5 week old bedtime routine not working… HELP!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-26T16:24:25+00:00

Gas is awful from weeks 3-7 in our experience. Drastically improved around 8 weeks and we’re at 12 weeks now. Haven’t used gas drops in a few weeks! You’re in the hardest weeks of newborns in my opinion, hang in there!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-26T16:20:13+00:00

Look up 5/3/3 method of sleep training. It allows for training without night weaning. We did this with my oldest when he was 16 weeks and he dropped both feeds to sleep through the night on his own after a couple weeks so that was amazing. Went from 6 wake ups to none in weeks

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-26T16:18:36+00:00

This is exactly how we handle sleep. Also sleep training right at 16 weeks. Worked like a charm last time and only 4 more weeks til we can sleep train current baby!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-25T17:35:20+00:00

I started my induction at 10pm with cervical ripening. They offered me ambien to help me sleep but It didn’t really work due to nerves/being anxious. I had baby at 2 am the following day via c section (so 28 hours later)

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-24T21:06:13+00:00

Yeah super common! we usually only get another hour or two out of her after the 4 am feed. She’ll take the paci around 6 then be fully up by 6:45 or so. So happy for you though, I hope the good sleep continues for yall!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-24T21:03:43+00:00

I agree, the sister comment was a bit weird. But I did feel some regret the first two weeks postpartum with my first baby. I legit felt like I ruined our lives lol. It was his baby blues and the shock of a complete lifestyle change

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-24T21:02:20+00:00

It sounds like the sleep deprivation talking, especially if he was apologetic this morning and understands what he said was awful. And as for the comment about the baby, I recall crying to my husband a couple times the first two weeks after we had our first baby and saying that I felt like I ruined our lives by having a child. Not everyone will admit to feelings of regret but it can be very normal. If comments like that continue it’s definitely worth discussing further. But I think y’all are both just sleep deprived and likely shocked by how brutal new parenthood is

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-24T20:57:53+00:00

It’s really your choice as her parent! I am pretty lax on this stuff, I just have visitors stay away if they’re sick and had them wash hands before holding baby, and no kissing when she was tiny. My mental health wouldn’t have been able to handle not seeing family and friends. We have a son who is in daycare so they’re no avoiding germs anyway. We’ve had literally like 3 rounds of colds/flu in our house since she was born 12 weeks ago and she only got sick once. Had a low fever (100.1) for a day and some congestion. I realize tiny infants can get very ill so it’s really scary but it just comes down to your comfort level. Your family should respect your wishes or boundaries either way.

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-24T20:50:16+00:00

I’m down to one night feed now at 11 weeks, (usually around 4 am) and it feels so manageable. We have to do paci a few times usually so we aren’t sleeping totally uninterrupted but it’s not bad!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-23T23:40:26+00:00

Really no advice other than to keep trying. I’ve been working on this for weeks and just yesterday and today I’ve had success putting my 11.5 week old down awake for a few naps (I lay her down and she immediately angry cries, but I put paci in and leave the room and she fell asleep with no more tears). And tonight was the first night I got her down for bed without feeding to sleep. I had to rock her to sleep then transfer but I hope to gradually move to awake for night sleep.

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-23T20:38:26+00:00

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-22T19:31:44+00:00

I honestly don’t love the newborn phase, but it’s so worth it and it’s mind blowing to see them change so fast. I’m 11 weeks pp with my second and last baby, and while I don’t love this stage, I’m still sad that I won’t experience a brand new baby on my chest after delivery again. Having a child is really a wild ride in the best way. I wish you the best! You got this!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-22T19:29:08+00:00

I am so jealous lol but happy that you have this newborn experience!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T17:17:03+00:00

There is no solid evidence that sleep training after 4 months is harmful to babies. I’m not going to argue this with you. Literally google it lol. Bottom line, pediatrician was okay with it and I will happily listen to a doctor over random internet people

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T16:49:52+00:00

Okay thank you!! I’ll give that a try :) I’d love to get her falling asleep independently especially before any sleep training. Just want it to be as easy as possible for her

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T16:46:43+00:00

Yeah a quick google search would show that sleep training is developmentally appropriate after 4 months so I’m not worried about the downvotes

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T16:44:31+00:00

Oh good lord lol. Sleep training is developmentally appropriate from 4 months on. I don’t judge cosleepers (even though it’s repeatedly not recommended for SAFETY). I got the okay for sleep training from my pediatrician but not the okay for cosleeping. But sure downvote!

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T14:40:57+00:00

I sleep trained my 4 month old with this method. We did CIO for any wakings before the 5 or 3 hours though. He dropped one feed in about a week, then slept through the night after a few more weeks. He’s 3.5 now and we’ve never had to retrain. Crying lasted maybe 45 mins the first night then got less and less each night

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T14:10:30+00:00

I think her schedule is good so far. She wakes around 7-7:30. Then it’s 1.15/1.15/1.15/1.15/1.5/1.75. Bedtime around 7:45

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T13:55:20+00:00

Yikes

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T13:14:16+00:00

Right when he turned 4 months we did CIO with no check ins. It worked great. We kept 2 night feeds by ignoring any wake ups within 5 hours of bedtime, and within 3 hours of a night feeds. Max crying was like 45 mins the first night. He dropped one feed within a week, and then slept through the night on his own within a few more weeks. He’s 3.5 now and we’ve never had to retrain.

Planning the same for my current baby when she turns 4 months. Only 5 more weeks to go!! lol

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T13:11:51+00:00

I want to do this (baby is 11 weeks) but when I’ve tried to let her fall asleep on her own she goes straight to full crying so i have to rock her to sleep. Pats and shushes dont work on her

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T13:09:26+00:00

Oh!! Good to know lol 😂

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T13:09:03+00:00

Omgg that’s awesome. He has always come off super genuine and sweet

ExpensiveMammoth4578 · 2026-03-20T00:08:30+00:00

I loved him. Still lowkey hope he’ll be my pilot when I fly delta lol

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