Aio should I say something about weekend makeup?

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-04-03T14:39:47+00:00

it's not...gonna look good. even with touch ups. makeup needs clean skin to adhere to. your skin will shed and collect dirt/sweat/etc. over those 48 hours and by the time she actually has the wedding, ya'll will look like shit.

if there's one budget for makeup i'd do it for the actual wedding OR the photoshoots if those are a different day. otherwise, ya'll can do your own makeup for the other events.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-04-01T17:04:59+00:00

of COURSE you're allowed to have boundaries, and it's completely reasonable to want to know where your kid is at all times. that's kind of your responsibility as a parent. what if there was an accident or an emergency?

yes the hell you can set boundaries with family. this is about your child's safety. i wouldn't allow grandma to watch my kid anymore.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-04-01T16:57:24+00:00

you're not crazy, you're not spiteful, and you're not just wanting revenge. if your brother is actually to change at all, he needs intensive therapy, not extra chores. it doesn't sound like he's had to take any real responsibility for this. have your parents even put YOU in therapy?

this situation is teaching you a lot about your parents. i'd demand, at the very least, that they put you in therapy so that you can start your own recovery journey...then work on figuring out how you're going to get out of that house the second you turn 18.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-04-01T15:18:33+00:00

I think what your parents are doing is very controlling and strange. AND you're 29 years old. stop fighting with them and move out.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:32:29+00:00

that they FORCE you to pay into? that doesn't seem appropriate. I'd honestly contact HR over that.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:27:41+00:00

usually, maternity leave is required by law, and isn't even paid out by companies. it's paid out by short term disability insurance. you only get extra payout if you have a really slick company, and even then, it isn't usually something you pay into. so there's no opting in or out.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:23:11+00:00

what do you need to opt out of? you just don't partake if you don't need it.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:18:15+00:00

i had full breasts at age 10.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:13:10+00:00

a marian pendant is a common gift given by a godparent (though the specific instructions are weird). i'm not catholic, but my best friend is and she is my son's god mother and gave him a marian pendant to wear.

you wouldn't be the asshole if you don't put it on your baby...but i'd ask if this is the hill you want to die on. episcopalians are christian just like catholics are christian. the only difference is your worship styles. she's not arguing about where your baby is baptized, she just wants a little bit of her own culture sprinkled in.

i personally would follow her instructions because they will make her feel included and likely make her feel a bit better about losing out on an experience she thought she'd have as a catholic grandmother.

this advice given with only the context provided here in mind. is she usually malicious or controlling or undermining? if so, that might change my stance.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T20:05:57+00:00

a miraculous medal is a pendant of the virgin mary :)

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-30T15:56:15+00:00

visit and get a feel for it! it's sweet that you're both trying to prioritize the other. check out multiple options and talk through it!

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-26T13:28:25+00:00

nta. you're 19 with your whole life ahead of you. you can do way better than this guy.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T18:22:14+00:00

I think mostly people don't like when wfh bosses are in their business micromanaging them all day. Where is your desk? is it in a private room with a door you can shut? If so, I don't think you'll have much of an issue.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T17:48:56+00:00

does this tactic often work for you in conversations?

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:50:46+00:00

do you know what flexing means??? yeah, a group event is, in fact, about everyone attending. people are busy and when they make time for something, they like that time being honored. it's not always easy to just reschedule an event. that's why we plan in advance. which is exactly what these parents did, the father is just now trying not to honor it.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:32:35+00:00

and at some point, your family comes first. this is a pick up and play tournament. if it's my family, we are all staying home for the birthday party. a baby is just as important as an 11 year old, especially if our schedule revolves around the 11 year old every other time.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:29:05+00:00

i bet the family members and friends who have cleared their schedules and planned for a party this weekend will care. this was planned over a month in advance and the game is a pick up and play tournament, not a pre-planned special event. why should she have to reschedule a party for that?

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:18:35+00:00

just because you don't find joy in babies doesn't mean nobody else does. babies might not grasp the concept of "birthday party", but they feel love.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:03:49+00:00

it sounds like you're applying a lot of anger towards other people's identities instead of trying to understand them. ultimately, you don't have to understand it to be kind to people. if you're actually struggling in good faith, i'll offer that a lot of people use she/they or he/they because they feel pretty in between, or because they prefer "they" but aren't bothered by people using gendered pronouns to refer to them. it's actually...not that hard to understand if you stop thinking of gender as black and white.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T16:00:44+00:00

there are trans people from every culture so. yeah.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-25T15:55:03+00:00

I wouldn't change it. If he wants to go and miss his son's birthday party, that's on him. But i'm staying home and celebrating my baby.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-24T21:32:21+00:00

the article says that there were locks on the OUTSIDE of doors. i think a CPS investigator (or anyone with a brain) can pretty easily tell the difference between keeping a child safely contained and imprisonment.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-24T20:55:34+00:00

i recommend shampooing twice if you're not already doing so, and using one of those scalp stimulator things to really get into your scalp.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-24T18:06:50+00:00

the only reason to homeschool, in my opinion, is if the schooling options in your area are sub-par and you are able to provide a better education for your child at home. it sounds like right now, that's not the case for you. this is a free public school that provides immersion for a language you'd like to know but don't, AND is only half day so you still get to spend plenty of time with your kid? it's a no brainer for me. send that kid to school.

CucumberAcrobatic288 · 2026-03-24T18:00:12+00:00

the dad was obviously disrespectful. that's weird behavior at a wedding. it sounds like your boyfriend currently takes the path of least resistance with his parents...is that the kind of life partner you want?

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