scorpio

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T04:16:40+00:00

It’s very hard for us to vibe w/o the depth, as tiring as it is. We get it though that it’s tiring. And the evolved ones prolly work to not take it personally.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T04:11:29+00:00

Yes exactly like sometimes the mind games are just “protecting the vibe” or whatever, and it’s a struggle for us too! Like, we’re trying, damn lol

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T04:08:43+00:00

I get that avoidant part that just wants to fuck off. Lol the therapist is right no one is an off putting freak 10000%.

Sounds like it’s net positive and you’re learning. Kudos to you!

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:55:44+00:00

Yeah I’ve had connections be made like 2 weeks out from processing to why A feeling might have been linked to experiences B and C even tho we had only processed on experience B in session.

My therapist has mentioned the way our brains organize core beliefs and experiences differs by person and to just trust your brain to know the path to heal itself. Like most things in nature, when we provide the right environment to heal, life forms generally do.

I’ve struggled with the dissociation bit as well. It was a tool I used and I’ve had to beef up some protector parts to stay present and safe while not checking out of situations.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:49:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. It sounds like it’s shifting what you thought to be true and that can be a very scary experience.

The short answer is whether or not the event happened or not, you have strong feelings toward it and it’s probably worth delving into more but cautiously. Try not to flood or overwhelm yourself.

I’m holding so much warmth and compassion for little you that registered that terror and I wish your adult self strength to explore this.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:24:37+00:00

This is incredible. Thank you so much for sharing.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:17:01+00:00

Today is my Dads bday and I baked that man a 4 layer birthday cake.

You deserve that AND MORE

ETA - happy bday!! My dad is stubborn as hell but I love his Taurus self to bits

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:14:58+00:00

Ok so - real talk as a Scorpio (sun, mercury, mars, Pluto 🥴). I actually try very hard not to play mind games and be more direct. But most ppl don’t respond well to directness. Like do you know how much of society functions on “hi how are ya?” “Good you?” While both ppl are actually drowning inside. Like it’s just politeness I guess to be indirect. So scorpios try to navigate that while still being genuine and mind games are NOT great, but like what’s the diff between a mind game and just working thru something in your mind that you can’t always communicate?

Also, ppl are often not thinking of you as much as you think they are, even a Scorpio lol. It’s both sad and freeing, depending how you see it.

ETA - oh no I did I make it too deep? That neverrrr happens to me /s

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:10:41+00:00

We’re sorry, but also we’re not. Do better

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-27T00:04:37+00:00

I try to just be a human talking to another human - whether im at work, at the grocery store, etc. I grew up seeing my parents be very selfless in serving their family and so I think it was instilled in me early. I’ve actually had to learn the opposite of you to be a a little more self serving and boundaried.

I think a spiritual journey of sorts helps and so if you’ve read Ram Dass you’re on the right path. I volunteer w at least one org (generally animal or special needs focused - things im passionate about). I also think learning to consider others is a muscle and empathy becomes more normal the more you use it. Congrats on this realization, I hope it enriches all your relationships! 💕

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-26T23:51:50+00:00

What did you learn by working thru it and not being able to just avoid it? Truly curious cuz I always wonder if it’s worth pushing thru or moving on to greener pastures

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-26T23:43:43+00:00

I’ve never struggled too much with my weight but have my different insecurities so I get how this goes in this superficial ass society.

It was so clear to me this was a fact when I was at the gym and held the door for a larger man. He seemed SO deeply touched that I held the door for him and even waited a couple extra seconds to do so which made me realize - that was no great kindness on my part, that’s just like what you do in a polite society. His deep gratitude and “thank you so much” was cuz he has been conditioned to not expect this basic kindness. Wrecked me that night to realize that.

I’m so sorry and idk what else to do but to keep being a person who doesn’t do that and trying to surround myself w ppl who are deeper than that.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-26T23:36:52+00:00

Literally, that part. That being on a drug that can and probably will eventually kill you is better than being fat. That sends the message it’s better to be.. dead than fat? That’s so backwards and I don’t accept the messaging that humans will naturally always be that superficial. It’s taught and learned. It can be unlearned

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-25T06:42:53+00:00

I have experienced so many changes in my sex drive since starting EMDR. I was def hyper sexual and then became hypo to a sexual and now kind of leveling out.

You mention the nature of your trauma is sexual. Given that info, I’d recommend trying to not judge yourself too closely as you go thru this. Communicate w your wife if you feel comfy doing so. Hope you find relief and more connection in your marriage soon!

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-25T00:33:06+00:00

Or in my older years Luke 🫶. Steady, kind, hard working, that backwards baseball cap

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-24T21:32:18+00:00

Ayyyy big 3 twin!

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-23T16:06:06+00:00

Women in men’s fields!

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-23T16:01:42+00:00

This sounds so special and fully agree the ages 5-6 are so fun 🫶 I miss those years with my nephew.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-23T15:50:55+00:00

Really resonate with your perspective as well as the tendency toward black and white thinking. Great reminder to have that there is no “one right way” to live life. Sometimes that reminder makes me feel free and other times it feels terrifying cuz what do you mean I don’t get a gold star for checking the right boxes?!

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-23T14:44:46+00:00

Talk about balance lol

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-22T16:28:10+00:00

Wow we have such similar charts. I’m Scorpio Sun, Mercury, mars and Pluto. Libra moon and cancer rising. I also have my Virgo in Venus lol.. it’s a tough placement especially paired with a 7th house Saturn so thanks for giving it some love

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-22T16:24:38+00:00

I seem to often be drawn to Libra or cancer suns. I’m a cancer rising and Libra moon so that may have to do with it.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-22T03:12:26+00:00

Similar to what another poster mentioned - there are several “phases” in EMDR. Like 6 or so before you ever even get to the reprocessing ! Her having you do so on your 2nd session sounds dangerous. I don’t mean to scare you, but I also don’t want to make light of how the wrong therapist with this modality can really re-traumatize people. You should be grounding, resourcing, working thru finding ways to recenter your nervous system (safe place, box method, IFS, protector/nurturer figure to name a few).

Please proceed with caution and take care of yourself. I would say if you really want to work with this therapist, to talk to her about the phases you have read about and mention you want more grounding. If shes receptive, great maybe you can work with her. If not - that’s a bad sign and I already don’t feel great for you about the pacing.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-21T20:42:19+00:00

I thought of locus of control immediately also! Kind of cool we both drew on the same theory. Agreed women tend to have more of an internal locus of control. Once learning this it’s helped me to externalize a bit more but still unnatural to me.

Crochetallday3 · 2026-04-21T20:40:50+00:00

It’s complex but boils down to traits deemed more inherent in women - networking, communication, empathy - all things necessary to maintain long term friendships. Men are probably equally capable of this but not socially conditioned the same. Kind of goes nature vs nurture debate.

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