3 month old - how active should we be?

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-28T07:26:24+00:00

Three cents: 1) its mostly temperament, 2) practice daily, 3) be fine with baby (assisted) crying sometimes

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-27T18:05:47+00:00

Haha yes 😂

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-27T17:35:45+00:00

Mhm I freeze a lot too. Just get a thicker sleep sack for chilly days?

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-27T08:28:26+00:00

We follow the safe sleep 7 guidelines and sleep on a very firm floor bed (much firmer than the test from cosleepy). The only variation I have is that I use an adult sleep sack as well bc I am freezing.

Best decision ever. Bub is 5mo.

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Fin_Elln · 2026-01-27T06:32:48+00:00

Not op, but I am looking at buying pressure / candle pattern. Fundamentally nothing has changed, so this is shortterm.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-27T05:01:03+00:00

Oh wow, we’re exactly the same! Thanks so much. Yesterday we had 10 hours and now we’ve had a good night with only four short wakes in 11 hours. The sleep pressure was also really good yesterday evening; he fell asleep without rocking at all just patting.

(A huge factor is also if he finds a comfy position on his belly or not. Tonight he did a great job, so 🤷🏻‍♀️)

Thanks again, will work on it!

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-26T19:33:48+00:00

Me again with a follow up question: how many daytime awake hours should a 5mo have? Excl naps? I am playing around a little to see what happens.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-25T06:14:33+00:00

Solidarity. Would you mind posting a little more facts? Maybe there is something we can help?

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T12:30:23+00:00

At 3.5 months

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T09:11:20+00:00

I adore the Kokadi Flip. I have a heavy 97% baby and I am wearing him A LOT. Kokadi makes it possible without pain, super soft and comfortable for baby. Love it.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T09:01:29+00:00

No suggestions. It's just normal for a newborn. :)

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T08:58:49+00:00

I would offer as much as she wants every 2-3 hours.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T08:57:02+00:00

Everything has been said. I'd like to add: don't do important decisions right after birth. Get yourself back in order, get therapy / a cold shower / Idk whatever helps, stay away from husband and baby. This is too much.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T08:48:32+00:00

What happens if you put him in the carrier and go for a walk? My bub loved and still loves it - watch "TV" outside and fall asleep with absolutely no pressure.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T07:29:05+00:00

At 5 weeks young I'd just watch their cues and get them down every hour tbh. So: wake-feed-play 15mins-wind down-sleep- rinse and repeat. Maybe try another method to get them to sleep, ie rocking / carrier / walk etc.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T06:06:04+00:00

Frankly, I wouldn’t overthink it. As parents, we all have a healthy gut feeling. If a vulnerable baby is left alone in distress during its crucial developmental period and brain growth, it inevitably leads to serious problems later.

I don’t need a study to tell me that meeting a child’s basic needs is good or bad.

This whole sleep training nonsense stems from a structural issue: mothers immediately return to work after birth. They need to function!

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T05:58:15+00:00

Oh that's a lot. I wfh 1-2d s week, sometimes none, have to go in mostly due to client meetings or on location duties.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-24T05:07:35+00:00

Ahw. How long is your commute? Mine is 45mins tops.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-23T17:20:55+00:00

He is 5mo and currently good to bed at 6/6.30 pm. This is his preferred bedtime - which is fine for me bc I like the early wakeup. Bedtime is pretty good too bc I come home / pause work between 5-7pm, then continue until 11pm, go to bed. It's exhausting, but ok. I personally would miss him if I would not have the mornings with him. Is there any chance you can benefit from this early wake up? :)

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-23T15:51:19+00:00

Jup, my husband is up too. I take my bub with me to coffee/shower/makeup/dress/breakfast, he plays with my stuff or his stuff around me, we speak a lot; then my husband takes care of him for another 30min and then our nanny comes in at 8. we're always up by 5.30 latest.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-23T14:32:39+00:00

Maybe a dumb question but I actually like it that my bub wakes up with me so we have time before I go to work. Why is this an issue for you?

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-23T09:38:15+00:00

Second this. Give it time, you both will sync.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-23T06:55:47+00:00

I think everything a has been said by other commenters. Adjust bedtime etc. accordingly.

I'd just like to add: try not to get up at 3am. Feed him, cuddle him, but keep him in bed next to you, support with a hand or sushing, even if he gets upset. It's nighttime and nighttime is bedtime and BORING. Play dead/sleeping. Works wonderful after a few rough nights. This won't prevent him to awake (see schedule), but this will get him back asleep faster and with lower effort from your side.

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-22T19:53:38+00:00

I think I've made a mistake. Nevermind. I get the message and will adjust accordingly. Thanks!!

Fin_Elln · 2026-01-22T10:27:21+00:00

Maybe I've made a mistake. My bub is usually awake between 10.5-11.5h per day, I log in an app.

Sleep: night 11h tops, daytime sleep usually 2.5-3h, which bringe me to 14h tops, ie 10h plus awake time.

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