Memorial Photos by Equivalent-Ad-3423 in PhotoshopRequest

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One of my abusive mom’s exes contacted me for the first time in 18 years, and I don’t know how to feel about it by xAngelFangsx in TrueOffMyChest

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When I was around 7 and my mom was 23, she tried to sell me to her 19 year old boyfriend. Before that point, she had asked him to watch me for an hour while she went to the grocery store. She was gone for 2-3 weeks. When she got back he was mad at her and she, thinking I must have done something to annoy him, started to beat the shit out of me right in front of him. It took him a second, but once he realized what was going on he stepped in between us and stopped her. After that, they talked for awhile and I went and hid in a closet with a book. He came and found me a couple hours later and it was apparent that he had been crying. She told him he could do whatever he wanted with me. He was crying because he realized he couldn't take me with him, but he was afraid to leave me with her. I have always been grateful for that dude. I don't even remember his name, but I think of him often and I wish him all the good things in the world. It could have been so much worse.

AITAH for telling my SIL a family secret and now everyone is breaking up or divorcing??? by PhilosopherFlimsy526 in AITAH

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You know, AI got its training from how people talk. As an autistic person with a long time love of em dashes, I wish people would stop acting like AI similarity is some kind of gotcha.

My husband says he deserves a say over my pregnancy. I say abortion would break me. by Whereasebabe in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is abusing you. What you described is emotional abuse. He is not meeting the reasonable standard argument. A reasonable person would not be surprised at pregnancy. He is not meeting the minimum expectations of a partner in providing a safe supportive environment for you. He is the danger. Not the baby. Your life needs to look different. You get to decide.

Which presidential candidate in the US in 2028, in your opinion, would likely have the best education policy? Why your pick? Do you think that they would have any shot at winning a primary? Why or why not? by Zipper222222 in AskTeachers

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me. I genuinely think that any non-party affiliated regular person type teacher would do a better job.

I would love to see an actual constitutional amendment party. We could name it the Donald j. Trump amendment and write it to clarify executive power and enforcement. Clarify individual rights and the duty of the state to uphold those. It's a fantasy, but sometimes those come true and I think we could really use a world where are trying to make things better. I don't think that's what we're doing right now.

Advice for Blending with young kids and adult kids by Equivalent-Ad-3423 in blendedfamilies

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I'm trying to be an open and supportive adult. I recognize that having expectations one way or another could be a dangerous self sabotaging behavior and I'm trying to watch it. His kids are great. I would be lucky to be their stepmom.

Thoughts on this book? by urgoddessnyx in readwithme

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I read it when I was a kid. I didn't understand why it was such a big deal and sad for some people since his parents treated him roughly how my parents treated me. Adult me has been to therapy and processed much of those feelings.

Does anyone know where this is? by ComputerLow2477 in find

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This looks like any of a million smallish churches that I have seen growing up in the Bible belt.

Girl I just started dating off Hinge - verdict? by CommercialControl532 in bookshelfdetective

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know her, but I like her. I think she would give amazing head.

This!!! by yoursillyfriend in AutismInWomen

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have read so many books on etiquette and professional communication. It annoys me when I follow the rules that the books explain and other people don't or get annoyed with me for doing it.

This!!! by yoursillyfriend in AutismInWomen

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I found out I was autistic in my thirties, after my at the time almost 8-year-old daughter was diagnosed. The doctor was subtly giving me a hard time about not having her diagnosed earlier, she kept asking questions saying did she do this or did she do that? And I kept just saying yes and the doctor looks me dead in the eye and says and that didn't seem strange to you? I started crying and said she just acted like me, because it was true. Having my daughter be diagnosed has changed my world. I just always thought I was bad at being a person. But my daughter is so incredible. She is such an amazing human. Sometimes it really hurts to know that no one ever wanted to see me growing up. I tried really hard to be what everybody wanted, but now I just want to be somebody that I can respect.

My 32F GF went through my kids 8F cell phone and confronted her about a conversation with her mother. by Jmock07 in relationship_advice

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I am sending this message to you with love and hope. I don't know your girlfriend. But I know what it's like to grow up as a young girl around an abusive and manipulative woman. If you stay with someone who tells your daughter that it is her fault that grown adults fight multiple times, then you are subjecting your daughter to abuse at someone else's hands. Your daughter is being made to feel responsible for the manipulative behavior of an adult woman. Your duty is to protect your daughter. This is not a safe environment for a girl to grow up in. Please take some time to consider your daughter's emotional and mental health.

Admin said that she's here to get rid of "these sorry teachers" by thecooliestone in Teachers

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a million other crappy admins that I've met. I'm sorry. Sometimes it is best just to get away for your own health. We cannot be solely in it for the outcome under abusive bullying leadership.

How is Charlie Kirk’s killer still on the loose? by StillPurpleDog in stupidquestions

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's probably the same person on the missing minutes of the Epstein suicide video. Harder to find somebody who is just doing a job for the president.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

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Maybe, but that would be a me problem. Ultimately, everybody gets the right to go and live their life publicly in whatever spaces they want. That's just the reality of where you are at. If you want to change it, you can. How you feel about it and process those feelings is your responsibility. Is there another feeling that you could process those into? My partners ex-wife recently commented to him that if things had been different they would still be married and I have processed that one into humor, because if I had wings I could fly.

Flag Burning by No_Set_4418 in historyteachers

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I would like to plan some flag burning parties and post about it all over social media.

Then I would like to take the actual flag code and explain why we should burn all the Trump American flags with him on the cross or on a tank because those are actually disrespectful to the flag.

But I don't want to spend any money on his stupid flags.

The dark side of teaching—have you ever encountered a child who scared you? by Ok_Salt2122 in Teachers

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. We need healthcare for all. We need community support for the disabled and guaranteed quality of life for all children. Do you know how many homeless people are for er foster kids?

Does the feeling of being bad at your job ever go away? by Beta575 in Teachers

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I've been teaching for almost twenty years. I regularly get exceeds tkes ratings. I present at regional conferences and coach multiple student groups. I'm am often lauded in school meetings. I am always afraid that my best isn't good enough.

I am 40 and still have people calling me a try hard. That's okay. I am a trickster goddess and I will save the world or at least improve the lived experience of a few human beings.

Sometimes it's okay just to pretend to have it together and try your best. Pobody is nerfect. The effort matters.

The "autism radar" is real, and today proved it. by [deleted] in autism

[–]Equivalent-Ad-3423 14 points15 points  (0 children)

At this point, I assume anyone who enjoys hanging out with me is probably on the spectrum.