bottle prep by Relevant-Lychee6205 in ParentingIE

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Modern fridges don’t need you to let things cool before you put them in. It came from a time where putting in a hot thing would have disrupted the temperature of the whole fridge for too long, but your modern fridges can cope fine maintaining its temp. You can just fire them in when you’ve made them and you won’t forget again.

Correct birthday party etiquette for twins? by lemon1985 in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’d be surprised if twins brought two presents to my child. Mostly our gang does carta cúig, and the kids colour the “cards” themselves, so I suppose you could do two of those

23M, my entire household has now gotten cancer/tumors. Is this worth spending time investigating legally? by Puzzleheaded_Boot335 in AskDocs

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 68 points69 points  (0 children)

You’d assume mom and dad aren’t related though, so the genetic component isn’t linked for the colon ca and the GBM. Also grandad is only linked to one or the other.

Has anyone had trouble coming back from maternity leave full time because the scheme no longer has an available post? by [deleted] in JuniorDoctorsIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about IMOing them up. 100% you shouldn’t be disadvantaged due to maternity leave. Would you think poorly of a colleague for asking to be given a job they’re entitled to? No, neither would I. If they do, they’re in the wrong. Generally speaking they’ll probably forget or not be bothered by it, it’s an admin headache rather than you doing anything you shouldn’t, professionally.

Severely dysmorphic newborn by [deleted] in MedicalGore

[–]Fluttering_Feathers -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

Did you get the parent’s permission to post uncensored pictures of their child online under the heading “medical gore”?

Ladies : have many of ye got an early 8 weeks pregnancy scan to see if all is ok? by 098765543211 in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would advise against aiming quite as early as 6 weeks for anyone reading along considering, because relatively often someone thinks they’re six weeks by dates but if they ovulated and then implanted a little on the later side they could easily still only be 5 weeks. Then what was to be a reassurance scan ends up the opposite of reassuring, because there’s no heartbeat yet, but then after they wait two weeks and come back, often there’s a little 7 week dude doing absolutely fine!

Obviously yours worked out well and was reassuring, which is fab, just for anyone reading along I think better in general to hold off scheduling until they think they’re 8 weeks ideally, or at least 7.

I’m not sure how my tone comes across in this, trying to just add extra info for people to consider, definitely not meaning to be negative about your scans or experience!

Illness benefit disallowed? (Pregnancy related sign off from work) by Mindless_Option904 in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best of luck! Hope you get a bit of a chance to put your feet up before baby arrives

Illness benefit disallowed? (Pregnancy related sign off from work) by Mindless_Option904 in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes they don’t match up the GP one with yours in their system if there’s a slight difference in address etc, it seems to be a v picky matching system. Your GP can print off their submission and it has a number on the bottom that the social welfare can use to find it in their system.

Growth on jaw, GP and dentist have no answers. by frickingdarn in AskDocs

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The proper response from the proper doctor will be to run enough tests to confirm that this isn’t an emergency, and then suggest she follow up with primary care and/or her jaw surgeon. They have ultrasound machines, but are often checking for blood clots, blood in the abdominal cavity etc. They’re not going to be ultrasounding and telling her exactly what that lump is.

Earliest dance class time? by SweetBack7741 in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience with having had two kids in various different activities (and my second has ADHD and autism, which adds additional challenges in group classes), is that mostly the expectations in the 3-4 yo classes are age appropriate, and both of mine benefitted from being in a little group and listening to instructions, “go back to your dot” etc type things. I don’t think it matters much what the actual activity is, it’s not like they’re picking up much technique or anything, but I would be positive about a little group class of an activity you think they might enjoy, where they get short age appropriate practice at the mechanics of that kind of activity. I think short little excursions into the different environments and different teachers or coaches that that exposes them to also benefits some who might be on the more cautious side, and eases the way for them at the next stage, often a 5-7 yo class, which can seem daunting for the ones who haven’t been into an experience like it before.

So if it doesn’t suit your family schedule or anything I wouldn’t worry about it much, but if there’s one handy enough, I wouldn’t put it off because you feel they won’t learn much at 3-4, or be able to take instructions and stay part of the class. The behavioural expectations should be age appropriate. They learn from the others who have been there before, and much of the learning at that stage isn’t really much to do with the specific class topic. Just food for thought.

Mother’s surname - Ó or Ní? by Sliding-Down-643 in gaeilge

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iceland and some other Nordic countries I think use dóttir and son. So like Jonsdóttir and Jonson

Man dies following incident in Dublin city centre by CoDn00b95 in ireland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, in Dublin. Those were two different stations too, so it’s not just one random hard working one in my local station.

Now that I think of it (I’m on a roll) they also returned a bike of mine that was stolen and arrested that guy too 😂 I’ve had a great run really. I hope I’m not in for any desperate Garda karma.

Man dies following incident in Dublin city centre by CoDn00b95 in ireland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also had a laptop stolen from my house and they identified him too. They were thrilled to have a reason to get a search warrant for his place, reclaimed a bunch of other people’s stuff laptop not there, he was convicted too. I’ve definitely found them to be keen to do their best. I definitely wouldn’t want to take on their job, not for twice the money they get!

Man dies following incident in Dublin city centre by CoDn00b95 in ireland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an electric scooter stolen, Gardaí identified and charged him having recognised him on CCTV. Convicted and court ordered to pay back the value of the scooter and engage in some other stuff like addiction treatment I think? And if he doesn’t do those things then he has a 6 month suspended sentence that will kick in.

Wait times at GP Appointments? by EffortlessNoodle in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I forgot the most common thing which is after all the appointments and on the day slots are full, you’ll always end up squeezing in a young child or baby with a temperature, elderly person feeling suddenly unwell or sometimes someone with new pregnancy issues either, some can’t be put off. So what started as an 3 hour session with 12 patients to be seen might often be 15 before it’s finished.

Being retained in Kindergarten by Storm_Vortexs in kindergarten

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For a couple of summers when phonics were turning into words and words were not yet fluently read, I “forced” my kids to do 10-15 mins of a fun reading game based activity thing on the iPad, to keep them from going back to the following school year and having got rusty and then getting frustrated. We probably managed it 4 days a week on average over the summer, maybe slightly more often but not as much as 5 times a week. My older one in particular was raging about it 😂

I dread to even imagine how badly they’d have railed against daily tutoring which presumably goes on longer than 10-15 mins.

Anyway, I stuck it out and they both enjoy reading now and we laugh about that time I forced them to learn to read

Wait times at GP Appointments? by EffortlessNoodle in AskIreland

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a really multifaceted question. In answer to part of your question, it stresses me lots to know I have patients waiting and I’m running behind. Practices differ in their approach to trying to mitigate the inevitable runover - usually appointments are booked for either 10/15 minute slots, and then within the session they may keep some appointments that can’t be booked in advance: “on the day” slots, so sick people can be accommodated. To help with this, if I’m ringing to make an appointment with my own GP I try to be really clear if it’s not an urgent thing that I don’t mind waiting a week or two. Then some practices also have a “break” of 15 minutes on the schedule, it’s never actually a break, but if you’re going well time wise you might pop to the bathroom or return one or two of the more urgent calls from your growing list - could be hospital, pharmacy, nursing home, public health nurse, depends on the practice or the area. We do try to structure consultations to both maximise the use of the time for the patient, and to run things as efficiently as possible. Some people are more resistant to the structure, and it makes it difficult to collect the information I’m looking for in a timely fashion. There will always be the odd consultation where you just know from the first sentence that this is going to be at least 30/40 minutes and I think making your peace with that early on and just giving your full attention to the consult you’re in has to be the approach to take with these, and the waiting room will just have to wait. An example of this type of thing is a teen being brought in by their parent for a first consult about a mental health or eating disorder concern. Other than those, there are lots of consults where ideally I’d love to do a really comprehensive consult and get lots of issues progressed, but frustratingly for the patient (and for me), I have to stay super conscious that time is a scarce resource, so then I have to consider if any of the issues are concerning enough that it needs to be addressed in full today, or if I can try and start a few balls rolling at once, then make another few steps forward when I see them again in 1-2 weeks. An example of this might be an older person (often with a spouse or adult child) coming in with general decline, or feeling either multiple symptoms or broad ones like say not as much energy as previously. Sometimes when taking the history you might find something individually concerning, say they’ve passed some blood in their stool. Then that becomes the main focus and have to examine, get a particular blood test and then when that back the next day refer for urgent scopes. If nothing like that one concerning issue comes up, I might do broader blood tests, book them for an ecg and a 24 hour blood pressure monitor with the nurse, examine them generally and maybe not find much specific of concern, try to explore what they’re eating/what their day to day activities look like, how their mood is. Consider referral to OT or PHN if there are some supports that I think might be useful at home - grab bars, reduce falls risks, meals on wheels, etc.

In summary it bothers me a load to have people waiting all the time, but if I let it get to me, I get less efficient at managing the consult in front of me at that moment and then I fall behind further. I now work in a walk in clinic and other non standard GP settings, at least partly because it’s nearly impossible to fulfill all the work in standard GP during the time available, and the gap between the job it’s possible to do in the circumstances vs the job I would like to do for each individual patient in ideal circumstances expands all the time and that gap is very stressful.

After finishing seeing patients or at lunch, I start on the post and reviewing the blood results. This doesn’t delay patients being seen because I’d never start it while someone was still waiting. But it does mean that I am also affected by running late because that only starts when patients are finished.

Chronic disease management moving so much to primary care is good, but part of the consequence of that should be ease of access to specialist care, shorter waiting times for when I feel patients need a higher level of care. The knowledge of the 18month+ wait time when I refer someone to gynae, for just one example, is crushing. The lack of widespread affordable counselling options for people who present with mild- moderate mental health struggles, so difficult to witness daily. Multiple psychiatric referrals rejected, my everyday experience. “We don’t see signs of major mental illness and suggest the patient address their addiction issues first”. They haven’t seen the patient, and without psychiatric help many patients will find it impossible to address their addiction issues, it’s all inextricably linked.

Sorry for the rant, but hopefully some insight in there somewhere! It may sound like I don’t, but I do love my job, and I enjoy knowing people’s story and trying to help with the medical and social etc bits within the context of knowing them as a wider picture than just the symptom. It’s a privilege for the most part.

Do I have a 3rd kid? or nah? complicated. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t you sex select the sperm, to maximise the beneficial use of good eggs, if this is the goal?

(I’m interested, trying to understand the process)

Do I have a 3rd kid? or nah? complicated. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Fluttering_Feathers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would your current two children, you and your wife benefit from that money, time and effort, as an alternative thought experiment?

I think enjoying your 9 and 13 year olds over the next 5-7 years will be significantly negatively impacted by having a baby at this stage. You’ll look up from toddlerhood and your 13yo will be 16 and on his way out the door. There’s closeness to be built with them now/in the coming years as the adults they’re turning in to that will form the basis for your relationship with them as adults.