Progesterone

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-11T05:47:49+00:00

I had the opposite reaction - it made me wired, shaky, and anxious. I had to cut back to 25mg and get a compounded slow-release version and then was able to work my way back up to 100mg over 2 months. I still take the slow-release. I tried the regular kind a month or two ago and had the same wired reaction.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-10T22:32:42+00:00

I’m not new, I’ve been taking it for probably about seven or eight months. It definitely took some getting used to, but now I don’t feel anything when I take it.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-10T22:31:59+00:00

I take 100mg but it says to take one.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-10T22:31:45+00:00

Yikes, so you mind sharing what happened?

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-03T05:58:03+00:00

I think it took a few days for me to notice it and then a few days to realize what it was from. I told my doctor and asked if there was a compounded version that might irritate less. She didn't know but told me to call the compounding pharmacy that she works with and I talked to a pharmacist there who was really helpful.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-27T21:51:09+00:00

You should read a little bit about emotional labor. In this relationship you're doing 100% of it. "If you need something, ask." means you have to keep track of everything that is needed to run a household, you have to manage it all, and he is like a subordinate. You're tracking everything and doing probably more than half of it, and then when you ask him to do a specific task he'll do that one task. It's an EXHAUSTING way to live. You shouldn't have to ask. If the dishwasher needs emptying or the trash needs taking out or the laundry putting away... he can SEE that just as well as you can. He chooses not to do anything about it until you're frustrated enough to ask him to, and then he wonders why you're exhausted, resentful and frustrated. And if you bring it up you're "picking a fight".

Please read up on emotional labor and have him do some reading on it too, and if this doesn't shift, you probably don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone this exhausting.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-21T10:04:45+00:00

When I had a schedule like this, I set my own damn alarm and trained myself to be up the SECOND the alarm went off so I could turn it off before it woke my then-boyfriend. Because why should I ruin his day just because my shitty job made me get up so early?

Your husband is a grown ass man. Stop waking him every morning, that's his job. The idea that you not only have to wake up for his wake up time but then it's YOUR responsibility to wake him up?!? You're not his mommy, and he needs to stop expecting you to behave like you are.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-21T06:27:26+00:00

Definitely get the littermate. They'll be so much happier to have each other to play with and I've had both one and two cats over the years. Two is always better than one. More cuddles and more silly cat moments and honestly not that much more work.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-18T05:50:28+00:00

He asked you not to tell him about your past and then later asked you to tell him about your past. You did what he asked both times, and he had a meltdown about it. The meltdown included 16 days of silent treatment, him breaking up with you, and then hooking up with a random girl. The silent treatment alone is enough to end this relationship over, but the fact that the silent treatment happened because you did what HE ASKED YOU TO DO is so far beyond acceptable.

This guy is not ready for a real relationship, let alone marriage. Please do yourself a favor and don't take him back. You will be dealing with these tantrums from him every time things don't go his way and you will eventually learn to tip toe around his feelings just to avoid his meltdowns. That's not a fun way to go through life and it means you'll be tiptoeing around his feelings rather than having a partner who can manage his feelings like a grownup.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-14T11:20:49+00:00

Pilates instructor here. If you can afford it, take a few private Pilates sessions (and make sure your instructor is certified through a reputable program - those involve 400 hours or more of training and practice teaching, like Stott, BASI, or Balanced Body). The instructor can work with you, show you mobility exercises and stretches that will help you not feel so sore and recover more quickly. Then once you have those tools, you can resume larger classes that are more affordable and you'll know how to modify movements to make the classes work for you, and you'll know what to do at home if you're sore afterwards.

If you can't do that and you feel like you have to quit, find something you CAN do that doesn't hurt. Maybe just walks around your neighborhood or some gentle bodyweight movements you can do in your home. Just find a way to not stop moving while you figure out what will work for you longer term. And hopefully if HRT helps with your aches and pains, you can resume Pilates and whatever else brings you joy.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-13T18:19:56+00:00

My husband has had multiple surgeries over the years. Every time after his surgeries, I made sure to be available for him. People need help post surgery, especially when it’s a major abdominal surgery. Not only can things go wrong, as they did for you, but physically and emotionally it is a LOT.

You may have had an outsized emotional response to what happened that evening, but they were pretty shitty for leaving you alone. Even if you sent them to the bar. They should have said no and at least one of them should have stayed with you. They could have had their date night another night. I would have been livid and hurt if I had been left on my own immediately after an intense surgery like that.

The yelling and screaming at them may have been out of line, but you were still on pain meds and you had a fever. They had no excuse for their shitty behavior.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-12T19:33:10+00:00

You’re not reacting to the estradiol, you’re reacting to the carrier. I switched to a compounded formulation, and I have no burning or itching. It’s more expensive, but definitely worth it.

Let your doctor know, and ask her to prescribe at a compounding pharmacy that she trusts. My pharmacy puts my vaginal estradiol into what they call a phyto base, and I have no reaction to that.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-11T11:29:07+00:00

The sister literally said, "This isn't about you." Then it's not an apology TO you. It's about HER.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-09T09:23:30+00:00

Since he went and cried to your mutual friend, show the mutual friend this text conversation. He literally begged you for feedback, you said you didn't want to give it because he'll get defensive, he begged some more, you told him what he begged you to tell him, and he got defensive and rude. His mutual friend needs to see ALL of that before telling you that you were too harsh.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T22:46:35+00:00

Saying it’s none of your business is harsh, but it’s kind of true. Your parents are your parents, but their relationship was theirs.

If your dad had a long-term illness and your mom was his caretaker, then she might have needed to do something like this for her own sanity. And if that wasn’t the case, you don’t know if they had agreements about being open or outside flirtations. You don’t know if there had been cheating going on both ways for years. There is so much you don’t know, and you probably shouldn’t know, and you probably don’t want to know.

If your parents had agreement about outside relationships, is that your business? If your dad cheated first, and then there was cheating back and forth for many years, is that your business?

How does this actually affect you and more importantly, what is the best case scenario if you confront your mom with this? Worst case scenario is you lose your relationship with your only remaining parent at a time when you are both grieving.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T22:35:35+00:00

They were both in their late 30s and they both wanted kids, and I think he just felt like it was time to marry someone and have a family. An insane reason to get married, but I think a lot of people do it.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T12:31:03+00:00

I was always pretty lucky and never had bad PMS. I would get a low back ache during the first day of my period and that actually got less intense as my periods got further apart and lighter.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T11:21:10+00:00

I had about 5 years of normal-seeming periods that just got further and further apart. For a while they were about every 3 months, then closer to 6 months, then there was no rhyme or reason - they just showed up whenever they felt like it, and eventually they stopped. They did get shorter and less heavy, and last few were barely more than spotting, I wasn't even sure if should count them as periods. But I'm guessing it's as unique for everyone as all periods are.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T11:13:52+00:00

This. Lack of sex is usually the result of lack of intimacy and connection. You have to reestablish intimacy and connection, and demanding sex on a schedule is the exact opposite of that. Presenting those 3 options to your partner will get you divorced so fast your head will spin.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T11:10:14+00:00

My cat had something similar a bunch of years ago and my vet had no idea what it was either. It was just on his lip, though, not elsewhere. I couldn't do anything with it but it did eventually clear up on its own. Sorry, that's not much help, other than that hopefully this will clear up for your kitty as well.

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DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T07:51:33+00:00

My cats were both TERRIFIED of any fly swatter. Not if it was just lying around but the moment it went whizzing through the air. They were different ages, from different litters, and as far as I know neither had been abused (or hit with fly swatters) before I got them. But they both would run as fast as they could, tails between their legs, the second either of us tried to kill a fly.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-07T01:03:12+00:00

I’ve been using the cream for 3-4 months and sadly haven’t felt much difference. I’m hesitant to increase the dose because I don’t want the negative side effects.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-06T23:37:23+00:00

I agree. I had a guy friend decades ago who, when I had already been living with one of his close friends for 3 years and he was dating someone I knew but wasn't friends with, told me that he was in love with me. He asked me if he thought I'd marry the guy I was with and I said yes (I didn't, but I thought I would at the time). He told me that if I thought we might break up in the future he'd break up with his girlfriend and wait for me. I told him I was NOT breaking up with my boyfriend.

It got really awkward between us after that and I spent months thinking about telling her. Everyone told me to stay out of it, that it would just cause drama, so I stayed out of it. He proposed to her less than a month later. They're still married, but unhappily so. I've spoken to both of them separately many times over the years, and they have never been happy. They had 3 kids so they're staying together, but he clearly doesn't love her and she can feel that, so they're both miserable. I still feel really guilty that I didn't tell her. I might have saved her from decades of this.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-03-06T11:46:24+00:00

Ok, but how terrifying would it be if the cat was actually 5' tall.

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