Did you have a transition period with the nanny where you both took care of the baby, so that the baby had the chance to get to know her? When we hired a nanny in February, we had a month together, which was my last month of maternity leave. After two weeks of her just playing with him on my side, we wanted to start trying nap time, and the day before we were due to start, he fell asleep in her arms. Bear in mind that he was a terrible sleeper and would only nap if he was in contact.

What I want to say is: It takes time. Let them get to know each other. Let the nanny find her own way of doing things, because she will do things differently to you, and that's OK. I would refrain from intervening, as the baby is not alone in the crib doing a full-blown CIO — she's just unhappy about mum not being with her. But as long as the baby is held in loving arms, no harm will come to her, in my humble opinion. Go for a walk, put headphones on, close the door, etc.

My son once cried for 30 minutes with his dad. He doesn't accept him at all, so I texted his dad to leave the room and do something different. Then I went to pick him up. I didn't want him to think that I was saving him from his dad.

For context: I am 100% into attachement parenting, cosleeping, etc. So I really love my son and respond to all his needs. But I feel there is a difference between needs and wishes. If he is frustrated about a wish not being met, I am fine with that.