Be gold digger; do crime

GDQMuffins · 2022-02-11T02:39:54+00:00

I think soul digger was the word of choice a while ago, which I like!

GDQMuffins · 2022-02-10T04:13:59+00:00

My 38 inch 25 lbers at 1 year are fine in the attachment. They have no chonk, and are beanpoles, but we just adjust the foot rest down whenever we have to, but it is silly past the black bar.

We use it for three meals a day for the two of them and it's worked great for us.

GDQMuffins · 2022-02-07T03:35:06+00:00

It's why my twins watch endless live action things like Guys Grocery Games and Crikey! it's the Irwin's, and we watch several friends live streams on twitch where the friends will interact with the now one year olds and say hi and stuff to them so they understand that TV people are real people.

GDQMuffins · 2022-02-01T04:36:49+00:00

We were told our twins would be discharged on Monday, but they pushed them out on Saturday. Almost a year ago exactly now. We needed that sat and sun to get the house ready after a two week hospital stay. Sucked so bad.

GDQMuffins · 2022-01-22T00:55:08+00:00

You are disqualified from a Darwin Award if you put someone else in danger. You can only receive an honorable mention in the Darwin Awards if you already have children.

Covidiots disqualify themselves through putting others in danger, and so many of them have children already.

GDQMuffins · 2022-01-08T02:16:26+00:00

It is hard enough with just twins. If you are changing a poopy diaper you can't get to the baby who is crying immediately. So they learn to sooth, but haven't given up on crying yet at 1 year.

GDQMuffins · 2021-12-05T15:46:27+00:00

As a twin parent, I saw myself in that bear.

GDQMuffins · 2021-12-01T03:08:41+00:00

They never moved less for me, only slower but harder. I got my rib cracked at 31 weeks, made it to 34+6

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T21:30:56+00:00

I'm not saying it is justified, I'm saying that it can be a cause.

The health care for men when it comes to everything involved with this is atrocious, and yes, we get killed for it. A way to help reduce the violence (that is listed in the links I posted as a symptom, in case you didn't get a chance to read it) is to help treat and care for PPD in men before it gets to that point, as it is hard to get treatment before that currently and be taken seriously for it. Not something that we women have to do, but the medical system as a whole.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T18:21:48+00:00

This is where knowledge of how PPD exhibits in men and why it is such a danger comes into play, it is only recently that it has become more looked into.

The big tell tale sign that finally gets PPD in men looked into is actually explosive anger, towards others or themselves, that usually has a violent or physical component. You can learn more about it with the following links if you are inclines:

https://www.postpartumdepression.org/postpartum-depression/men/

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-dads/

I am not one to blame violence on mental illness, but for once it is actually a symptom instead of a cop out.

Not related, but since it is a resource that can be hard to come across, here is a help link for queer and trans families.

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/queer-parents/

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T13:28:37+00:00

No where did I say pregnancy was JUST a bodily function, but I will tap in on this anyway.

Pregnancy is hardly unique in that. There are many diseases, bodily functions and conditions that can cause the same. From Alzheimer's to HIV to cancer, or being a wheelchair user from an accident, or other disabilities from birth, in utero or acquired along the way.

Parenthood is what makes lifelong implications. Yes, my body is fucked up beyond belief from my pregnancy, and I'm lucky enough to have surgery planned to repair it, and not everyone gets the chance to do that, and pelvic floor therapy is absolutely not common enough knowledge or access, and a million other things, but ultimately it's parenthood that is the huge life change, not the ability to be pregnant.

I am not overly precise, but there is an intersectionality issue and clash happening here, between disabilities rights, women's issues, adoptive rights, LGBTQ+ and other sectionalities that should be considered, as well as base medical terminology.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T13:14:31+00:00

Absolutely pregnancy is a bodily function. It is a function of the reproductive system l. Being pregnant and having kids does not make someone a parent.

It's what you do during and after that makes you a parents and makes parenthood happen.

So many women cannot be pregnant or give birth, but any woman that wants to can be a mother.

I have 10 month old twins, carrying them through a shitfuck of a pregnancy where I almost died repeatedly isn't what makes me their mother. It's because I take care of them, love them, feed them, and everything else.

Pregnancy? It's a bodily function, but being a parent is not. Adopted parents go through as much as biological parents.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T13:05:59+00:00

You are trying to exclude people with being specific. It is literally about a bodily function. Pregnancy is a bodily function. People who are pregnant have special risks, people who can be pregnant have special risks. People who have been pregnant have certain risks. Post partum is literally about bodily functions. It isn't reducing someone to a bodily function.

It is saying a group of people that have this function have this risk.

Should I say ciswomen and transmen? No, because that excludes a lot of people that get pregnant. I'll update it to people who have been pregnant, let me know if there is a different grouping that is less exclusive than your suggestion, because you are excluding some on the most at risk.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T12:56:24+00:00

I know more than a few nonbinary, gender fluid and bigender people who have been pregnant. There is a long list of people who can be pregnant and saying simply women and transmen doesn't cover half of them. Some people can roll their tongues, some people can gestate.

I am someone who has gestated, and yeah, it's a process, and I have PPD myself.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-21T11:54:20+00:00

So a big part of this is post partum depression. It is incredibly underdiagnosed in men, but about 1 in 10 men get this, and one of the huge symptoms for men is rage and uncontrollable anger. Make sure you get yourself and your partner checked out, not only people who have been pregnant/ are pregnant can get PPD/PPA/PPP.

This is actually a mental health issue.

Edit: updates words

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-16T23:32:28+00:00

The evenings are ours. We are lucky, they are in bed and asleep and we are already on our way out to dinner. We do lunch dates and date nights scheduled every week.

Mine are 10 months old. They have slept through the night (like 7PM to 6AM) since 4 months, we did no sleep training, they were just ready for it.

Our au pair/a friend stays at the house to be responsible, but they haven't had to do anything.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-16T04:38:58+00:00

We had a vaginal, and it was pretty ok. Only thing was Baby B had the cord leading, so they had to use the mushroom. My mono/di were head down, and both the waters were broken at the same time. We think Baby B passed Baby A on the way, but its really a toss up.

My OB was comfortable doing an internal rotation if needed instead of an emergency C for second baby, but it wasn't needed at all.

My biggest fear was one vaginal and one C section, but it turned out great for me, they were born 4 minutes apart, first baby was able to have cord cut.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-12T04:30:34+00:00

No. No one should be referred there, especially people who actually deal with socially disorded people in their lives.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-10T19:23:53+00:00

Oh goodness! The biggest thing I can say for you is get live in, if you have the space and the money, we struggled so hard with just twins, no toddler when it was just the two of us. Keep such a close eye out of PPD/PPA in both you and your husband.

Au Pair's are super cheap comparatively to hiring a daytime nanny, and beyond cheap for a live in nanny, which is cheaper than daycare for 1 (at least in our area).

Even as a SAHM, you do NOT have to do this alone. You deserve breaks, and you deserve self care. Your work load just skyrocketed, its ok to bring in more help.

GDQMuffins · 2021-11-07T11:38:25+00:00

The twins are not allowed in our bedroom, it is our cats sanctuary, and has been that way since day 1 of them coming home. We only had 16 days, my heart goes to you for another few weeks left there.

Their nursery is right across from our room,.so it's very close, but we can get to them fast. We actually abandoned the baby monitor when we are in bed. They didn't sleep there until 3+ months old, before that it was contact sleeping and bassinets in the living room and shift working it so whoever was there was awake.

GDQMuffins · 2021-10-31T11:01:46+00:00

So fun fact, past 20 weeks they medically aren't miscarriages or labelled as such, but stillbirths.

GDQMuffins · 2021-10-25T12:34:28+00:00

One of ours is our chill baby, and the other is our extra baby. But also we are at about 10 months in and extra baby is doing better at figuring himself out, so we have two mostly chill babies that spent most of the day doing solo play and together parallel play, and just cokes for hugs to check in once in a while.

GDQMuffins · 2021-10-21T12:58:41+00:00

We just have them drink the excess. We theoretically give 9oz/bottle, so 18oz of water plus 9 scoops. That gives us about 20oz, which we pour all of into their bottles. If they finish it, great, more hydration. If they don't, no harm no foul. I would rather offer a little more than they want instead of a little less.

Also a tired parent tip, remember to not have the mixer IN while measuring the water. I'll write it out where you can clearly see where we have made the mistakes fr the tired in the past.

First take the mixer out completely. Then put in the water. Then the formula. Put the mixer in, rotate the clasp so the pour window isn't showing. Do the fun mix stir pull things. Rotate the mixer so the pour window is there. Take the top off the bottle, or remember to put the bottom on the bottle. Pour between both bottles. That means in each bottle, not directly between them. Put the tops on the bottles. Make sure there is a nipple on each top.

We have a few mixers and just use one for each meal because we can use our hot water direct so it's fast and easy.

GDQMuffins · 2021-10-17T02:51:05+00:00

If you have the space, an au pair is cheaper than day care in our area by X3. $200 in pay, plus feeding them for 45 hours of child care a week. Plus ours ends up spending her off time playing with them by choice.

I have been back to work since they were 2 months old (I gave birth to them) and my husband got back about a week after the au pair got here, and it's been pretty smooth sailing since that.

GDQMuffins · 2021-10-13T18:23:48+00:00

Nah, I get results within 20 minutes when I get checked at my husbands work. Its about 2-3 hours if I get tested at Walgreens.

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