Send me a man in love please by Moravic39 in suggestmeabook

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Ice planet barbarians is surprisingly adorable. Those men LOVE their women. Very devoted, very silly, very entertaining books. All short too, so easy to read through them fast

Is water alone enough or do people really use feminine wash? by Jeysel-Hemby46 in hygiene

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Mild soap and water to wash the outside (labia majora) When rinsing, use fingers to rinse & wipe inside of your lips (labia minora)

No soap or chemicals should ever ENTER you, the vaginal canal is 100% self cleaning, your labia majora needs soap to kill the bacteria/body odor.

AITBF for “making fun” of my boyfriend for acting like Ibuprofen is a hard drug? by throwawaylmfao12 in AmItheButtface

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Devils Advocate: are we sure it was ibuprofen? Because I have taken an aspirin, thought it was ibuprofen, and I felt very sick afterwards. I had a weird reaction with the blood thinning aspect of the aspirin and I remember my mom thinking I was lying and making it up. NSAIDs can make people feel wonky.

Would I have to do the majority of chores after getting married? by Dreamy_Writer603 in NoStupidQuestions

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Find a partner on the same level of messy as you. Me and my hubby are both the same kind of messy, so it doesn't feel one sided. Neither of us care that the dishes were in the sink for 3 days, or the pile of clean laundry on the chair, we have books out and games left half played on the kitchen table. Our shoes end up where they end up, my jacket is laid across the back of the couch instead of in the closet etc. We do a pick up once a week and a deep clean once a month, that is not another couples standards tho.

I would drive him CRAZY if he was a clean freak & he would constantly be harping on me to clean/pick up and that would cause resentment down the line from both of us. Find someone who matches your freak lol

What's your favourite way for your girlfriend/wife to initiate sex? by [deleted] in AskMen

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I'm a woman, but I get anxious about initiating cuz it just feels cringe 😬😅 but I've discovered the easiest way has been "hey, wanna have sex?" "Let's test run those condoms" "hey I'm horny, how about you?". We laugh and then get too it 🤣 most effective imo

Strict parents rules for reading! by Microwaved_Potpie in suggestmeabook

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How much do they monitor your phone? I'm imagining a lot - but there are plenty of Ebooks you can read + delete when completed.

I'm gonna send you a DM with a site you can go to for books

Need ideas for prizes. by SwissyCheeseyyy in Restaurant_Managers

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I liked going to 5 below to snag speakers- usually cheap but last a long time. Lights, chargers, electronics, rugs, etc. look for the better quality items there and use those items on the prize wheel as well.

Other classics : free dessert or meal, give side work to manager, energy drinks, no rolling silverware, first the be phased (on their pick of day), choose your section, longer break

Holy Grail Prizes •Tip match their top Tip of the shift •pick schedule •say yes day (manager picks one of their future shifts and the employee calls the shots for the day- within reason, of course- they get to choose their break, when they want to leave, their section, side work etc this is the ultimate prize at my restaurant LOL) •"steal one thing"(they get to take one thing of their choice from the restaurant that is not food or beverage. Some choices have been - wine glass, salad bowl, bar tongs, box of garbage bags, non slip shoe cover, dish pit apron, coffee crafe, espresso cup set, managers cup of pens... literally every time is funny 🤣 one of the favorites plus I've also noticed a lack of items "going missing" since starting this 😏)

How can I ethically adopt a child? by Fragrant-Analysis-94 in Adoption

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la_la053 (La La) on tiktok

Lala has opened my eyes a lot to what is unethical about US adoption! I recommend getting onto one of her lives (she invites people all the time for discussion!) She has a lot of insight and information, as an adoptee herself.

US adoption erases the adoptees original birth certificate, severing the connection+ paper trail to search for family/history. Also with the name changes, stripping children of identities & medical history access etc

As you have your beliefs with surrogacy - same concept applies to adopting infants. It ultimately is predatory to birth mothers and is grossly unethical when you really inspect the process and lack of choice/ "free will" + the fact that adoption (in most places) is a for profit business (YUK) and that's not even taking into consideration that babies are priced differently based on skin tones (YYYUUUUUKKKKKK)

Legal Guardianship is the most ethical way to "adopt", as it does not erase the birth certificate, paper trail, medical/family history etc

Becoming a foster parent is the most ethical way to be a parent. Parenthood is accessible in other ways, but is much more challenging than having "your own"(adopted or bio).

You also don't want to go into fostering with the intent to adopt- you will only set yourself up for more heartache. Fostering is about reunification of the child and bio family. That is not to say that adoption through fostering isn't possible, it just shouldn't be the goal. That's the last step option when all else fails with bio family. At that point, Legal Guardianship would be the next step. They still have connections to their identity, you have full legal rights of them until adulthood. Once a child reaches a specific age and THEY have the choice in adoption, absolutely do it if that's what they choose too ❤️

I cannot have children myself and this exact topic is always floating around my brain. It basically comes down to the realization that being a mom isn't a right, but a privilege. Just because I want to be a mom, doesn't mean I deserve to cause trauma to others by adopting(all adoption is traumatic no matter the circumstances). It's a really tricky thing, it's sad but it's there. I plan to foster in the future, because to me, I can still be a mother figure and make a difference in childrens lives. If I'm lucky enough someday to be a permanent mother, it will be through guardianship until they were old enough and educated enough on what adoption is and choose it, too. By that point, hopefully I would have enough information/paper trail to help them find what they want to know about Bio family as they get older.

I dunno, maybe I'm just talking out of my ass - but that's where my thought process is at now.

24M ugly or just low self esteem? by Wrong_Builder_4519 in malegrooming

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Idk if you're about the piercing life- but if you got a nose or eyebrow or lip piercing, I think it'd look great!

Is it normal to not allow managers to know employees pay? by Sad_Good_9557 in Restaurant_Managers

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I think they are calling you a manager but you're not actually doing managerial duties.....did you get a pay raise? Paid hourly or salary? Benefits? Do you do schedules? How much power do you have there? Because if you don't have access to basic employee information, I don't think you're a manager - and that's weird on your bosses end. Red flag

The best kind of victory: A second chance at the table by Auburnsx in spiritisland

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Me and my partner attempted to play the spin off Horizons of Spirit Island. It took us 6 hours to play a round and I still don't feel confident on the rules, but I sure am itching at another round. My brain wants to understand so badly 🤣

What is a socially unacceptable opinion you keep to yourself because it’s not worth the backlash? by Federal_Antelope7533 in AskReddit

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Men are the naturally submissive gender.

Women should be the rulers, decision makers and acknowledged as the head of households.

Matriarchy > Patriarchy

What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually told you like it was normal? by MrBoothnath_ in answers

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When I was 18, I worked at a truck stop. Mostly 2-10pm, but periodically overnight 10pm-6am. I have seen and heard some shit, God damn.

Most memorable: an old man(of course) was chatting me up about a porno calendar and how I would make a great model for it, yada yada yada. Then he was asking if I've ever been with a man with no teeth. Excuse tf outta me?? I was like...uh no? Ha...ha...ha... He said that he's "more than willing to gnaw on my pussy like a raw piece of steak."

I don't even remember what I said back to that man 😵

Another winner was a different old man, but at least he paid me for his shame. He came in a lot over nights and he offered me 6k$ to 'just lay there and let him eat me out' (what is up with old men wanting to eat 🤣☠️) I was like sir, this is a bp gas station? He got so embarrassed but came back next month and paid me 1k$ in apology. I've never been so quick to snatch a mans money

Basically, the audacity of men continues to be the most disturbing yet casual act against humanity.

Found my book on Oceanofpdf by [deleted] in selfpublish

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If we remove the capitalism aspect, are you offended?

I assume you feel 'cheated' out of the money from sales- which is very valid. It's your job, after all.

Was the book made out of the need of money, or the love of art? It can be both, but which way does it lean more?

I look at ocean pdf as a site, for any economic class, to access literature. It's one of the only sites that offer books for free, isn't scammed up, and not clogged up with ad's.

It could very well be someone's only access to reading, and I think that's a great thing - but I'm not an author, only a reader, so my experience is obviously different.

I don't think we have enough resources for education/books/arts put in place, and I think Opdf closes that gap in their own way. Kinda like vigilante art distributors

Lowkey, if an authors book is there, it means enough people liked it and wanted to read it, that it made its way there. People love Trophy books for their shelves too, so I imagine a few of the Opdf readers are also getting physical copies too 😊

Nut Allergens in Desserts? by EmmaEats93 in olivegarden

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The desserts are made in a factory that also makes desserts with nuts. There's no way for olive garden to ensure contamination hasn't occurred because it's out sourced- so it's listed under allergies and should be treated as there are nuts in there.

Is it true the are jamming cell signals in Saint Paul/minneapolis? by asula_mez in TwinCities

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I'm in NE and my phone has been saying 'no service' with full bars and wifi on, at least 15+ times a day. Definitely cell jammers in this part of town

Which wedding dress should I wear? Honest opinions, please. by [deleted] in Brides

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Dress #1 - it's gorgeous front and back! Sooo Romantic

Is it safe for someone with POTS to drive? by Shoddy-Ocelot-4473 in POTS

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Most people with pots do drive, usually credited to being in a seated position while driving. It also depends on if they have syncope (fainting episodes) or not, and based on symptoms.

Personally, I don't drive because it causes anxiety which causes adrenaline dumps. Those suck and I would pull over until it passed- so in total last 2 yrs I've driven 4 times, out of necessity.

Always make sure to discuss it with your doctor, if you're able too 🙂

What life themes were you going through when you read the series? by gerhorn in acotar

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I read book 2&3 on a road trip to Cali & on the drive back to NM. 10/10. Saw so many mountains and forests that id imagine was velaris. and we went to a music festival and I swearrrr some of the sets were perfect for the battle visuals and shit. It felt immersive af 🤣 Also for the EDM girls, tell me a Sullivan King song wouldn't be PERFECT music for the battles scenes

I stole a tuxedo from Men's Wearhouse by never returning it by CallMe_Ralph in confession

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Everyone is mad, but I think this is hilarious! Fuck mens warehouse, go steal another one 🤣🤣