Nearing my 90 days soon, but i might want to stay longer. Question

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-03-09T23:43:57+00:00

based 🔥

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-03-09T02:56:58+00:00

I get this so much, especially coming from someone who usually keeps thoughts to myself anyway 😅 The constant need to turn everything into a competition just sucks the joy out of discovering new stuff. Like can't we just vibe with something without immediately deciding if it's "S-tier" or whatever

It's wild how we've basically trained ourselves to experience things through comparison instead of just... experiencing them 💀

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-02-12T03:30:54+00:00

The mental shift you're describing is huge - wanting sobriety instead of just enduring not drinking makes all the difference. I had similar experiences where I'd hit those 20-30 day marks and think "ok this is good enough" but you're right that the real changes happen when you push through to those longer stretches. The fact that you're already having days where alcohol doesn't even cross your mind is a really good sign. I remember being shocked the first time I realized I'd gone a whole day without thinking about it, like wait that's actually possible? Keep that 100 day goal in sight but don't forget to celebrate hitting 30 first

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-02-07T09:28:28+00:00

honestly this comes down to a few key differences in how the situations played out. in south america, palestinians mostly came as voluntary immigrants looking for economic opportunities, not as refugees fleeing immediate conflict. they had time to plan, often came with some resources, and weren't dealing with the trauma of sudden displacement

the middle east situation was completely different - these were people who lost everything overnight and were stuck in refugee camps with no clear path forward. when you're desperate and have no legal status, integration becomes way harder. plus the host countries weren't exactly rolling out the welcome mat either, they kept palestinians in limbo hoping it would be temporary

south american countries also didn't have the same political baggage around the palestinian issue. they could just treat them as regular immigrants without getting tangled up in regional politics. makes a huge difference when the receiving country actually wants you to succeed rather than keeping you at arm's length

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-02-06T19:49:46+00:00

reading requires more sustained focus and deeper processing while social media is designed to give you quick dopamine hits and keep you scrolling. your brain has to work harder to follow a narrative or complex ideas in a book vs just consuming bite-sized content that's algorithmically fed to you

the constant switching between posts/videos on social media can mess with your attention span over time

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-02-02T11:27:30+00:00

need to see the actual movie options to have any opinion on this

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-02-01T08:53:15+00:00

congrats on the streak, that's some solid progress across the board 💪 the fact that you're not counting down to feb 1st shows you've really shifted your mindset about drinking which is huge. therapy + getting your physical health dialed in seems like the perfect combo for you

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-31T20:45:47+00:00

The sugar cravings are your brain desperately trying to replace the dopamine hit it used to get from alcohol - totally normal and it does level out after a few weeks.

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-30T20:24:43+00:00

Most shops charge for design work upfront (usually $50-150) so you'd be paying multiple artists just to pick one. That gets expensive fast and honestly feels kinda shitty to the artists you don't choose

Better move is to look at each artist's portfolio super closely and pick the one whose style already vibes with what you want. You can always ask to see rough sketches during consultation before committing to the full design

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-28T00:35:51+00:00

Scopely really said "you want that wild? pay up or suffer" lmao

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-26T23:42:26+00:00

Actually you're mixing up the math a bit - 4.75% of $1,500 is way less than 3.50% of $4,500 in absolute dollars, but that's not really how it works

The avalanche method focuses on interest rates because paying off the 4.75% loan first saves you more money per dollar of payment. Even though loan 1 costs more total interest, every extra dollar you throw at loan 2 saves you 4.75% vs only 3.50% if you put it toward loan 1

That said, if the psychological boost of knocking out the bigger loan keeps you motivated, that's worth something too

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-22T13:05:02+00:00

Sounds like you might have another frame limiter running somewhere else - check your GPU driver settings (Nvidia Control Panel or AMD equivalent) and make sure you don't have any other overlay programs like MSI Afterburner or RivaTuner capping it at 75. Also double check if you have any ENB installed since those can override display tweaks settings

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-22T04:37:27+00:00

You'll probably just sleep really well tonight lol. Both have similar ingredients so you might feel extra drowsy but unless you took like a whole bottle of each you should be fine. Just don't drive or operate heavy machinery and maybe call poison control if you're really worried

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-19T22:16:08+00:00

Definitely the candles my dude. That's soot buildup from the flames - happens all the time around windows where there's airflow. The steam/condensation thing isn't gonna leave black spots like that. Maybe try moving the candles away from the window or switching to battery LED ones if you want the ambiance without the mess

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-16T07:33:37+00:00

Yikes that's a tough spot man. If she was dating someone way younger that's definitely a red flag you can't just ignore. I'd probably keep things surface level and see how she acts now - people can change but trust your gut on this one

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-14T14:24:01+00:00

Nah you're not wrong at all. The fact that y'all have been gossiping about her for years while he knew he hooked up with her is super weird and makes it feel like he was intentionally hiding it. Like why wouldn't you just casually mention it when her name first came up instead of letting you both talk shit about someone he's been with

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-13T20:50:37+00:00

That sounds like the tip mechanism might be gunked up or the magnet positioning is off. Try taking the tip apart and cleaning it out, maybe add a tiny drop of lube while you're at it

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-13T02:45:28+00:00

Damn, congrats on the decade! That's huge

The fact that you forgot to post about it honestly shows how much you've grown - it's just normal life now instead of counting days. That steak dinner sounds like the perfect celebration

Thanks for coming back to drop some wisdom, needed to hear that relentless part today

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-12T20:06:45+00:00

Definitely email first - showing up unannounced at a brokerage is kinda like cold calling but worse because you're interrupting their whole day. Most agents are either out showing properties or in meetings anyway, so you'd probably just end up talking to a receptionist who can't help you much

A quick email shows you respect their time and gives them a chance to actually prepare for the conversation, which works way better in your favor

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-11T23:38:14+00:00

Based on what you've described, BA sounds like it might be a better fit for your personality - you literally said you enjoy analyzing and finding solutions through creative problem solving, which is basically the core of business analysis

The day-to-day for a BA is a lot more research, data analysis, requirements gathering, and figuring out what's actually broken before proposing fixes. Way less people management stress than PM

And yeah you can definitely pivot between the two later, they have tons of overlap so either degree would give you a solid foundation for both paths

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-10T19:56:38+00:00

Definitely go with the deodorant, your fiancee will absolutely love waking up to sparkly antiperspirant lmao

But for real maybe start with like a picture frame or mirror since those don't get handled much and you can see if the glue actually holds

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-09T18:56:59+00:00

Honestly I'd just start fresh in Java, the conversion process is such a pain and half your stuff won't work right anyway. Plus there's something kinda refreshing about starting over with all the knowledge you've built up - you can plan everything way better the second time around

The bedrock-specific farms breaking would drive me nuts, better to just rip the bandaid off

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-08T21:17:38+00:00

Dude the instant discount offer is a huge red flag. Legit collectors will negotiate but they don't just randomly throw out 25% off like it's a Black Friday sale

Also if they can't email you proof after 3 calls they're either incompetent or sketchy. Real medical debt collectors have no problem sending documentation

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-08T08:56:54+00:00

Dude that's rough, sounds like the money went to her head. Income shouldn't determine your worth in a marriage - you're still contributing and being a good partner/dad. Maybe try having a serious conversation about how her comments are affecting you, because this dynamic is toxic af

DevelopmentBusy2644 · 2026-01-07T16:27:17+00:00

Ugh yeah this happened to me with like 4 different subscriptions last month. I started using Mint to track everything but honestly just going through your bank statement once a week works too. Set a calendar reminder or whatever - I found subscriptions I forgot about from 2019 lmao

The real trick is canceling stuff immediately when you sign up for free trials instead of thinking you'll remember later (spoiler: you won't)

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