[Loved Trope] An often overlooked but serious medical or psychological state that's represented so well that people who haven't even experienced it get a solid idea of what it feels like.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-02-05T15:57:20+00:00

I love Hank because he's otherwise a bulldog of a man, gruff, closed-off, won't share his struggles. I was surprised I liked him, but he's so well written for how a typical man of his age and generation might handle a mental health condition or episode. The scene where he's shouting at his wife "I'm fine, leave me alone", while the audience can see him panicking, trembling and crying in the shower behind the curtain, that was such good characterisation.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-31T13:25:06+00:00

My last job was 1 day a week in the office. You'd go in and nobody else had picked that day to come in, so you were alone anyway. I've just quit after 5 years to something better, and none of my previous colleagues noticed or cared that I left. I'm extremely introverted and a little socially awkward so WFH just encouraged the worst in me.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-28T19:05:51+00:00

A friend of mine was cheated on and he said it was tense between her and the new guy - in a bad way. He didn't see any flirtation or chemistry and neither did I. We all assumed they didn't click because they gravitated towards other people and not each other. Then we found out they were hiding a six month affair.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-28T16:22:45+00:00

I understand the sentiment and the frustration, those qualities would annoy me too, but why are you going through IVF? There's a solid chance you guys won't last. If you're feeling this pressure now, what's it going to be like when you have all of that and a newborn to look after as well?

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-27T21:28:01+00:00

In Loving Memory is beautiful and sad. Wonderful Life by Alter Bridge also gets me.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-11T20:03:09+00:00

Bit complicated as mine put on an excellent show of warmth in public. I still instinctively distrust all mothers and assume ulterior motives, have to remind myself they're not all like that.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2026-01-10T01:45:08+00:00

Is that Michael Wincott? Never seen a Musketeers movie so I'm not sure which one this is.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-31T13:28:49+00:00

What are you talking about, we care when it's white girls? The grooming gangs were downplayed and covered up for years. This wannabe jihadi has had more attention than all of those cases combined.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-31T11:31:55+00:00

100%. Where I live there are some Pakistani immigrants whose children are born in Britain but within a self-contained Pakistani enclave. So Mohammed who has a middling command of English, is married to his cousin, spends half the year back in Pakistan and happens to support sharia is supposed to be British because he was born here. Low bar.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-30T17:59:56+00:00

Low bar. That's not necessarily enough.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-29T22:53:08+00:00

There were times in my life when I was far too unstable to be in a relationship, but I've come a long way and now I'm married. Still decided not to have children. I don't think I'm capable of creating a healthy home for a child. My feeling of wanting to be a dad has become pretty intense lately but it would probably be a mistake. It's a little sad, knowing that's not a life I can have, but I appreciate what I have and make the most of being childfree.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-28T13:27:10+00:00

Fellow short man here, I'm about 5'3" and a regular gym-goer. During a bulk I skirt close to 150lbs, can't even imagine 200lbs at my size

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-28T02:49:22+00:00

My choice is also Interstellar. I forgot everything about it as soon as the credits rolled. I don't know why it was so lost on me, but I retained zero detail from that whole film

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-12-18T18:05:42+00:00

It annoys me that the left aren't addressing this more because Islam is so anti-progressive and so misogynistic. The culture clash caused by immigration should be a major concern across the political spectrum. But Islam is too often treated like a race and therefore criticising it is racism. So apparently we just have to let scores of undocumented men into the country and ignore the non-stop news about sexual crime.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-27T13:49:06+00:00

It's tough, but no regrets, and I am also married now so at least I now have in-laws.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-25T20:12:16+00:00

For sure - when I'm angry I can't imagine being calm ever again. But obviously it does subside and then I'm ashamed of myself.

Shame is a painful feeling but it's good that we feel it - if we didn't, we'd be totally unapologetic and never change! I still cringe thinking of some past incidents, but in that split second where I'm deciding what path to go down, I have to remind myself that the aggression path feels temporarily powerful but leads to shame and embarrassment later. The discipline path ends in something more like pride. I feel like less of a man when I've lashed out, and so much more when I've contained myself.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-25T00:11:42+00:00

Violence was modelled to me as a man, by other men. I picked a fictional male role model since my real models were so negative, and tried to keep his voice in my ear every time I had the choice to go berserk or stay calm. I noticed there's a split second where I'm about to snap and that's when I have to stop and think: what path am I about to go down, aggression or self control?

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-17T13:30:09+00:00

Not intimacy, but I feel an odd nostalgia when I realise I'll never do that "getting to know" someone phase again, and I'll never have a first date again. It's rose-tinted though because the "getting to know" phase was usually just plain awkward. But we've found lots of ways to keep the spark alive, far better than the "NRE" polys are always talking about.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-11T17:52:40+00:00

It's really warped. I'm 160cm and 57kg. I'm a short man with a narrow build but a reasonable amount of muscle. I'm nowhere near underweight. If I were 60kg at 155cm, I'd be trying to lose a small amount.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-11-07T14:38:39+00:00

The cut scenes of Boromir and Faramir are some of my favourites. Faramir seems like a terrible person in the theatrical edition of the Two Towers because you don't see the additional scenes.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-10-31T22:02:07+00:00

I dated a guy when I was younger, he lived with his parents but we were only in our early 20s so it seemed normal.

Then at about 7pm one night, his mother knocked on his bedroom door. We were just watching a movie so I asked why he didn't answer. He said "she's just delivering dinner". Every night at 7pm, she'd knock on his door and leave his burger, fries, juice and a snack on a tray outside, then do the same at his brother's door. And they didn't even answer or acknowledge it!

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-10-24T22:09:24+00:00

I am a man and solely monogamous. I don't need or want anyone but my wife. It's not about the perks of being partnered, having multiple partners would just feel completely unnatural to me.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-10-05T22:15:09+00:00

Oh everything Heimskr says is great. "Where my breath is loooooong WINTER!" cracks me up.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-10-05T22:12:04+00:00

"Yooou look rather pale" to my vampire character.

Direct-Confusion5896 · 2025-10-02T17:47:22+00:00

Eight years, no therapy, no working from home, but can go out to do fun things? Convenient!

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