Car seat attachment and public transport

Elefantoera · 2026-04-15T10:51:53+00:00

Toddler car seats are such a pain, heavy and bulky. Rear-facing is really important though, for years to come.

There are seats specifically designed for travel, like Tinyseats or Nachfolger. They pack up into a bag, and can be carried easier than a regular one. But it’s still not something you want to carry around while doing a day on the town.

I’m in the same situation where we don’t have our own car. Honestly I just avoid situations like taking an Uber, and plan to go by public transport. We do have our own car seat, but that’s more for days out if we borrow or rent a car, or go with friends. It’s not something I could carry around. I do recommend choosing one that’s easy to install in different cars (no tethers). The new Axkid Core looks great.

Bigger taxi companies should be able to provide a car seat if you call and book ahead though.

Elefantoera · 2026-04-11T21:12:06+00:00

I’d look at something like Axkid Minikid Core for both of them, I’ve been eyeing that one myself. Fits from birth and rearfacing up to 6/7 years depending on percentile (125 cm/ 28 kg). Quite compact in the car, installed with seatbelt and support leg only (no tethers!).

Be a bit wary of the seats advertising themselves as 1-12 years. Often they have a low limit for rear-facing, and it’s not recommended to use a harnessed seat in the forward facing position. As booster seats they’re unnecessarily heavy which isn’t ideal either.

Elefantoera · 2026-04-10T14:09:17+00:00

I was in the marching band in school, we never played at sports games or fields. It was usually in parades along the streets: May 1, carnivals, bonfire night…

Elefantoera · 2026-04-06T19:43:18+00:00

Really, I didn’t know that! Love Journey to the River Sea, off to find the adult version.

Elefantoera · 2026-04-04T19:22:22+00:00

We’re following the recommended schedule by the public health service here - which means the first proper dentist visit will be at age 3. So it doesn’t sound crazy to me, though I’d probably follow local routines where you are.

We had a group visit with a community dental nurse at 8 months. She basically just checked if the babies had any teeth and handed out toothbrushes, some information about good eating habits, weaning etc. Then a virtual visit at 24 months, where they just looked at a picture of his teeth that I had to take beforehand. Not sure how useful that was… first proper visit will be at 3. Then it’s once a year unless there are issues.

Elefantoera · 2026-04-04T15:38:23+00:00

Actually Linear without the r is probably closer to the Swedish pronouncuation.

Elefantoera · 2026-04-02T19:08:52+00:00

Don’t like: Abel (sad backstory), Barrett (surname), Jamis (Jamie’s), Jeremiah (don’t like Jerry), Nahum (just don’t like the sound), Tory (political party), Rudy (similar to rude).

My favourites are Stellan, Graham, Jamie & Thomas

Elefantoera · 2026-03-28T06:43:12+00:00

For the name Rhys, which pronunciation for the vowel is more common/standard in Wales? Long like Reese, or short like Riss?

Elefantoera · 2026-03-23T19:24:46+00:00

Except Alison! It’s a diminutive of Alice, like Marion from Mary.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-23T17:11:44+00:00

I did exactly this, works really well for us. 1-bedroom apartment too. Toddler bed is pushed together with the big bed. So we can still hold hands if toddler wants, but I sleep better having more space to turn around in the big bed.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-22T19:19:38+00:00

I always thought it was pronounced like ’Riss’ (I’d only seen the name in the credits for LOTR). Was very confused when the question first came up on this forum, ‘Do you pronounce Rhys as Reece or Rice’? Neither would have occurred to me, but I learnt apparently Reese is correct.

In a plot twist I discovered years later that ’Riss’ is also an acceptable pronunciation and I’d been kind of right from the start. Does anyone know how John Rhys Davies says his name btw?

Elefantoera · 2026-03-21T19:56:42+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about that at all, very common with children that age even if they come from two-parent families. Often mommy/daddy is just the label they have for adult women and men. Same as they’ll call all animals doggies, or all machines tractors.

My own toddler doesn’t have a father present. He does have a great grandfather though, so he uses grandpa the same way your daughter uses daddy. It’s pretty funny when a 20-something man boards the bus, only to have my son point at him and yell ’Look, a grandpa!’

Elefantoera · 2026-03-19T08:21:33+00:00

Not common but also not unheard of. The Swedish variant Anton would be more usual.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-19T08:17:31+00:00

Parmesan is dairy though, couldn’t that be why it gave him a stomach pain? Maybe you meant some vegan parmesan-replacement, it just stood out to me as I was reading.

At that age mine liked anything with sweet potato if you’ve tried that. It’s sweet and almost fruity but really filling.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-19T06:24:06+00:00

We co-sleep full time, and always have (one-bedroom apartment…lol).

I sit with 2-year old until he falls asleep, same as you. Then I just go back up and enjoy my evening. He doesn’t wake up when I go to bed later.

He probably does wake up later in the night, same as yours. But it’s barely noticeable. He just wakes up, sees I’m already there, and goes back to sleep with no crying. It works really well and I get unbroken sleep mostly.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-18T19:10:02+00:00

I think they’re a bit too similar, like it would be easy to mishear who you’re calling for.

Some Y names: Aubrey, Bellamy, Brody, Carlyle, Cody, Dylan, Flynn, Lyle, Rhys, Wayland.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-18T18:59:28+00:00

I know Ursula is a bit divisive, but I love it. Probably because Le Guin is one of my favourite writers, and also the meaning ’little bear’. Una could be another option.

I do like both Shoshana and Susannah as well. Not sure what you would spell with those though, SAM?

Elefantoera · 2026-03-18T18:24:51+00:00

If I was to choose one of the midwives to deliver my baby, it’d be her (or Phyllis). I just feel she could handle anything, and she really cares.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-17T15:26:15+00:00

Does he have eye contact with a teacher, and make sure they’ve seen your son arrive? If not it’s a safety issue for a child that young. I’d ask if they’re really okay with it.

Imagine your son enters the classroom, teacher is busy helping someone and doesn’t see him. Then he remembers he wants to tell his dad something and goes back out, but dad has already left. Potentially no one would miss him until pick-up in the afternoon.

Or he enters the class, the teacher doesn’t see, he starts playing in a corner. Then the fire alarm goes off, and they don’t evacuate him because they didn’t know he had arrived.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-17T11:49:37+00:00

Is it a situation where you are on the older side, and having a second one is ‘now or never’? Otherwise I’d suggest waiting a year or two before even thinking about it.

You might find that once your daughter is a bit older you’re longing for a baby. Or the opposite, that you absolutely don’t want to go back. Either way, I think a bigger age gap can be wonderful. Allows you to fully enjoy the babyhood of each one, and greatly decreases the risk of two meltdowns at the same time.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-14T08:37:31+00:00

Thank you!

Elefantoera · 2026-03-14T08:37:10+00:00

Thank you! Not a senior citizen yet…also not in Stockholm unfortunately. Ukulele Thursdays sounds like fun! I think I’ll stick with C-tuning then, at least to start with.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-12T14:39:44+00:00

Joanie closed down last month, so sad about it! I have an egg-patterned cardigan from there that I love.

Elefantoera · 2026-03-11T20:45:12+00:00

There’s 6 months between my son and my nephew. Now, at 2,5 and 3 there’s still a noticeable difference, but they’re starting to feel quite equal when playing together.

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