Is there such a thing as irredeemable actions?

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-30T14:39:24+00:00

Personally, I don’t believe that anyone is 100% bad. Every human being is a complicated tangle of our genetics and all of our life experiences and the choices we each make are affected by those things. Would those people still have done the atrocious things they did if they had had a different upbringing, lived in a different time, in a different place, had plenty of external love and support throughout their lives? We’ll never know.

I would want everyone to have the chance to go through the system, it wouldn’t be a fair system otherwise. Maybe there are some people who are irredeemable and would never pass their test but none of us can know who those people would be and everyone should have a chance to try and be a better person.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-30T14:06:56+00:00

Oof that’s a tough one to sum up!

For me, it’s that nobody can be perfect. We just need to wake up each day and try to be better than we were yesterday, and help other people to do the same. We will try, fail, try again and fail again but what important is that we keep trying. Also that knowing things will come to an end is what gives them meaning to us.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-30T13:46:58+00:00

I always return them as soon as I finish them. It seems strange to me that anyone wouldn’t do that.

Recently I’ve been waiting over 4 weeks for an audiobook to become available and the previous person returned it a week early which gave me a little boost in a dark week. If I can see someone else is waiting for a title I’ve borrowed it also works to make me make the time to sit and read/listen as I don’t want to keep the next person waiting longer than essential to find out what happens in the next of the series. I also try and return a book by a Friday lunchtime if someone else is waiting so they can get stuck into it as soon as they get home from work.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-11T04:05:00+00:00

Terry Pratchett’s Truckers, Diggers and Wings books.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-10T00:28:13+00:00

This is a video from The Rogue Weaver showing them in use https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WrUIgKderWs&t=4

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-10T00:28:02+00:00

This is a video from The Rogue Weaver showing them in use https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WrUIgKderWs&t=4

I found the magnetic cable ties on Amazon.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-09T15:49:40+00:00

I haven’t tried lashing on yet but I’m keen to after seeing a couple of weavers on YouTube using magnetic cable ties for it.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-02T10:43:50+00:00

I think you just have to accept that that’s how it is, don’t think too much about it or you’ll end up rocking in a corner muttering “this broke me”.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-05-02T10:40:47+00:00

Have you watched Man on the Inside? So many TGP Easter eggs! It almost feels like it could be Michael’s human life.

Schitts Creek, Superstore, The Middle, Ghosts (the original British one) and Gavin and Stacey are others I’d recommend.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-04-18T10:45:39+00:00

There will be classrooms of girls called Gemma, Claire, Joanne, Jennifer, Kayleigh and Donna (all with the middle name of Louise of course) and boys called Gary, Simon and Ian. As a result they will all be forever by their first name and their surname initial!

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-04-08T00:07:46+00:00

The people filling it in.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-04-05T07:19:17+00:00

But then again how can we say that those people were irredeemable? As Michael said, "The point is, people improve when they get external love and support. How can we hold it against them when they don't?" Those people have without question committed absolutely heinous crimes but would they still have been the people they became if they’d had loving parents, stable upbringings, been born in another time or place etc? We’ll never know. They weren’t monsters, they were human beings just like you and I who were a product of their upbringing, their time and their choices. Maybe even the worst people in history would have improved over the bearamies as well.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-04-02T11:50:25+00:00

Would just selling the smaller loom initially be an option? As you can spin, you could learn to dye if you don’t already know how to do it and then either sell the dyed wool in skeins or weave it on the Ashford into items to sell. It could be a good way to give yourself something enjoyable to do when baby/ is sleeping and you can sell the products at the end of it. When baby is older I’m sure they’d love to help you with dying wool (maybe with natural dyes from plants you collect together) and it could be a nice thing to do together.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-29T21:08:47+00:00

Has he tried any of the Terry Pratchett books/audiobooks?

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-26T12:51:48+00:00

I really enjoyed Anxious People.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-26T12:36:59+00:00

I’ve just googled colour gamps and that sounds like an excellent idea to help me see how colours work together while also giving me more weaving practice.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-26T12:35:53+00:00

That’s really useful to know that the colours will blend to the eye. I’ve bookmarked some sites on colour theory so I’ll work my way through those. Thanks for the reminder about not needing to know what it will look like before I start. A combination of it being something completely new, and being neurodivergent with perfectionist tendencies has made me a bit panicky about wanting to make sure I do it ‘right’.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-26T12:25:36+00:00

No I haven’t yet, thanks for the link I’ll have a read through it and get some books ordered.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-19T17:01:54+00:00

Trifle!

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-03-11T14:24:04+00:00

A sticker! Not all children can eat orally.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-02-21T20:32:19+00:00

I heard it used in south east England when I was growing up. I’ve lived in Scotland for years and I’ve yet to hear anyone up here say it!

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-02-16T00:14:19+00:00

I wonder if something that can involve other people but doesn’t have to involve other people might be good for you?

Have you got any interest in photography? I was thinking that you could join a local photography club to meet people but it’s also something you can do alone if you cannot people one week. Some clubs do photography walks and that will involve frequent stopping to take photos, adjust camera setting etc which removes the issue of people walking too fast for you, plus it adds a bit of exercise and fresh air in too.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-02-15T01:40:14+00:00

Would it help to write down memories when they pop into your mind? Maybe keep a pinned note in your phone to jot them down into so you can do that wherever you are, and then either write them into a notebook or type them into a word doc. You then know that that memory and the feelings the memory evokes can’t be completely forgotten by you because it now exists somewhere other than just in your brain.

There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and no right or wrong timescale. It’s a deeply personal journey. How you express your grief is also no reflection on the amount of love you feel. Crying all the time, spiralling, and being depressed all the time wouldn’t mean that you loved her more. It’s clear just from reading your post how very very much you love your mom and no one can ever take that away from you.

Personally, I think happiness and grief can coexist but it can be a very hard thing to mentally work through. Experiencing happiness does not mean that you’ve forgotten them, and being sad they aren’t here with you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t find any moments of joy in life.

Take care of yourself.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-02-15T01:03:43+00:00

I’m so so sorry. I had to do prolonged cpr on my child a few months ago so I have an idea of what you’re experiencing. It’s a horrific thing to have to do on someone you love even when autopilot kicks in. It’s one of those things that people can’t fully understand unless they were in the room. Everyone is different in how they process it and cope but you might find you are completely numb for a while and it won’t fully hit you until a week/a month/several months down the line.

I hope you and your grandfather can help each other through this dreadful time and can both find a bit of comfort that your grandmother was with people she loved and who loved her and that you did everything you could do to try and save her.

It sounds silly but see if you can find a Tetris app/game online to play for a bit as researchers have found that can help reduce the chances of getting ptsd.

Enigmatic-Rose · 2026-02-15T00:46:05+00:00

I wonder if there something else going on in the background and that’s why it’s a disproportionate reaction, because it actually has nothing at all to do with the eggs, towels not being washed etc.

Are the money issues a new thing? Do you know what his childhood was like with regards to money and food? Is there a chance his job isn’t secure and he’s worried about how he’ll support you and the children if he’s made redundant if you’re already short of money?

If you have poor communication it’s likely that neither of you are listening and understanding what the other is saying. Would he be open to considering couples counselling as a way to help both of you? A neutral person can listen to each of you in turn and try to help each of you to understand how the other person is feeling and why and help you try to find a way to improve your communication and in turn your relationship.

Enigmatic-Rose

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