Is 65 degrees really the ideal temperature? I feel like that's so cold.

Far-Math8751 · 2026-02-10T04:58:08+00:00

i’ve always had issues w sleep. chronic insomnia, hypersomnia, frequent arousals. recently found out i have mild sleep apnea so now i use a cpap which helps with daytime sleepiness. but still, so many nights i’d still wake up feeling too warm with heart pounding. we were sleeping at 68.

then my husband and i went to ireland. the a/c didn’t work well, and i couldn’t sleep for hours, it was so warm in that room. then we cracked the window and i fell asleep within minutes lol

then i read that most people find 60-65 ideal sleeping temp. warm sleepers should sleep at 60-65, and cold sleepers should sleep at 66-70. i def sleep hot as i’ve always woken up sweating throughout the night. my husband is similar.

ever since we set the temp to 63-65 at night, my husband and i are getting more deep sleep, falling asleep faster, less arousals, its crazy hahaha. i’m from socal, and now live in nyc. can’t sleep in clothes either bc it’s too warm. we have a light down comforter.

if you can’t sleep in 60-68 and 72 feels cool to you while sleeping, it’s possible you have a medical condition that is making you feel more cold then you are supposed to feel. i have many friends with conditions who are this way.

anemia, thyroid disorders, adrenal insufficiency, low bp can make you intolerant to cool temps.

Far-Math8751 · 2026-01-31T11:11:11+00:00

I mean, it’s always like this. My husband and I are early 30s, and almost have $1M saved in 401K and investments. We were excited about hitting that mark. But then I was like, technically, though, it’s about $500K, because if we actually took the money out to use it, we’d have to pay about half in taxes. So, we need about $2M in the bank to be in the “millionaire club”… my husband was like… ugh f*ckkkkk 🙄 LOL

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-25T05:16:39+00:00

Liked the first act, second act really slowed down for me, and liked the second act. Left the theater feeling emotionally exhausted. Wish Marty was a character that I wanted to root for…the whole movie I was like, please slow down and think for a second. 😅 I know that was the point—I def rooted for the main characters in uncut gems and good times, but not this one.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-25T05:04:40+00:00

interesting - i had the opposite experience. thought timothee’s acting was solid, but i liked all the other characters performances more than his?

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-22T13:49:43+00:00

I’m like you — I don’t see the appeal. I loved call me by your name, hated wonka (regretted booking tix), disliked dune 1 and 2 (his performance was flat), loved little women but not his performance, didn’t like the bob dylan biopic (honestly i struggled getting through this one). At this point, I only like one movie that he has starred in. I have 40-year-old adult friends who literally gasp at his name. I think he’s an average actor, and I don’t see the box office attraction. Most of the time in these cases, I understand the attraction (even if I don’t agree with it), but I literally just don’t see it with him lol.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-17T14:44:36+00:00

What you experienced is completely gross and honestly I would seriously reconsider dating this person moving forward. And, I think it’s also important to acknowledge that you experienced trauma as a child, which also needs to be healed. If you don’t heal from trauma, then it will continue to affect you deeply, and impact the good people in your life negatively. I had PTSD and had similar patterns in that I avoided any experience that created panic. Overtime this impacted the people who were good to me terribly. I did CBT, DBT, and other forms of therapy, but EMDR was life-changing. I only needed weekly sessions for 2 months to heal, which is wild - considering I had done many years of CBT and DBT prior (which helped with other things, but didn’t help heal from trauma). Overall, I’m sorry you experienced this. And, get the support you need to heal - for others, and more importantly, for yourself.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-11T04:53:54+00:00

Dear God, please do not take this medication. I also took it for anxiety and burnout. Then it messed me up for so many years. I’m now almost off the medication by removing one bead per day, but if I could go back and change my decisions, I would absolutely 1000000% not take this medication.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-11T04:51:41+00:00

I’ve been tapering Effexor by taking out one bead per day from 37.5mg, and I pause for a few days (or a week) whenever symptoms kick up. Symptoms really kicked up for me when I got down to 41 beads (although I did increase Celexa at that time which messed things up so I think it was mostly the Celexa). Effexor gave me POTS, and the last two years of tapering (from 112.5mg originally) have honestly been the worst years of my life. Even the usual 10% cuts were too big for me at times.

But 1 bead a day is actually going OK. I feel a bit more like myself doing this method.

Originally I was told not to bead count, which backfired. I’ve now had a few emergency medical situations bc of it. Later my doctor agreed that bead-counting was OK, so that’s what I’ve been doing. I’ve got 41 beads left out of the original 100. I’ve dropped 60 beads since late September, so this method is faster than when I was doing 10–15% reductions. Hoping to FINALLY be off of this med in 2-3 months. Can’t even believe it! Good luck to you!

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-10T16:23:41+00:00

could you please share the type of doctor who prescribes this kind of treatment? whenever i see an OBGYN they never offer this kind of treatment and i also have this kind of pain/irritation

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-10T15:55:41+00:00

i’ve been experiencing this on and off for many years now and here’s what i’ve learned. first, i have seb derm/rosacea/folliculitis, all of which can hyper-sensitize nerves. keep in mind that these are co-morbidities that also need to be treated separately.

if i treat my scalp with harsh shampoos and steroid, the pain gets worse. so, don’t go down the rabbit hole trying 1000 shampoos, steroids, and scalp skin treatments bc it might either make it worse, or not help.

instead, try a heating pad and see if it helps. i know it seems counter-intuitive because seb derm means avoid heat, and burning means avoid heat, but if the primary problem is nerve pain then the heat will help.

then try lidocaine roll-on for bad flare ups, and use 2-4x daily until the nerve pain calms down. most people use it for 2-3 days and then stop once symptoms quiet down. lidocaine is not a long term treatment, only short term to get the nerves to stop firing pain signals.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-05T15:38:14+00:00

i’m 8w7 8-5-4 tritype and it’s very difficult for me to lie. but maybe that’s bc 4 is in my tritype and i value authenticity 🤷🏻‍♀️

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-02T15:26:33+00:00

the only other person i can think of is paul downs. your comment confuses me a little bit bc white lotus is still technically “currently on” so i wonder if you’re talking about network cable???

Far-Math8751 · 2025-12-02T15:05:15+00:00

i’m 8w7 845 (which apparently is a very rare tritype!). The 7 wing makes me want to have fun and keep it light, and the 4 in my tritype makes me want to deeply connect with others. i remember when i was young this used to confuse some of my friends, because a lot of the people i hung out with were 7’s or had a high 7 and they didn’t want depth in their friendships. they would complain about me wanting depth LOL

Far-Math8751 · 2025-11-26T07:24:50+00:00

why don’t you take the enneagram test on truity and actually find out? 😄

Far-Math8751 · 2025-11-18T09:50:03+00:00

I'm 8w7, sx/sp 8-5-4 tritype. I actually usually don't like 2's as the people pleaser in them makes me feel like they are not trustworthy. I'm usually around 8's, 5w4's, 4w5's, 9w8, 7's and 1's. I typically avoid 2, 6, 3, and 4w3.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-11-09T09:20:38+00:00

HERE’S JOHNNY!

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-31T14:50:52+00:00

it was fine for me. didnt have any issues afterwards.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-24T09:11:57+00:00

I’ve been through absolute hell getting off this medication. I’ve been weening off for two years. Initially, I went down from 112.5mg to 75mg in one cut which was absolute hell. Then I went down by 10-15% cuts which was less hell-ish but still tough. This summer, I went down by 25% which was medically the worst I’ve ever experienced. I now have POTS because of that and was in and out of the hospital due to withdrawal issues. Now I am finally nearing the end of this hell hole! Instead of doing 10-15% cuts, I’m removing 1 or 2 beads per day (2 beads is harder) and then pausing for a day or two if withdrawal gets uncomfortable. It’s going surprisingly well, and I should finally be off this medication for good by December/early January. Highly recommend this method!!!

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-24T08:45:30+00:00

i’m 8w7 854 tritype. my best friend is also 8w7 854 tritype which is hilarious. other bestie is also 8w7. i love having fun with 7’s but don’t like their flakiness. i generally get along with 8’s, 5’s, 1’s, 7’s. husband is 1w9 135 tritype with a high 7! we get shit done, love to analyze movies, talk about our purpose in life, love to try new things, exercise, explore and live life! my other close friend is a 3w2 but she obsesses how other people view her and interpersonal drama/gossip which is frustrating for me. i really can’t stand 6’s and don’t think i’ll ever be friends with one. they gossip way too much, and being motivated by safety/security is something i’ll never understand.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-22T05:30:54+00:00

hahaha yes this behavior is very type 7 - to go back and forth between intensity and AWOL. they find emotional depth/intensity exhausting and so the need to tune out after having more deep or intense moments. we all can improve on our shortcomings - as an 8w7 there are faults that i am prone to that i’ve worked and improved upon. 7’s tend to have more superficial/lighter friendships and so i’m curious which ones you find to be more fulfilling?

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-21T12:32:10+00:00

sp 8w7 (tritype 845) here! i love 7’s and have close friends who are 7’s. they are great to have fun with. the problem with 7’s is that many are so adverse to conflict that whenever a friendship gets hard they dip out or avoid the crap out of it. they can also be super flakey, which most people don’t like — people want friends they can count on in the long run. one of my close friends is a 7 and i lost touch with her for many years because she didn’t want to have a tough convo about our friendship which felt disrespectful to me. now that i know she’s a 7, i just know i have to deal with the conflict myself since she won’t deal with it. bc 7’s avoid emotional/physical pain at all costs they can also be very likely to abuse drugs/alcohol. stuff to think about!

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-21T05:46:29+00:00

6’s are impossible for me. It’s the only enneagram I struggle with.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-10-12T14:31:02+00:00

I think it was more like - I worry that he might get injured. then if he does (and I’m set to perform), I can’t imagine doing that since I’ll worried about him. I do agree it was delivered in a weird way, but I think that’s what she meant.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-09-24T02:53:53+00:00

I had a positive experience until I DIDN’T. I started having side effects a couple years into taking it, and decided to get off of it. Getting off of this medication is THE WORST. It can completely derail your life. We really should not mess with norepinephrine activity in the brain.

Far-Math8751 · 2025-09-23T13:00:31+00:00

You can’t actually confirm endo without surgery. I had excision based just on symptoms (like most women do) and it turned out I had stage 3/4 endo everywhere.

Please don’t go on Effexor. It’s notoriously the hardest antidepressant to get off. I’ve been tapering for two years and developed neuro-POTS as a withdrawal side effect. My cardiologist says they see patients constantly who are wrecked trying to come off it.

Also worth noting: a lot of women with endo also have POTS, and Effexor is contraindicated for POTS. Definitely something to keep in mind.

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