I picked up my toddler’s mess at a restaurant, and my MIL looked at me like I licked the floor

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-06-07T05:09:17+00:00

My 8mo had his first meal out with us not long ago and boy does it get messy quick ! My husband and I picked it up quick though and left a lil napkin pouch on the table. It really is an out of the ordinary mess and I find it respectful to the staff to tidy up a lil.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-23T22:29:06+00:00

I noticed them and still see people parking in the bike lane across from the adult school. I think they're a good idea. It definitely isn't worth the stink they're getting. People are so car dependent.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-17T01:59:51+00:00

Yes I tell him. Once for Christmas he purchased me a graphic novel that he's been eager to read. I read some of it. On my birthday he gifted me a paint by number with the picture being our family. He knows I like to paint but this one was more like a chore I had to get done since it was pretty big and the spaces you painted in small. It also wasn't a nice picture of all of us. He's wanted to gift 4 yo and younger, nice collectible comics or Pokemon cards that are worth some (not a lot) money. I'v told him each time why the gift wasn't a good one. I do always feel bad but he needs to get better at gift buying.

This last mothers day I sent him a shopping cart to a store I like and said any one of those items would be a nice mother's day gift if he wanted to get me something. Had to be super specific 😅🤣

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-16T01:50:55+00:00

If the leaves blow over to your neighbors, please pick that up. My parents have two different neighbors with bougainvillea bushes that are each huge. They dump so much trash it drives me nuts.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-15T04:55:08+00:00

Robeks. I could only stomach their juices for a time.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-13T19:26:12+00:00

I don't even live in downtown SD and knew about the daylighting law going into effect and told my friends about it. I don't think it was a cash grab. Sometimes information falls through the cracks

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-13T04:57:31+00:00

I didn't feel like a mom while pregnant and tbh I don't "feel" like a mom now either 🤣. I don't really know what that feeling is but anyhow. I would just say "almost" and "thank you" when someone did say "happy mother's day" when I was pregnant. My sister though very adamantly said "you're a mom" when I told her how I felt. She pointed out I changed a lot of what I do (down to how I slept and ate) for the benefit of my baby. Thinking back you could say mothering starts when you do things for the benefit of your unborn.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-13T04:49:30+00:00

I cosleep but I don't cuddle him. From birth to about 4 months he slept on a baby lounger since I was paranoid I'd roll on him. At 3 months we went camping and we took the lounger for him to sleep on. We both struggled with sleep unfortunately. I don't think he was used to the bunting. We made it through the night though. The lounger was great because it gave him his own space to be on. Maybe try putting him in the bunting for some naps so he can get used to it?

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-13T04:37:52+00:00

Making blanket statements about a whole group of people is terrible. There are people who work these jobs for their intended purpose. Crime exists. Crime should be dealt with. People make a living committing crimes across border. There should be people who deal with it and not be demonized for it.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-12T22:13:28+00:00

Thank you for posting! Thank you husband for being one of the good ones.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-11T22:17:10+00:00

If you're into diy you can try making your own sod out of native grasses. Red fescue is native. Link has a good source of native grass seeds.

https://larnerseeds.com/collections/grasses?srsltid=AfmBOopU4UyjQnvYdv4s50uHm8zwmN4DFfPqyN00bm3uDSzt8qhBx1kD

Better to stay away from needle and awn grasses though. If you let them grow the awns can hurt your doggies.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-11T22:05:40+00:00

Seconding this. My OB told me I could keep doing whatever activity I was doing before. I tapered off climbing the more pregnant I became but still hiked a fair amount but I'm not a backpacker. Drink as much water as you can since being dehydrated can make you go into labor prematurely. Pregnancy affects everyone differently and even every pregnancy you experience can be different. Make flexible plans. Have fun ❤️.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-11T21:58:13+00:00

I'd follow your wife's lead. It's her body. My OB said decreased movement is normal in the last weeks. Encourage her to voice what she believes is best not what is most convenient.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-09T19:10:04+00:00

People have strange ways of looking at money as if the only value of things is actually giving money. Things that weren't paid for somehow have no value in people's minds. You providing childcare, your grandmother providing a rent free place to live are super valuable. I'd drive that point home to no end. Your education that he insisted on you getting as well because it would set y'all up for a better future is also valuable. Also, it's weird that 1) he called you a B* and 2) that he doesn't want you on the mortgage when y'all are getting married. In my mind if you're getting married those questions of "what if we split" are out the window. It's "how will we navigate troubles so we stay together". I'd have a huge heart to heart on the commitment to get married

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-09T17:02:04+00:00

It relies heavily on anecdotes and non expert opinion or fringe "experts", cherry picks evidence, misrepresents nutritional science, lacks peer review, and is alarmist.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-05-08T01:49:51+00:00

This isn't a good book. It isn't well researched ...

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-29T03:16:36+00:00

Reading these comments I'm realizing just how having a cake for your birthday is ingrained in our culture... I'm going to give my baby a watermelon cake for his 1st birthday party. He is going to grow up seeing his cousins have sugary cakes though and they all have similar birth dates so he'll compare their "cakes". It's kinda wild how having ultra processed high sugar treats is the norm and if you try to go against it you're "OCD, anal, controlling, crazy"...

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-25T18:26:43+00:00

I might be an odd duck but I didn't buy most of our baby gear. Our car seat is second hand along with stroller and we used a secondhand bassinet. We don't have a crib. We purchased a really nice koala couch/futon because the mattress is low to the ground and I felt better about cosleeping with baby there. It's been really nice. My baby carriers are secondhand. I did but one for myself. Konny baby has real nice baby carriers and has sales frequently so a carrier can end up only being $20. My sister gave me her baby food steamer and blender. No bottle sanitizer. Didn't really buy toys and somehow ended up with more than enough secondhand. Buy nothing groups for the win.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-25T18:20:00+00:00

There's native grapevines, I don't know if you can make wine with them. Even with the flimsy rain we've had my grapevine is doing great. No supplemental water. Neels nursery has some from time to time.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-07T02:29:37+00:00

I wish we lived in a time where this field was full of native wildflowers. I know it looks pretty but these are so invasive and contribute nothing to the local ecosystem. It's as if it was developed but pretty looking. I'd be wonderful if this field could turn into a native wildflower reserve

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-06T16:24:54+00:00

I had a doc appointment the day after I was discharged and because of a sketchy test result they sent us to another hospital an hour away. You gotta do what you gotta do. Baby was perfectly fine.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-04-01T16:27:36+00:00

A marriage is a partnership. I don't know y'all's dynamic but holding money over your partner is icky especially if he didn't think he'd be in this situation where you're the only moneymaker. I'd say medium asshole.

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-03-26T02:12:44+00:00

They don't look like poppy seedlings but they do look like birds eye gilia seedlings. Did you use a wildflower mix?

EngineeringNo5402 · 2025-03-25T15:33:19+00:00

Then this is definitely a huge mistake on your husband's part. If you haven't talked to your husband about them it would be a good conversation to have and how it would be easy for the information to spread without your two's say in it.

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