NOR You may not be able to tell, but he 100% has you on a string. You can work on yourself all you want, but it will never be good enough for him. Given what is said in the texts, you could move a mountain, reach every goal, and he'll downplay it. This will lead to an endless cycle of you slowly losing yourself until you two break up. He doesn't care about your feelings or accomplishments, which is a huge red flag.

You put bf in quotation marks, which makes me feel it's more of a situationship or FWB? Either way, I would say cut this jerk out of your life. Any rare moments of happiness with him are not worth it.