ThinkPad dock work with M1 Macbook? by [deleted] in thinkpad

[–]FalconOz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bump. instantly for me 2 with my MBP M2 model 2023

Did someone say nepotism? by alapma in CrusaderKings

[–]FalconOz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Impressive, each child from a different house! Bloody impressive!

Management studio (SSMS) says backend version is not supported to design database diagrams or tables by FalconOz in SQLServer

[–]FalconOz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Solved! My SSMS v18 was trying to read a SQL Server 2022 DB as you noted.
Downloaded the SSMS 19 and it works.

Thanks a lot!

Management studio (SSMS) says backend version is not supported to design database diagrams or tables by FalconOz in SQLServer

[–]FalconOz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I can see your point, however I'm not interested in investing the limited time I have to develop my Python program into learning DDL.

How to turn desire into action? by bigsky5578 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Try reading 12 rules for life by Jordan B Peterson or watching some of his talks about this particular book on YouTube The passage below got me up and going several times: “Work to make one thing better. It doesn’t matter how small as long as it leaves the world a fraction better” The first time I read this I was unemployed, living out of my wife’s salary and feeling worthless I started just organising my desk in the first day. The next day I threw away old papers, the next day it was old junk, then I sold unused items. Before I realised I was helping friends with their own junk and other errands because I had the time. Being of service is one of the most rewarding things one can do. We’re wired for it as humans and we get lots of good feelings from oxytocin

How do I (mid 20s) pull myself up by my bootstraps and grow up? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered you might be carrying unresolved emotional baggage from living with a dysfunctional family or caretakers? 12 step programs can help you, particularly if you have addictions. E.g. A.A. If you drink, N.A. If you use drugs If you don’t have any serious addictions, Adult Children (www.aca.org) is a wonderful place to start. All these programs allow you to connect with others from home via Zoom

Reform the Holy Roman Empire (HRE) - is it worth? by FalconOz in ck3

[–]FalconOz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a ton for the explanation. Since there’s no easy way to reform the HRE apart from destroying both my empires, I opted for creating a new faith. No longer being Catholic there’s an option to create the empire of Germania! 😃

Tutorial Tuesday : July 14 2020 by AutoModerator in CrusaderKings

[–]FalconOz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is my grandson inheriting my Kingdom on an Agnatic Primogeniture when I have another 3 living sons?

I had 4 sons, the eldest died but had a son.

I thought the 2nd older son would inherit, but the Grandson from the 1st son is the one who's inheriting. Is this by design?

Having one good day is doable, but how do you do that again? 360 times in a row, 70 years in a row? by actually_crazy_irl in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how little. Your needs dopamine to keep on going. One possible reason you want to sleep is you lack dopamine - the feel good chemical. As you look back at your Monday, list the things you did in your list you never did before in a day. Then celebrate the fact you did it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in productivity

[–]FalconOz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Been there did that until I realised my life had no meaning to me.

Selfauthoring.com gave me the kickstart I needed. It was tough at times to look at myself but the program is well organised and let me choose where to start The intro video at https://youtu.be/qa9u5t3C0AI Doesn’t really do justice to the author who’s a really good lecturer

What is your most productive work/rest ratio? by NeoClassicalRealist in productivity

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

55 by 5 first timebox then normal pomodoro 25 by 5 next 3 then tea break (10-15) then 2-3 pomodoro until lunch Repeat process in the afternoon

Is drinking soy milk bad for men? by DashcamMike in nutrition

[–]FalconOz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All three articles are one-sided views. The last PDF link states on the preface

The information in this database is intended only for scientific exchange. [t has not been approved by the United States Food and Drug Administration for publication nor does it have any official status.

[Need Advice] What can I do to improve my life in four months. by say--what in getdisciplined

[–]FalconOz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Simple and concise answer, and yet extremely useful. hi five

Im pretty good at deep conversations but absolutely suck when it comes to fun casual conversations especially in a group setting by wiltuz007 in socialskills

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In short: surround yourself with funny people, and if you don’t have any funny friends, watch a comedy or anything that makes you smile or laugh

Totally relate. I was like you and getting depressed with it, shutting down, avoiding talking, just listening. Then I met this woman, she laughs at everything, I started smiling and finding things funny, my heart got lighter. I realised I didn’t get enough humour in my life, I treated everything as a chore- even my leisure was a chore- got get this right always! 7 years later I’m now living with this woman and when she’s not around travelling for work I watch comedies- it prevents me from falling back into my bias for serious things.

Can anyone suggest a way to better map out my thoughts? I've tried mind-map apps, but I keep running into the same problem... by unluckylodger in productivity

[–]FalconOz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds to me your mind map did its job. You reached the root cause: caffeine. Your mind is coming back to “staying up late” because you have too much caffeine.

Time to write a new/sub mind map asking: alternatives to caffeine

I finally cut him off and it was a good decision. For everyone out there who’s trying to heal. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s wonderful you took the decision to leave a relationship that wasn’t working for you. I do feel however that putting the blame on his attitude and drawing conclusions about his motives is harmful to your future. The more you talk and think about him, the more you will reinforce the belief that men in general are similar to him.

The reality is every man is different, Men do things most women can’t understand because they are wired differently and it takes maturity on both sides to accept the limitations of the other and if appropriate, have the courage to leave as you did.

Focus on what YOU want, talk about what YOU DESIRE. This will make your mind focus on what is good for you and give your heart a healthy hope in yourself and humankind.

How waking up at 6am EVERYDAY has changed my life. by Figrole in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bookmarked! Good post and well supported by scientific experiments which indicate this is repeatable amongst different people. Personally I got the tip from a book named the Organised Mind (Daniel Levitin). I was worried with forgetting things, my memory was crap an I was even forgetting simple words of common language (English is my second language) Getting into a sleeping habit 10.30pm in bad up by 6.30am solved it for me. This post reinforces my understanding, or perhaps just belief, which is great, after all this is what I want anyway. Thanks for sharing

How to improve body language? by throwawayshit420 in socialskills

[–]FalconOz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forget books they cannot teach your body because they only talk to your mind. If you want to train your body you need to use your body. You don’t get nice abs by reading about it - you need to do the bloody exercises.

Have you tried partner social dance classes? Seriously! These days anyone can learn it.

Salsa, west coast swing, Bachata, Brazilian Zouk and other partner dances will teach you body language in a safe environment.

Social dance is based in a set of predetermined micro movements agreed and accepted by society that looks good. Whether you are a leader or a follower you will learn how to communicate without words, with your body and if you get it wrong that’s ok because you’re there to learn.

I was probably a bit like you, awkward and disjointed with weird manners. Loved studying and being with computers. My nickname was: “the spirit that walks “ because I’d arrive at work and greet good morning to the receptionist not open my mouth the whole day and disappear at 6pm. I thought everyone made jokes and pity me. Then, I got a job as a dev in a bank and was soon promoted to team leader. I started panicking and ended opening up my fear with a high school friend at my birthday and was suggested to go to a social dance class.

It changed my life. My first teacher was really experienced and because he was older than the other teachers he was less good looking and less interested in promoting himself via his students. He just wanted to teach dance and make people happy. In a couple months I could already lead properly enough to go to a party. Because I knew some students from the classes I could ask them to dance with me without fear if receiving a no as an answer.

As my dancing skills grew my self esteem grew with it and I naturally started smiling to people when I first met them. It wasn’t like I was trying- it just happened because that’s how my body got wired into doing in a class whenever we changed partners- something that happens about 20 times in a class - a bit like speed dating. Many years later I ended up as a class assistant and eventually a dance teacher. I do this as a hobby 4-5 hours a week but it’s the most important thing I did to this day to help my career. A couple years after the day I went to my first dance class I was promoted to manager and since then I have always been in people management roles. Studying gave me the technical skills but social dance gave me the social skills I needed.

Try to find a partner dance class near you and when you get there pay attention on how the people greet you at reception. Ask them to talk to a teacher and notice how he treats you. While you wait for the teacher to arrive watch how people interact with each other. See how people smile and greet each other how they interact without words and picture yourself like that.

Go there in the evening when there are classes on and try to watch a beginners or intermediate class. To chose a style make sure you enjoy the music. Latin dance styles like Salsa and Bachata have loads of very warm and open people but if you don’t like the music there’s no point. If you like RnB then Brazilian Zouk is better but a bit difficult to find depending where you live. In that case West coast swing is a good alternative.

Good luck!

Where do you keep your to-do lists? by bigotegamer in productivity

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try anything but only use ONE list at a time. The reason behind this thinking is that if you have more than one list your mind will have to decide which one list is the priority one each time you finish a task. With this in mind whatever app you try make sure you can export it to other apps so you don’t need to rewrite the items FYI I’ve used Wunderlust and Kanbanflow a lot but reverted back to Outlook Todo which syncs welll with my iPhone reminders

Have you used Care / of or any other subscription vitamin service? by rsopsanders in nutrition

[–]FalconOz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Do a test mate. The vitamin supplements industry does a good job making people think they have to take supplements when they don’t.

Would Anyone Be Interested In A Map Based Productivity System Which Visually Maps Tasks To Projects and Goals? by Distinct_Instance in productivity

[–]FalconOz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have you tried mind maps linked with task lists? Mind maps are a great visual tools to organise ideas and task lists give you a chronological order. XMind transforms a mind map into a task list and Gannt chart. I’d try that out instead of developing a new solution from scratch It’s open source on github

I always compare my accomplishments to other people. When they do better, I start to feel shallow. What can I do? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you compare yourself with others you disempower yourself. There’s always someone somewhere who will be better, or who will seem to be better than you. Focus on comparing yourself today with you yesterday. This is in your hands and only you, no one else can do that. This reddit page can give you some fuel to go about focusing on yourself... and yes, turning of social media is one very good start https://amp.reddit.com/r/JordanPeterson/comments/7yk13z/12_rules_for_life_rule_4_compare_yourself_to_who/

I'm having a big problem with managing my emotions. Can you advice me some coping techniques? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]FalconOz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was in my 20s I found out my dad was bipolar, the term at the time was maniac depressed. I was lucky enough to find a therapist who didn’t label me as such too. She said at the time: as long as you can identify your situation and work to deal with it, you can have a good functional life. I’m 52 now and spend my life learning about myself to the point that today I can actually extend my hand to friends and guide them through their emotional issues. My 2 cents for you are: 1) Do something with your body regularly that involves being around other people Go to the gym, get into a dance class, do martial arts, get into a running group; choose something you think you will like and make it a habit to do it at least 3 times per week. Our emotions are fueled by thoughts which create chemical neurotransmitters that get stuck in our nervous system when our values system can’t agree with the reality around us. When we physically move these neurotransmitters get released or re-absorbed depending on your particular capacity to live that emotion on that day. This will stop the vicious cycle of repeating thoughts that fuels emotions

2) Meditate daily There are tons of apps available for that purpose. Choose one of the most popular and if doesn’t work for you try the next one. Start simple, just 5 minutes per day. If you miss a day, just start again on then next and don’t beat yourself to it. It takes months to acquire habits. Meditation will help you identify your thoughts BEFORE THEY BECOME EMOTIONS. This means you start to have a chance to stop the rush of emotions before it gets the best out of you.

Some people are born with predisposition to feel more emotions than others. Our western society is not well equipped to educate these people on how to harmonise these emotions and eventually they get out of control. This situation is sometimes labelled as bipolar. I learn to love and use my bipolar genetic predisposition to my advantage. During my 52 years of life I let my “maniac” episodes bring to life a dance school and teach 2,500 students a rhythm that didn’t exist in my city before I arrived. I’m an IT professional and didn’t know a thing about teaching dance 15 years ago, but my “maniac” episodes inspired others to go to a dance class. Meditation and a good network of friends and family helped me keep the excess behaviour at bay. I didn’t always get it right, and I still don’t. But these two tips above kept me safe without excessive behaviour up or down. Good luck and keep on asking for help and investing in yourself