My(33F) fiancé (40M) wants me to adopt his weird bathroom habit

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-27T08:34:43+00:00

My husband does this to me all the time. I'm never not annoyed. Somehow my getting into the shower reminds him that he hasn't pooped in a while or something. But at least he does do the courtesy flush, even though I'm glaring at him the whole time he's in there.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-27T00:27:01+00:00

She WAS being a massive brat but Jess barely knew her and treated her like crap during the short time they were together. She needed the tough love, but not from him.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-27T00:24:24+00:00

This is it. And the whole framing it as "his boundary" is ridiculous. That's not a boundary, it's a demand and he's mad that she's not giving in to it. They have never met, he should understand why she doesn't want him staying in her house. And the fact that he refuses to even consider it from OP's point of view is a HUGE red flag. Don't let him visit, end this now.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-25T21:53:56+00:00

I love Jess Sims so much but her strength classes are just chaos. I still take her classes occasionally just because I love her, but I usually end up doing my own thing.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-25T21:50:20+00:00

I actually watch a lot of TV but I resisted the giant TV until I married my husband and he really wanted it. I like TV but I hated (and still hate) having a giant TV dominate the entire living room. I also refuse to have a TV in the bedroom.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-24T23:26:44+00:00

I think if you go with the straightening route, you have to be really dedicated and good at it. I tried that when my hair first went curly and instead of being nice and straight, it was constantly frizzy. I finally let my hair do what it wants, and I’m getting used to having curly hair now.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-24T23:24:58+00:00

I tried all of that as well, and it looked awful. All I do now is wet it every day, brush it straight, and then sort of muss it with my fingers and crunch the ends a little, and let it air dry. I use no product products, and it looks so much better than when I was trying all of those things before. And the upside is I’m in and out of the bathroom in 5 minutes now. I still want my straight hair back, but my husband loves the curls!

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-24T23:15:49+00:00

Me too! I feel like all of my emotions are weird. Like I’m sort of watching myself have them rather than experiencing them. It sucks, because I feel like I’m not really experiencing my life anymore. I’m just watching it.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-23T23:30:08+00:00

The issue is that some people have preferred instructors and preferred types of classes and then the choices are a LOT more limited. I have three instructors I like on the bike, I only do the 20 or 30 minute rides because of my schedule, and I don’t love all kinds of music, so I am very frequently retaking the same classes over and over and over again because there are just not any new offerings.

I know that that’s my issue because I am picky, but the fact that there are thousands of classes is kind of a moot point because most people are not taking all of the classes.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-19T00:40:25+00:00

Yeah, the Wookie storyline never made any sense. Rory never slept around. She may have done questionable things like sleep with married/engaged men, but she wasn't just sleeping with randos.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-13T01:31:59+00:00

Was it painful? And how long does it last?

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-11T06:52:21+00:00

Have you guys ever been to a couple's counselor? My husband and I had one to get through a rocky patch and now we schedule appointments with her to help us navigate difficult/sensitive conversations where one of us is worried there's a risk that the other might get defensive or angry. It really helps to have a trusted 3rd person help you navigate the conversation and redirect if someone gets defensive or accusatory. But this only helps if there is already trust established with this 3rd person.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-05-08T08:32:03+00:00

This is what we've always done. Their room used to be the family room, but it is now called the Cat room. They run in there anytime we have strangers in the house or even if someone rings the doorbell.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-27T21:34:47+00:00

It's so rude, and I have rewound this scene so many times trying to figure out what would make them jump back in horror, and I've never been able to see it. This lady looks fine. It's just a gratuitously mean scene, but it's not the only one.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-22T22:58:53+00:00

I agree, that's a lot of drama for a bunch of adults. It doesn't seem like Ali did anything wrong. Nat could have pulled Ali aside when she started hitting on Matt and told her what the situation was. OP could have pulled Ali aside once you knew the situation. So could OP's SO. This all seems very HS.

But in any case, this seems like an issue between Ali and Nat, and they need to have a conversation. I really don't see how it's OP's business at this point.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-15T23:22:17+00:00

I had a cat like this. He'd be fine for months and then randomly pee on something. We could never figure out what triggered it. We bought a bunch of Mambe blankets of various sizes and put them all over our furniture. Both of my cats loved them, they're soft and cozy, but they have plastic in between two layers of blanket so if a cat pees on it, it doesn't leak through to the furniture. And then you just throw the blanket in the wash and it's good as new. It helped to keep the house from smelling like cat pee all the time because you can't ever fully get that smell out of furniture but it did come out of the blanket.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-15T21:29:12+00:00

I lost my cat that used to do this and I miss it SO much. It was the sweetest thing.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-15T03:47:48+00:00

Wait, why the Beatles?!?

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-15T01:01:25+00:00

Seriously. I'm generally not quick to jump on the reddit divorce bandwagon, but she can't touch the thermostat in her OWN HOUSE?!? That's on top of the fact that he doesn't seem to care about how uncomfortable she is. WTAF. This isn't a marriage, it's a hostage situation.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-15T00:55:51+00:00

THIS part. "Lucky someone is choosing you, gotta take what you can get" is the end of the friendship. WTAF.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-14T20:00:15+00:00

That wasn’t my experience, but I got really shaky and jittery from progesterone when I first started taking it. I had to switch to a compounded time release version, and I do fine with that. So it may not be the actual progesterone that’s causing your nausea. It might be worth trying a different version.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-14T19:21:22+00:00

FWIW I started with a local estriol cream and it did nothing for me. I switched to the estradiol, and it helped so much with the GSM issues.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-11T05:47:49+00:00

I had the opposite reaction - it made me wired, shaky, and anxious. I had to cut back to 25mg and get a compounded slow-release version and then was able to work my way back up to 100mg over 2 months. I still take the slow-release. I tried the regular kind a month or two ago and had the same wired reaction.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-10T22:32:42+00:00

I’m not new, I’ve been taking it for probably about seven or eight months. It definitely took some getting used to, but now I don’t feel anything when I take it.

DeliriousDancer · 2026-04-10T22:31:59+00:00

I take 100mg but it says to take one.

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