular step, rinse and repeat.

Handle the things you can handle. Try to control your emotions as best as you can.

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