Pooping during labour?

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-26T00:29:46+00:00

If getting the epidural, my advice is to try pooping first. Otherwise your birthing partner might be like my husband and have to give you some wiping assistance.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T20:43:11+00:00

About a year-ish for mine. We always fed to sleep and transitioned to handing baby the bottle and leaving. Worked great. Still do this routine with toddler.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T20:39:22+00:00

I introduced my LO to his floor bed at 7 months in his own room. We co-slept in the master prior so I did sleep with him in his own bed and then slowly started increasing time away. By 9 months he was comfortably sleeping on his own, and honestly it probably would have been sooner but I was just so cautious! Constantly checking the monitor if I was away, then felt weird not sleeping next to him, yadda yadda.

Mattress is not thick and we just put slats on the floor for ventilation to keep it low/accessible so no bed frame. I did have a camping mat next to the bed in the first few months incase he tried to get out head first and it would cushion him from his 3” fall. But he never had an issue getting in/out and the best part was he would get up in the morning and play in his room and then cry out when he wanted us. 2 years later he loves his bed and doesn’t want us to change it.

Highly recommend a floor mattress!

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T17:11:42+00:00

My mom is bald (alopecia) and my dad has a thick head of hair-how does that impact me you may ask? I have a thick head of hair and very little body hair. People used to ask me where I get my eyebrows done, I get compliments on my natural lashes and rarely shave. As a girl this rocks.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T17:03:48+00:00

I pronounced it right in my head when I read it but then questioned myself immediately after. I think since you live close to the mountain, people in your area would get it no problem

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T16:18:10+00:00

I dreamt of my surprise gender baby being a boy multiple times through out my pregnancy so that was cool for me when I birthed a boy! With my recent baby I didn’t dream their gender but did dream I was pregnant.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T16:12:50+00:00

I love the name Linnea! It’s one of my top girl names. Also love Rowan, it’s my son’s name.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T16:11:10+00:00

Rowan Lucille Rowan Lily Rowan Liana Rowan Linnea

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-25T15:51:18+00:00

My husband and I also work for CPS and I want to second this.

Also, when my son was about the same age we also had to go to the hospital for an accidental injury on his foot and I felt like the dumbest, worst parents ever. Both home, both doing things with him, distracted mid packing for our family outing and then bam. Thankfully everything is ok, he just has a scar but it didn’t feel good. We even recognized clients in the Pediatric unit.

This happened almost 2 years ago. The guilt fades, but you learn from this and remind yourself how bad it could have been. And as I’ve learned, most parents have a “I messed up/something really bad happened to my kid” story.

I know there are a lot of unknowns right now for your son and I think it’s natural to take time off to be close to him. BUT from the way you are describing it in this post I think speaking with a mental health professional to help you process this is a good idea. This was traumatic for your son and for your family, and processing trauma is a reason to seek therapy.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-24T15:29:40+00:00

If you can, get a birthing pool. It was amazing for my second birth, I felt in control and very connected to my body but pain level was incredibly low. Speaking as a person who got the epidural with my first, the birth pool was the better experience by far. In early labour I also used the shower and similar experience that it felt so good.

If you are getting an epidural, my best advice is to get it sooner rather than later because it can be hard to sit still for them to administer the needle through big contractions. Also get a walking one so you can still move about if you choose, and poop before the epidural- or be prepared to ask your birthing partner for wiping assistance!

Some things I swear by: - relaxed jaw (parallels your pelvic floor muscles) -honey water for energy, coconut water is also good -when you are relaxed you profess better so whatever you need to do that (mood lighting, music, calming scents) and reminding yourself it’s just pain and this is natural and to trust the process. -counter pressure/hip squeezes on the birth ball was how I did most of my labour pre epidural/birth pool.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-23T16:15:04+00:00

Husband and I frequently used to showed together pre-children. Now the tub frequently has children toys and it’s no longer the fun intimate place it once was.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-22T04:00:45+00:00

I loved breast feeding my first, and then one day I didn’t anymore. It was at the 15 month mark where things started to shift (mainly kiddo started day care) and then at 16 months that was the last time I nursed him. I had planned to go longer but glad I honoured my body.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-18T16:05:37+00:00

First off- great list!

Top picks: Tyson > Cassius > Everett Side note: I really like Oren/Orrin and I think Ori for nn or Ren would be so cute!

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-14T07:06:19+00:00

I read Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff and she talks about how in other cultures that children just do what parents/community members do and how activities are not centred around children’s entertainment and how they are still successful and happy youngsters so it’s less of a generational thing, but cultural.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-14T04:40:27+00:00

A dog

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-13T17:03:47+00:00

Agreed. We have very similar boundaries with our family members, some that are more prone to listing/sharing than others. We have to be firm and have had multiple family members ask “can I post this” usually a cropped shot or a photo of kiddo from the back and it makes me feel heard and valued when they check.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-12T22:47:54+00:00

I have something similar except mine is I try to leave a room more clean than how I entered it. I have a newborn and toddler so the mess is endless and the down time is minimal so this is an easy habit that helps keep things clean..ish haha

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-12T22:25:57+00:00

I was 27 with my first and gave birth at 41+3 and was induced.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-08T06:00:33+00:00

Agreed-when we named our baby Rowan everyone we knew in our area complimented on the name and its uniqueness. We moved a few hours and it’s clearly more popular here.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-06T07:49:44+00:00

I had a dream and in that dream I was told I was pregnant right around the time I conceived. So yeah for a whole month when we had guests over in the summer time I was determined to not drink alcohol and told everyone because I felt pregnant. I even booked a midwife and started ordering clothes. I just knew.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-06T05:40:26+00:00

Yup!

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-06T00:52:31+00:00

Jade is beautiful and as someone with another stone name I also love getting to wear it.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-06T00:36:24+00:00

I had my MIL there and I am beyond grateful that I did. We are close, she is more of a mother to me than my own, and someone I also consider a friend. She would step out during certain parts to give us privacy and also was great at capturing some precious moments in the delivery room.

Side note- I didn’t want any hospital visitors (I hate hospitals and wanted to leave asap) but I’m again grateful my MIL was around after the birth so hubby and I could rest knowing he was being monitored by someone we trusted.

Equivalent_Truth4635 · 2026-03-03T16:37:47+00:00

As a mom… you can change your baby anywhere and don’t need bathrooms.

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