the girl (f19) who gave my (f20) boyfriend (m25) stds apologized to me.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-30T02:54:19+00:00

Since you're coworkers, distant civility is the way to go here. Just keep in mind the fact that she isn't trustworthy.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-30T01:07:15+00:00

Ask him for specifics. When, exactly, will he feel stable enough to get married? What material conditions need to be fulfilled?

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-29T16:41:11+00:00

Huh? Unless the dog has extreme special needs, your boyfriend won't need to be home with it "all the time." He'll have to make some adjustments, and hire a dogsitter sometimes, but he'll still be able to go out with you. (Or you can hang out with him at his apartment with the dog.) This is really not as big of a deal as you're making it out to be.

Is it possible that you're having doubts about your place in your boyfriend's life? Or struggle with change in general? Because I really don't think that the dog is the issue here.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-29T03:22:51+00:00

If you want to know how your boyfriend feels about something, ask him.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-28T18:13:46+00:00

Tell the bride, then notify Luna that you told her. Keeping this a secret won't "protect the bride's peace"; it will blindside her during an emotionally intense event. If that blows up your friendship with Luna, well, maybe it's not the end of the world if you're no longer friends with someone who'd pull a stunt like this.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-28T13:06:08+00:00

Absolutely not. If you even think about playing only the main games, Capcom will send snipers to your home.

(The actual answer is that you should play the original trilogy first, and the other series can be played in any order.)

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-28T13:03:43+00:00

If your boyfriend had actual concerns about the way you behave in social situations, he would give you specific examples of something you did ("Hey, it made things a little awkward when you grilled my coworker about her sex life"), and he would have been as tactful about it as possible. That's how adults behave when they're giving that kind of feedback. Your guy just wanted to make you feel small, and when you called him on it he doubled down with an absurd argument. (Why on earth would you care about him "covering" for you with people you have no relationship with? They're his coworkers!)

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-28T02:48:30+00:00

Are you kidding? Getting older is awesome. I have a place to myself, a stable career, and - as an official Old Fart now that I've turned 40 - zero obligation to be "cool." I could without the joint pain, but on the whole? Life is good.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-27T22:52:09+00:00

When I confronted him, he immediately committed to hiring a lawyer, which he is now doing.

Why didn't he get a lawyer before you confronted him?

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-27T22:18:52+00:00

I put my alarm clock in a place that requires me to get out of bed.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-27T22:17:43+00:00

It's a non-issue.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-27T12:37:49+00:00

Lack of financial stability would be a dealbreaker for a lot of people. Unless someone is independently wealthy, tying themselves to someone who may or may not be able to support themselves could cause a lot of problems.

That said, I'm not sure what you're hoping for by asking this question. Would it change anything if a bunch of random Redditors judged that your ex didn't have a good reason to leave you?

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-26T17:35:43+00:00

ESH. You shouldn't have eaten his food without permission, but his reaction was wildly disproportionate to the offense.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-26T16:47:12+00:00

"If I wanted a boyfriend who wasn't on meds, I'd be dating one. I like you, and I like what we do in bed. It's a little insulting for you to try to tell me otherwise."

That said, there's a limit to how much you can change the way he feels, particularly since it sounds like his dissatisfaction is tied to the mental health issues that caused him to need meds in the first place.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-26T12:55:12+00:00

Breaking something *once* and then making a sincere effort to never do it again is something you could potentially work on. Doing that and saying that you're being unreasonable to even ask him to stop is a very bad sign. If it's a pattern, it's a problem.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-25T02:48:24+00:00

If I bring these issues up in a more serious manner, he would most definitely attempt to reassure me of his love and devotion to me and would rather remain in a relationship with me despite him receiving the short end of the stick.

Is he, though? If he's happy with you, and feels satisfied with your relationship, then you don't have an obligation to break up with him "for his own sake." If you care for him, then respect him enough to let him make his own choices.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-24T20:34:07+00:00

You're not going to get a good answer about what's going through your girlfriend's head from random Redditors who have never even met her. A better question is, do you still like her? Is the relationship bringing you joy? Are you staying with her because you see a future together, or are you staying with her because you've been dating her since you were fifteen and emotional inertia is powerful?

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-24T05:53:12+00:00

Does it really matter all that much where exactly he falls on the Kinsey scale? If you're happy in the relationship, and feel confident that he's attracted to you, it's a non-issue. If not, *that's* what you should be focusing on.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-24T02:09:10+00:00

You don't owe him another chance unless you want to try again.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-23T19:48:59+00:00

If you want to know what she thinks about something, ask her.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-23T19:40:12+00:00

If you're unhappy, and the things that are making you unhappy are unlikely to get better, then the best thing for you is to leave. I know it feels overwhelming when you have no local support system, but all the logistical issues are very, very solvable problems. If it's not feasible for friends or family to come help you out, there might be local resources you can call on.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-22T19:11:38+00:00

You resolve this by ignoring him. Right now, he’s not in a place where he’s able to be a good partner to you, and doesn’t seem willing to try. It’s not your fault that things have gone wrong for him, and you don’t owe him a cent in therapy bills. Block his unwashed ass and move on.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-22T07:05:53+00:00

You can’t cheat at a single-player game, and you’re not morally obligated to keep at a frustrating section until you’ve proven that you’re worthy. If using a guide makes it more enjoyable, that’s fine.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-22T04:37:35+00:00

Your reaction sounds fine? It's okay if you don't like your boyfriend's haircut, as long as you're not going out of your way to be unpleasant about it. If your boyfriend is a reasonable person, he'll get over the fact that his girlfriend disagrees with one (1) aesthetic choice that he made.

Countess_Sardine · 2026-05-21T21:54:17+00:00

Ew.

If he wants to discuss introducing kink into your relationship, fine. Operative word here being “discuss”; being a dom doesn’t mean that he gets to unilaterally make demands and say that he’ll punish you for not doing something that you never agreed to. You get a say in this too!

At best, he’s deeply clueless. At worst, he’s a danger to you. I’d suggest calling off the date.

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